| Show PROPOSAL FORMULA l SOUGHT BY YOUTH J WHO FEARS ANSWER I. I t By BETTY BLAIR i i I Have marriage proposals gone out of date Ask who wh has had the marital knot tied within the past two decades decade how he popped the question and ten to one he hc wont won't know There was as no set formula They just understood one ani another an an- i other It just happe happened ed and there I was was Arc Are some o othe of j the vague answers received to the question How did you t l' l pr propose pose r Dear Miss Hiss Blair I I 1 i have h been going wi with h a girl i for tor six si months I am 25 5 years old and have e taken girls out since I was 16 but this is the first girl rl I have bave ever thou thought ht lii Ii Li of proposing marriaGe marriage mar mar- to 0 Other t b e r I girls I have bave gone goneI one I with have bave all had a clever line and were I good pals in for a Iu I good time but I have never thought of them as anything anything anything any any- thing but girls to take out This girl Is different She hasn't I 7 what you would call a clever line at least she doesn't try to make wise cracks at everything I say But she does docs have e ideas about i almost everything of interest She has a keen wide awake mind about everything that is going o oI on In the world SIZe She is widely read I If I f j and knows art and music She Is the most interesting girl I have ever met one whom any ny man would be proud to call his wife and to introduce to his friends But Im I'm in a spot I dont don't know whether she thinks of me as a possible husband If she docs does she is very clever in keeping her ber thoughts concealed Im I'm on the verge of a proposal and I dont don't lc know lenow ow how to come through with It If 1 I J. were more confident of J her ber feelings it wouldn't bo so hard Ive I've always thought I could just say nonchalantly to a R girl Lets get tied or something to toi i that effect and not let Jet it trouble me but I r couldn't say that to this this' girl Please help me out SPOT You ou mean you want me e to help you in I imagine many man a young man has longed for a set formula that wasn't exactly a return to th the thc theold old days when a a man dropped on one knee beside the young lady took her hand in his looked up into i. i her bel eyes and said in pleading accents accents ac ac- ac cents Darling will you be mine 1 yet was something definite on which he could depend in a pinch like yours To propose with wiUf nonchalance to be the set method thou though h there are arc no predetermined words Ive I've asked half haifa halfa a dozen married men men how they proposed to their wives and not one of them can tell meOne me One man suddenly realized something something some some- something thing unusual was happening to him and that he was standing before before bel be be- l fore the altar saying saing I do and I 1 will Another just took it for granted and finally asked the girls girl's father thereafter asking her to settie settle settle set set- tle tie the date on which the event was to occur Another paid 2 down on ona ona ona a ring took toole it to the girl and said How do you like Jike it 1 She liked It and that settled that And the others just couldn't remember And this makes me wonder If Jf only in stories and the movies there Is an any longer an actual time of two declaring they are henceforth to pool all their Interests under the marriage contract And after all what is the use of words between two people who realize they belong to each other and that no other could fill the bill There is a language lan Jan guage of feeling that emanates from each to the tho other that is never truly verbalized Yet each knows as well as he knows he lives Jives that here bere is his lifes life's companion All AU of which h if It this be bo true leads m me to suspect you are not yet ready to propose Of course one doesn't have a proposal understanding without steps of preparation There are subtle ways wa-'s of letting another know the depth of your feeling It Is fervor a-fervor that adds a glow to all the common interests you have to to- to gether But with the spring and a new moon noon with a lone star hanging beneath beneath beneath be be- be- be neath it you should be able to make her understand the depth of your feeling for her and to elicit a tenderness ten ten- on her part though it be no nomore nomore nomore more than that unmistakable look In her eyes FRIEND DISAPPOINTS Dear Miss Blair I belong to a club of girls who are really trying to do something worth while for ourselves We Ve have started a reading course we sew one week and have a program of music one week and with the reading for which ve we use two weeks that takes care of at four meeting days das in the month Whenever there is a month with witha a fifth meeting we have a party and invite our boy friends I wanted to change the music day to a day of studying psychology psychology as only one or two of us arc are musical and all of us could be Interested in in n adolescent psychology ogy ogy The girl irl I depended on to help me put this Idea over talked around secretly to the girls and I got them to vote against it At first she was all for my ray way of thinking and then as soon as she found out another girl in the club was against it she changed her J Letters questions and requests for Tor advice ad should be addressed to MISS 1 BETTY BEITl BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN VEN TilE THE TELEGRAM SALT SAIT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It Is necessary that you append the he right name and address but bot these will vIll be held in strict confidence confidence dence and will not appear in print Questions involving ln advertising Information information information in In- formation cannot be answered I f mind too This other girl is a avery avery avery very popular girl She has a beautiful home and plenty of nice clothes and knows lots of nice people eople and my friend just falls for or that sort of thing and has no mind of her own She always has hasto hasto to o find out what this particular girl thinks before she knows what she thinks And if iC she happens to o make male a mi mistake and state her mind before she has found out what this girls girl's opinion is she pretends she has never thought any other way This certainly |
