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Show WHAT DO YOU THINK? Deterrents To Happy Childhood Adjustment At Home OSCAR J. Ill LET Last week we turned the spotlight on school room practices which make children unhappy. Today wc should like to look at home practices prac-tices and relationships when make children rebellious and miserable. Of course your children have food to eat and clothes to wear. They have a bed to sleep In and money to spend. But do you know how they feel inside about yi.u, as parents, par-ents, and about their homelilc in KCIHT.ll? Do you compare one child with another? Hecaine Mary leads with ease do you make Jane miserable because ."-he doesn't? Do ycu tell John, who is always making things and keeping the hou.se and yard in an uproar that you wished he would sit still as Mary does? Children have diversified inter-1 , rsts. Their individuality should be respected. Do you threaten? If a child cannot do some things no amount of punishment will enable en-able him to accomplish them. Have you ever said you would beat your child it he weren't promoted? Do ycu expect the impossible? Do you know that children mature ma-ture at different rates and at different dif-ferent ages and along different llr.es? Well, then, you mast knew that certain things are impossible for everyone. It ts also undesirable for everyone to do everything. Give the child a break! Do you offer rewards for achievements achieve-ments beyond your child's ability to accomplish? Your offer of a saddle for all A grades In spelling will on ly make Bill more miserable If he honestly cannot spell. A wrist watch won't make Alice a better reader when she Is reading her very best now. Do you criticize the school or teacher In the presence of your child? If ycu do you are confusing Inn and making it impossible for the school or the teacher to help him. Teachers welcome conferences with parents. They are anxious to cooperate with you for the best Interest of your child. They do not welcome criticism which they get "via the grapevine". Are you broad-minded broad-minded and fair enough to get the whole story? Do you follow through to acquaint yourself with the facts? Arc you absolutely sure you are fair when you pass Judgment? When you see your child Is not adjusting well, do you as parents take particular care and Interest in his physical health? Is his diet full of those vital body-buldlng clement that make an alert Intellect. Does he have the proper amount of rest, or is he allowed to stay up and listen lis-ten to the radio? Is your child's home life happy, or Is there neglect, neg-lect, quarreling, and unhappy experiences ex-periences In the home which are disturbing his nervous system and making him an Insecure, pathetic, frustrated child. Are you as Interested Inter-ested In your children as you are In the social life that surrounds you? Are you at home enjoying your children and thraning them In fundamental fun-damental principals, or are ycu leaving them at home with a babj sitter night after night while you are out trying to find social succses? Parents, It's up to you to make the child healthy and happy at home, and the school will try to do Its share. |