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Show if Er'IC',lLL'Y cvcry 0110 idniircs candor I fnfl dptc'3ts deceit; practically few persons ausoiate frankness from their friends. 2jT I !WCr sm nre wh0,1y Of-'" and aboveboard "jjja J In all their acts and aaylngs. Neither is it I desirable that they should be; concealment, rtlS jtfiloti. is the law of life, the surest prompting of r tho sake of self-preservation. But conccal-3P conccal-3P jot always deceit, still less Is it to bo classed as " Finished hypocrites aro rare, and wholesome gfi la not an Infrequent virtue. Sincerity, however, -iP i101 brutal plain-speaking. It behooves us V&L r Noughts, as well as our persons, in decent 5 Wing garb, lest wo shock thoso whom wo wish Manncr. which "makcth man," continually jo cover up our truo opinions, to bo polite to tyi L wo havc no lovc "or liking: to restrain oxnrosslon of affection for those whom wc t t0 b(?havo ourselves seemly, and with duo sij j$ the proprieties. f Palaco of truth," it ouch un odlflcc could poaal-ej poaal-ej would bo a place whoro nono could dwell In 0& U any otner man or woman. Thero could be r ? orrcno If every one told cvory one else unvarnished truth, expressing their inmost m 4 thoughts without reservation. To get along comfortablv with other people ono must put one's self in another's place, must endeavor to mastor that other's point of view, agree therewith,. If possible, or disagreeing, not to contest con-test It unless it be obligatory for conscience sake. Because Be-cause It is true thut "a man may smllo and smile, yet bo a villain," it docs not follow, ot course, that smiles aro the Inseparable livery1 of wickedness and double dealing, deal-ing, still loss that of a frowning face must be accepted as unfailing evidenco of sincerity of heart and purpose. Thorc are numborlesB occasions which arise In dally life and conversation when politeness In the sense of cour . tesy and kindness, quite apart from its aspect as a matter mat-ter of policy, consists In no small degree in concealing, ono's feelings, from consideration for the feelings of others. The early Christians were advised to bo "all things to all men," as part of their religious duty. Therefore There-fore those who cry out against women as hypocrites and deceitful because they understand and practice tho art of making thomsolvos agroeable, and win hearts by their powers of charming, are both foolish and unjust. The fascinating persons, against whom tholr strictures uru directed, would) be by far moro to blamo If, Instead of striving to please, thoy went their way regardless of oth-t oth-t ers, and disputed with all whoso opinions upon any subject sub-ject ran counter to their own. No man has any right to accuse n woman of duplicity dupli-city simply because she treats him with unfailing courtesy, cour-tesy, accepting his attentions graciously, provided thoso attentions aro not too pointed, yet says "No" when ho asks her to mnrry him. In the first place it is her duty to bo polite to all man; In tho second she has no wurrant for concluding that any man Is hor lover until he, himself, him-self, tells her so. Also, a woman may like a man thoroughly, thor-oughly, may admire him In many respects, yet havc no desire to trust hor llfo to him. She may find him a pleasant partner for a dance, yet bo bored by too much of his conversation: she may like to t.ilk with him and enjoy his society, yet not bo tho least bit In love with him It Is the natural order of things that there should bo few women to object to attentions from prcsentablo and agreeable men. It is not pleasant, for example, to pose as a wall flower, to be unable to dance, because no man has asked ono. and, while good tnntc forbids that a well bred woman should peek ouch attentions, hor good breeding compels her gracious acceptance of them. That slie does so accept them is in no wlso to bo Interpreted ns a tacit confession of affection on hor part any moro than the payment of them Indicates serious matrimonial Intentions. There are certain things which society, with a big S, exacts of all Its members. When any person, man or w.oman, is a guest In a house, whether for an hour, a day, or longer. It is the bounden duty of such person to mako all possible effort to contrlbulo to tho pleasure of tqe other guests, collectively and individually. In feudal days, when, ns sometimes happened, deadly enemies met under the roof of a mutual friend, the binding law of respect for hospitality compelled them to keep their swords in sheath while that roof sheltered them. Noblcs, thirsting for ono another's blood, observed stately courtesy, cour-tesy, each to each, until the ,uoutnil territory was left. The same principle holds good unto the present day; it Is but common politeness to veil dislike and lay aside all manifestations of animosity when ono moots one's pet aversion at a dinner or a dance. If one goes Into society one must play tho game, and It Is no small part of that game to play the agreeable to disagreeable people. And if this Is the commandment where there is actual enmity en-mity how much more may one bo expected to smllo and be pleasant when those whom one is called upon to entertain en-tertain provoke no unfriendly sentiment, but give pleasure pleas-ure in return. Only crass Ignorance or egregious vanity will attach undue Importance to such attentions, will accept ac-cept the counters of the game as gold coin, and insist upon passing them as such. Since the dawn of philosophy It has been an acknowledged ac-knowledged convention that polite fictions, which deceive no one. aro not to bo counted as lies. One docs not brand tho clover novelist as an arch deceiver. When the polished pol-ished Spaniard assures his casual guest that his liouso and ovorything within It are at his, tho guest's, disposal, that guost would be sorely lacking In savolr falre, not to say common sense, did he suppoao for a moment thatthe assurance was aught save hyperbole, an ornate figure of speech expressing cordial welcome. One need not hold with Talleyrand that language was Invented ns a moans of concealing thought, but tho codo of civilization insists upon It as the accented modo of clothing Ideas, which might bo repulsive If pre.se.nted In prlniitlvo nakedness. Especially does it bosecm a woman to maintain a wiee and docoroua reticence In speech and behavior toward all men. to say nothing of most women. How- PPH over much a man may court a woman's favor, seek her IPPH side, she has no right td rogard him -as a suitor until h IPPH actually sues; to discourage him until ho shows his In- IPPPJ tentlons too plainly to be mistaken It is a far cry from lPH womanly modesty to hypocrisy, and to confound the. two PPPJ is folly past excusing Custom and discretion rigidly for- IPPPH bid a modest maldon openly to show her preference for IPPPJ any man above all others. She may feci such preference. IPPH alas, "hearts nre like steeds which refuse to answer to PPPJ bit and bridle," but if sho has faced tho secret of her ppH own she will mount guard over herself unceasingly let PPPH word or look may betray hor before tho man whom she PPPH loves has told her "the old, old story," and asked her to PPH be jPPPPJ And. upon the other hand, no man has the right to PPH mako sure of any woman until ho has proposed to her ppH and been accepted. However much she may seem to like PPpi him. ho Is not justified in assuming that she loves him JM until she says so, to take it for granted that sho Is ready IH and anxious to drop into his arms as soon as he extends lpppi ihem. Such an attitude of mind shows that tho love jpppB has an exceedingly high opinion of his own powers or ppppj that tho woman has been tho reverse of coy. No man ppppj who is wlso will let any women whom ho wishes to win pppB see that he makes suro of her consent. No woman likes jpppj to bo taken for grunted in this fashion. It frequently rouses a spirit of onposltlon In her, and In an accoss of willfulness sho mav deliberately wound her own heart H H in ordor to convince her too confident lover that she la loss In lovo with him than ho tlatters himself. Hor prldo takes alarm, and sho refuses tho offor which 3he yearns njBJBJBJJ to accept In ordor to vindicate her sclf-rcspecL |