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Show The Family Cannot Be Scrapped tin? LLami'y Ca?not te trapped in a changing civiliza-FrV?T civiliza-FrV?T " d0eS 100 many things t well, says Dr. SUViSUing Profe"or of child and family studies at Weber State College. mtak;pf?CcUS.Started his career as a Methodist " nt0mo' Tex- gati to concentrate on KlTnSe',!n8' then ot a dotor's degree in on m3 Penology and moved into a specialization on marriage and fami ly therapy consinl,00?6 ,0,WSC by Way of the University of Wis- tout where he helped establish a master's ET u l counselng. and Brigham Young "TIT V he Was a visitin Pfo'eor in family counseling last year. tiy ?rovides a settin8 for the necessary -intimacy of adults, for the development of children and for Oie many other things which go to make satisfactory and developmental living. - Other substitutes, even in a changing society, just don t work and the family "needs fo be taken more seriously, well worthy of study and planning and development, Dr. Bockus believes. IN FACT, families and family living are so important mat we mustn t leave a young couple with only the skills they have learned from their own families, some of which may be faulty. "We've never given the family the chance it deserves to do what it can," he says, adding that all the good things relating to the family just won't happen, but need help and development. DR. BOCKUS is full of concern for the "explosion" of family formations which will come with the 1980s when the children from the post World War II-Korea war period reach marrying age. One of the obvious problems is going to be economic How with inflation, are they going to be able to get the required housing, furniture, and other things which are basic to family life? THE SCARCITY of housing will be one of the major factors which almost surely will continue the two-paycheck family. Readjustments can be strenuous for two young people who have both had their own vocations and their expensive expen-sive sports cars when family responsibilities come. HE IS concerned about "split-level families" where the children are reared by television and their peers, but still need their parents as primary models. Dr. Bockus sees the coming "family explosion" as helping to bring a renewed interest in religion because the new parents very likely will want to have their children adopt the moral values which most religions try to inculcate. "PEOPLE," HE says, "are hungry to put religious standards back into the family." Sex, money, in-laws, and the other traditional sources of conflict in a marriage are often only the tip of the iceberg. THAT IS, the couple may be having difficulties of some other basic kind which show up as sex problems, alcohol addiction, or quarrels over money. Couples with effective communications skills are able to ride over such things. Increasingly effective communication is essential as a couple lives together through such experiences as pregnancy, preg-nancy, the first child, illness, death, loss of a job, etc., he - nelievps . - , . , , , - - |