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Show Social Amenities for the School Girl pv O not cry over spilt milk is an' I ) oxcellen' little motto to bear in mind. While there is still chance nf a matter being prevented or helped Ihen jt is worth while struggling over to tho full extent of one's power, but wheu there is no longer anything further to be done about it the only sensible part to play is to accept the situation as gTace-lully gTace-lully ns possible. It is the people who arc always harklui back who are always saying. "Now, if that had not been done all would have been well," or continually muking remarks re-marks in that strain who are so very unpleasant as companions. There is no more unpopular Seing in the world than ho who continually says "I told you to," and it is the element of "I told jon so" in the girl or woman who is forever mourning over the unalterable which is so intensely disagreeable. Once the deed has been done it is well to take it cheerfully cheer-fully ; or if that is too much to demand, at least say no more of it and let the matter drop from then on There is no disappointment so great that in looking back upon it one docs not wonder at the amount of heartburn it tniiseit. Thero may be grief which it will take the soothing influence of many years to quell, but there is no disappointment disappoint-ment which involves only the pleasure of a few hours, or perhaps a few days at iiiom. which is worth the euergy of being be-ing disagreeable about. l ife is too short. nd while oue is still young habits of ill temper over slight occurrences hio too aly formed for a girl to allow herself tho luxury of exhibiting ill Daturo ou any occasion whatever, and no matter what the excuse. Kut worse even than a temporary outburst out-burst of temper id it to occept a disappointment disap-pointment quietly and apparently well, and then, brood over it, and bo disagreeable because of it ft.r pur ha pa days to come, l'his lust is also a distressingly easy habit to fall into and will do much to injure and ruin an otherwise fine character. 'the "Chnstiau martyr" attitude is another an-other failing to be carefully guarded against. To be fine, perhaps, but uo fioer, than one should bo by rights nuder any provocation, hut to give it to be understood under-stood lhat one la not autlicieutly appreciated appre-ciated hy those at home this Is the attitude at-titude of the so called "Chnsrian martyr." , l'hia person really enjoye oTJIog tho fine 'action or giving up the envied treat for I the mere pleasure of approbation from outsiders. I As great a mistake as to wail over what cannot be helped is it to worry over what may, nnd perhaps never will, lcfall. How mony girls, for example, worry themselves almost sick about some dance at which' thry fear they will not have a good time? In all probability they will have the best lime of their life, or, perhaps, at the lastj moment something may occur to prevent! Ihe dunce coming off at a'l. A large mn- jorliy of matters which nre most worried; lover 111 this world do not amount to any- thing when the time comes, nnd a tremen-i idous amount of menial strength has beeo wasted unnecessarily. The best cure for worrying about things that probably will not matter much anyway, any-way, nnd also for brooding over what is past and does not matter at all, is to live jjust as much us ifossible iu the present. Don't allow the fleeting joy of the mo- 'ment to be damicucd by thoughts of what; might bnve been or what may come. The past is already dead, nnd there will bej greater happiness in store than any fan. that might have taken place had not some-j ihing occurred to prevent. Let tho future take care of itself. Al- low only the happy pans of Ihe past to' be remembered and look always for brightness iu the present. If only whut! is pleasant is commented upon this will i bo the part that will staud out, whereas' if the disagreeable is continually brought1 to notice it can quickly overshadow all' else. Cheerf uIuckx U h much to be envied quality, but a "bright and bunny nature" Is not auch without effort, and often considerable con-siderable effort. The possessor of a sunny disposition always looks ou the bright side. She says inwardly, "What cau'i bo cured must bo endured cheerfully," audi she sets herself diligently to look for what! is funDy nod will amuse others as well as herself. Every ouo kDowa the story of Lot's wife because shu paused to look back and feivo a moment's regret to all Um happiness happi-ness she wss leaving behind her she wus turned into a pillar of salt, an impediment impedi-ment in the roud. Tho moral in this tale Is worth remarking, that whoever stops to regret what is past am can't be helped become at once a worse than useless member of the community. |