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Show Your Baby Informal Parties Help 14-Year-Olds Gain Poise Br BYETLE MEYER ELDREO Our Frea leaflet, "Group for Adolescent! Which Foster Normal Social Growth," may be had by sending a ¢ stamped, sell-addressed sell-addressed envelope with your letter to Mrs. Eldred of the your ' baby and mine department In care of The Salt Lake Telgram. J Parents worry when their child's -'. , behavior differs in any way from " ' the ordinary. They worry if their daughter acts boy crazy too soon ,-'J , and lust as much if she Isn't boy- ' crazy at all. But parental desires . N can't work the miracle of change. V Growth Itself Is chiefly responsible X for a girl's emotions toward the A opposite sex and growth cannot be pushed, merely cultivated. Mrs. R. D. Is worried about her 14-year-old daughter who Is a nice-looking girl with the average nice clothes to wear. "Wo have an attractive home and her father and I are very cooperative about her entertainments. She belongs to Camp Fire, goes to Sunday School and has been a member of a girl's club which until recently had lots of good times together. "Mow, most e. tfce- glrie ier Mt club are boy-crazy and talk of nothing else. My daughter does not seem ready for this and is miserable when she goes to these parties. I feel that If she refuses now, shortly they will not ask her. Oa the other hand, I am afraid to Insist for fear she will begin to hate dancing and the companionship com-panionship of boys. "My daughter seems disgusted with these girls and while I do not crave having her stay out late, I do want her to have normal good times. I don't want to talk to the neighbors about this but do feel the need of advice." Be patient If she Isn't ready, you can't hurry her. She will catch up with the girls once the desire to be noticed and liked by the opposite op-posite sex comes from within herself. her-self. But don't encourage her to be contemptuous. Explsin that when girls first discover how much fun it is to have boys at their parties they do grow a little foolish about it This Is a passing phase, for girls get over the novelty of such association and aren't so silly about it Meaawhlle, help her to plan small parties at your home, with each of her girl friends bringing one boy and your daughter In- whom she feels comfortable and at ease. Taffy-pulls, popcorn pops, wclner roasts are the type of parties which keep the whole gang busy and prevent that paralysing shyness which descends on young persons thrust into formal parties before they have acquired social poise. At such parties she'll lose her fear of boys and acquire enough of the current, slang twaddle to be able to hold her own with the rest of her friends. |