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Show I BH SOCIAL AMENITIES FORlf H ' THE SCHOOL GIRL H IT was at a polo game recently at one of the big country clubs that a young I girl nmong the spectators saw a boy of her acquaintance. And. obviously to the disapproval of some older womeu about, the girl called across a dozen or more other persons: "Hello, Neddie!" To which "Neddie" replied in kind, and then they waved hands at each other. A woman of fifty who had henrd the greeting sighed a little. "This is what is making our young people criticised nowadays. Do you think that when we were' sixteen years of ago our mothers would have permitted us to 'hello' across a group of persons to a boy of eighteen years of age? I wouldn't have the old tlmca come again when girls and boys were prigs, but I do wish they would remember that there is a happy medium between prigglshncsa and rowdyism!" row-dyism!" There is no doubt that the younger generation is coming in for a good deal of criticism now from their elders for what our grandmothers would have called "lack of elegance." The whole matter really was expressed in the comment of the older woman at the polo game; there is a medium between rowdyism and prig-gishuess, prig-gishuess, and girls who reach it have an attraction which amounts to charm. If a girl might have a choice as to whether hu would be pretty or charming, bhe would show wisdom in selecting to lie the latter. A pretty girl is attractive to sec, but unless she has other qualities she 1 polls painfully very Kn Wlth charm she never grows dull and alwuys will be iu demand, mid there Un't a vestige of doubt that pretty manners form a largo 'element of cliarm. I It isn't being priggish to speak quietly to avoid attracting attention in public places; and ll docs come perilously near to being vulgar to make oneself the centre of attention among stranger, simply bj being noisy. One wouldn't for an instant have a girl use formality of manner with tho boy friends whom he has known all hcr life, but she Isu'i quite na attractive, own lo them, wlen she acts with them as if she were another boy. By the Ume a girl has heroine sixteen veara of nge it la borne In upon her that she is" a cirl ; and there is hardly one who would uot be very cros3 with a boy a year or so older who forgot that she wasn't one of the boys- Sometimes she lets bcr boy chums go ou an "equal"' basis until suddenly, much to the surprise of one, she takes offence at something he docs, that he lias done many times before, nud "gots stuffy," as he is likely to say. lie adds, too, with superior masculine wisdom, that 'all girls aro queer," and tries to reinstate rein-state himself or lets the girl alone according to whether his liking for her is real or not. Frequently neither realize It ls lack of politeness which has caused the trouble. Even Iu these days of social freedom it is better form for a girl to avoid familiar- lity of manner with boys of her own nge and older. She w ill be liked just as much. 'if uot more, by the boys if she exacts by her own manner a little politeness from them. A woman who has a daughter seventeen years of ago haa sent the girl to Europe this summer with an aunt, that the daogh-ter daogh-ter might not be brought into the social life of the very smart summer rc6ort where their place is situated. The mother's explanation to the girl's father was that it woufd be impossible to keep the girl away from the casino and tho country club and always to refuse the invitations that their daughter would have. And In manner eo omphalic as to he final the mother declared she would not have their child act as and do some of the things she snw other girlB of their set do The mother of this very pretty girl had I been observing her daughter's friend the i summer previous. Only the week before, on Snturday afternoon, she had won n group of girls anil 1ks from sixteen to eighteen years of ago on the country club piazza Two of the girls were in great arm chair, which they tipped bnck lo lean againnt the wall, their feet dangling conspicuously. Two others were elouched in their chnio. while on the arm of (he chair of a fifth girl was sitting a boy who had Just been presented. On a table wore, tall glasses of various mixed, drinks, straws iu all. and while all he drinks were harmless enough not one looked it. There was n general atmosphere of lack of breeding, increased because all tbc boys and girls wero talking and laughing so that all about could hear. "And w'e don't want Margery to do tliat sort of thing." the mother concluded, describing the scene to her husband. "Manners" make for charm; there is no doubt of it, A little reserve and avoidance of familiarity are good form and attractive. A girl who carries herself well when she walks, not slouching, but with shoulders back aud lieud up, i more pleasing than one who slouchos and leuns as she moves. "How do you do?" or "Good morning" nro greetings preferable to "Hollo.,'' A well bred, well mannered girl Isn't a. prig, but is popular with those of her own nge as well ns with her older, aiul ,i Uttle formality lengthens friendships, , |