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Show 10W Te Salt Her fiance graduated from Colora- Sunday, July 15, 1984 Lake Tribune Through madness youll be saved mutter. You should hear me when Im really angry. I have staring contests with my dog. He never loses. By Leo F. Buscaglia, Ph.D. I believe that deep, down inside were all a little crazy. Its this madness that saves us. Some of us hide it better than others, but it isnt always i I practice conversation before going on a date. Sometimes Ill even easy to suppress. In my Love 1A class one of my fa- practice my casual lecherous laugh. vorite activities involved asking I have some very large white rocks in my back yard, which I sometimes sit on. I flap my arms and pretend Im a chicken. (OK, maybe this person needs a little professional help.) I like to sing at the top Im driving. lungs while of my I like to create wild sandwiches snacks. For example: for late-nigcheese, tomatoes, bologna, pickles, catsup and peanut butter. I talk to my dog and cat and I know they understand every word I say. Its wonderful because they never talk back. ht Clearing up career mistakes the students to list things they do that might be consid-ere- d strange, silly, goofy, etc. No names were required and complete candor was encouraged. I told them to think about it for a while before writing. It was great fun to watch as inspirations came to them. A sudden roar of laughter over here, a chuckle over there, hands discreetly covering papers. It soon became apparent that no one was at a loss for material. Later I collected the papers and read them to the class. Two things were accomplished in one simple assignment: Artificial formality in the class was stripped away, and we were drawn closer in the process. Its comforting to learn that we ail do outrageous things. Its also pretty funny. The more we heard, the more we came to see a vital connection between us as hu man beings. Examples of Nuttiness I saved a few examples. Perhaps you can recognize yourself in one of them: Sometimes when Im alone in my office, I wad papers and pretend Im back on the basketball court. There are three seconds left in the game and I fake . . . shoot . . . and into the basket to win the swish game! I even provide my own cheers from the crowd. I talk to myself. Mostly I just By Joyce Lain Kennedy Dear Joyce: Despite good references, an unfortunate chain of events has led to my being tarnished with an image of negative career success. My degree is in business marketing. I have concentrated on retail sales and manage- ment. Approxi- mately three years ago, I was employed in Arizona when I resigned to take a position with a large, family-owne- d operation that was my previous employers competition. After a year, my new employer filed for Chapter 11; the family was in and I was out. I moved back to my home state of Colorado but by then the recession was jarring the job market here. It was six months before I became reemployed and worked for six months when I was laid off for the third time. No Suitable Employment Since, I have not been able to find suitable employment. Each time I have interviews, all seems fine until we reach the job stability issue. Regardless of my letters of recommendation, the interviewer seems to turn off at my triple loss. I dont want to dont want to change fields. I dont want to work for a small comlie. I pany. Joyce, the bottom line is Im fighting an age problem. Im 31, male and want to achieve but am spinning my wheels. J.J. A. Unless youre in training for the Mouseketeers, age is not your problem. Its persuading the right people. As you observe, your job search is breaking down during the five minutes or so of the interview set aside for you to explain where youve been and why youre not still there. Point 1: Large companies use personnel specialists to keep out anyone whose background makes them nervous; yours does. Avoid personnel offices. Point 2: Try to reach a line manager, that person will be more interested in hiring your future than in quarantining your past. Line managers take risks; fair or unfair, you are seen as a risk. Some Suggestions Heres what I recommended: Step 1: For the moment, forget your liabilities. See only your arsenal of abilities and skills. After you impress yourself with your personal assets is the right time to analyze your problem, when you can do it in the glow of positive Strength before weakness, positive e. before negative. Step 2: Memorize a brief, persuasive marketing pitch, to use the jargon of your field. It should position you as a victim of ill winds beyond your control, a statistical oddity. In your pitch, state the problem for 30 seconds, then spend your next five minutes refocusing the attention to your benefits. An Example Heres an example: In the years I had great success in this industry, I hadnt expected to encounter a stretch of bad luck long enough to be in the wrong place at the wrong time three times in a row. Particularly so when my performance has been consistently superior, as youll see when you check my references. About now the line manager may be thinking you lack judgment or are stupid to have taken those three jobs. Squelch this danger by addressing it directly: I realize that the jobs were a gamble but Im a risk taker and I like a challenge. Remember the old saying, three times is a charm, Im ready to make up for lost time. With my background, youll find that Ill get the job done faster and and get it done right the first time. My qualifications include Practicing with audiovisual equipment will improve your persuasive style. ... There are Pioneers in every effort... When I watch a scary movie, I cover my face with my hands and peek between my fingers. I practice winking, puckering my lips and grimacing in the mirror. In the bathtub I pretend Im a mermaid. I can make over 50 incredible sounds with my mouth. The pictures on my wall at home are very special to me. I spend a lot of time staring at them. My wife thinks Im a little weird, but it gives me such a great feeling I can lose myself in them any time I wish. Fascinating Diversion One individual had a fascinating diversion: I sometimes pretend Im here from another planet to observe the strange habits of earthlings. Objectively speaking, I always find that were pretty strange. If you need convincing that were all a little crazy, try attending a Mar-d- i Gras or a carnival in Brazil, Venice or even your own town. Go as Sigmund Freud and be an observer of behavior. Youll see people completely depart from their normal selves and become the person (or thing) they are meant to be. Some of the most rational, sedate people I know slip into an entirely different persona every Lenten season. Its almost as if theyve been waiting for an excuse to give vent to temporary insanity. They make the most of it. Weve all heard sedate Grandpa go absolutely gaga trying to win the attention of a young baby. Noo noo nee nee does widdo babee wike gwampa? And theres Grandpa flapping his cheeks and rolling his eyes, doing his best Elmer Fudd imitation. In each of us there is a reservoir of madness, if you joyous freedom will. Its a natural and splendid balance to our more serious, socially proper side, which allows us to suspend our rules of decorum. Why not rejoice a bit in our foolishness? In a world that knows no shortage of nonsense, we shouldnt hesitate to happily and playfully add our own touch of insanity. It is one of the best ways I know to survive. Betrothals Sandra P. 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