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Show 0 Abandoned Husbands When leave their husbands, what are the effects on the men? Ellen Halle, a mental health counselor at Johns Hopkins Hospital, found that 26 middle-an- d men who upper middle-class had been abandoned responded in one of three ways: wives -- "Angry g rievers" typically were in 30s, obsessed with work, their late professionally successful and had been married about 15 years. Happy with their marriages, they had refused their wives' earlier requests for marriage counseling, regarding an inability to cope as their wives' problem. Once their wives had left them, however, they became ex- Dustin Hoffman grabs 40 winks Sneak sleepers doze off for 5 seconds, usually sitting up. Men are more likely to sneak sleep than women. Sneak sleeping seems to soar whenever people are passively involved for more than 23 minutes. Dr. Ian Cameron, a family physician in Halifax, Nova Scotia, has isolated several species of sneak " sleepers. They include the who asserts that his ability to listen is not compromised by closing his eyes. When challenged, he can't remember a thing. The "eyelid-rester,- "half-maste- is d eyelid-eyeba- ll roller" recognized by eyeballs rolling at film fest, courtesy of Sally Field. lazily across the horizontal range. He usually retains comprehension. Then there's the "arms-folde- d head-roller.- " When he suddenly he's awakens, apt to throw his arms out to stabilize himself a peril if you're sitting next to him drinking tremely depressed, unable to sleep or work, and felt humiliated. They wanted revenge. With therapy, some lessened their devotion to work and learned to treat women more sensitively. "Devoted dingers" tended to be younger, married for about seven in years and less well-to-d- o, occupations such as teaching or social work rather than medicine or business. They had feared their wives' growing independence. Their wives saw them as immature and unambitious, and in six out of 14 cases agreed that the husband should take primary care of the children after the divorce. These men were sad and immobilized, not hostile. Therapy, particularly in groups run by male therapists, tried to help them gain autonomy. "Detached avoiders" expressed general satisfaction with their marall-ma- le riages. However, their wives saw them as cold and distant and sought treatment for depression. These men were also in their early 30s and married about seven years. They worked in fields such as engineering or computer technology. They were mystified by their wives' misery, wanted them to be traditional homemakers but did not protest when the women left. They did not seek further therapy. coffee. The ers are sneak least-desirab- le "lateral-neighb- or sleep- shoulder-leaners,- " Cameron. They use other people to support their habit and rarely are attractive members of the opposite sex. Prevention may require removing all chairs from meeting rooms, churches and symphony halls. says Dr. Hormone Hubbub Women are often regarded as unfit for leadership because of erratic behavior caused by hormone imbalances during menstruation, pregnancy and menopause. But now it turns out that men may go through even more hormonal changes, says Dr Neena B. Schwartz, professor of biological sciences at Northwestern University She says recent scientific studies have shown that hormone the luteinizing hormone that causes pituitary gland ovulation in women is secreted by men in periodic bursts every hour of every day. Other research indicates that in men the level of blood testosterone, the male sex hormone, peaks every morning and drops steadily during the day. "Both men and women experience shifts in hormone levels from hour to hour, from day to day, and from birth to old age," says Dr. Schwartz. "There is no more evidence that these shifts limit the capacity of women to work well and feel well than there is that they limit the capacity of males " t V '- - 1"! r-- . . Breaking the tie that binds: Husbands are learning to cope on their own. 24 PARADE. JUNE 29. 1980 |
