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Show Wives, Know Yourselves! a. Accurate Analysis Will Do Much to Overcome Difficulty in Wedded Life If all discontented wives would look deeply unto themselves, measure themselves, stop fooling themselves, many might discover that the other man they might have married is a self-nurtured illusion; that the career of their dreams is not a soft snap and a joy forever; but a grueling, exhausting ex-hausting job which might have worn them out if they had qualified quali-fied for it, which they probably would have been unable to do; that they themselves are neither devastating beauties nor always charming, but women who are frequently disappointing and difficult diffi-cult to live with. They might discover dis-cover and admit to themselves that they are greatly in debt to their husbands for many things that make life easier and better and more worthwhile that they would not get along so well without with-out them. Then they might think more of doing their part of trying to make those husbands happy. And that effort on the part of one must inevitably in-evitably go a long way toward a mutually happy and successful marriage. Bell Syndicate. WNU Service. C PEAKING on the question of trial marriages, a well known writer said, "There should be no need for trial when two people know their own abilities and have measured themselves accurately. Two people who understand themselves them-selves will never, I believe, have any difficulty living happily together to-gether after marriage." That is a new slant on the question ques-tion of success in marriage, supplements sup-plements a woman writer of national na-tional fame. Not "Know thy husband" hus-band" or "wife," but "know thyselfl" And, come to think of it, isn't most of the discontent and dissatisfaction dissat-isfaction in marriage traceable to ideas of ourselves that may be misconceptions, no less than our illusions about the other person? How many women's dissatisfaction dissatisfac-tion with their husband has as its source the thought of all they gave up to marry him, all they "might have had" if they had married a certain other man? How many women's discontent with the role of wife and mother springs from the thought of how much more fascinating pastimes they might have had if they had followed that career? How many girl's impossible expectations ex-pectations of a fulltime lover and Prince Charming originates in an exaggerated notion of their own devastating beauty and charm? |