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Show j I Dorothy Dix Talks - UNREQUITED AFFECTION l i lylJOROTTlYOJ Woman Writer I "When I get married," said an ambitious am-bitious young man who has his own way to make In the world, "there will be sone of your society buds or fash-Ion fash-Ion plates for mine. I am going to pick out for a wife a poor girl who has had to economfzc all of her life, and who is used to doing her own cooking cook-ing and making her own cloihos. I want a wife who has been raised to bo thrifty and Industrious, and whom I can depend on to save my money, not spend it." "If ou do." replied a worldly wise ' woman, "then marry a girl who has been acustomed to having plenty of ; money all her life, not one who is hun-j hun-j pry and starved for money and the things that money buys, and to -whom ; a .bopping ticket is a card of admis-i ( sion to a reserved scat In the seventh heaven. : "There are no such wasteful and ex-i ex-i ' iravagant women -in the world as the : poor si 1 5 "JU auuiiuiiiy iJieir l hands into a man's pockets that have money in them. All of their lives they i lave pined for the pretty things that 'hey have seen other girls have, and i hat they have read about in novels ' and the women's magazines. , 'The.r very dreams have been of M Jiiffon-i. sweeping foal hers, irorgeous i 1 Jewelry, gilt furniture and gewgaws ) ,ind nicknneks. and when I hey get a banco at buying them they go spend-i, spend-i, ing mad. They gorge themselves on !-: department stores and bargain sales, as a famished man do on fcoil when ; se down io a fcast They throw away 1 mony just for the sake of 'browing ji away, because it Is so intoxMcating to be able to r.eorn ihat which one has : ?laed for and hoarded as if it had ' been nn's life blood. "Hrslde, this, the girl who has never i had .-ny money has no standards of ;: expenditure. The poor girl who mar-rip., mar-rip., a man who is gelling two or three i ihnius.md a ear thinks that she is mar- vynv; a second Rockefeller, and that ' , thro is simply no end to his income, while to the rich girl two or three thousand a year is poverty. She feels fi that wi'h such a shoe string of an in-) in-) come i must economize in every i prssiblo way, and so she nurses every nickle. I As for the girl who has always helped mother with the cooking, wash- Ing and ironing, continuing to do her own homework after marriage, if she gets a mail who can possibly afford a ; maid, therr is absolutely nothing doing : , for her. She has had enough of wrexl- l.ns v t!i pots and pans to do her for i a lite time, and she is never oing to ' touch ano'her one if she can help it. ; Therefiire. never marry a girl, if you want a domestic wife, who has been steeped in dish water all of her life, and whose one aim and desire when she marries Is to swim ashore to some hotel or boarding house. "If you will look about among your friends, you will observe that the women wom-en who are enthusiastic housekeepers, and who regard a kitchen as a place in which to exercise their artistic faculties fac-ulties and inventive genius, and who boast of their economy, are all women who are not reared as domestic drudges, but who took up the profession profes-sion of housewifery as one of the pleasantest features of matrimony. "And if you want a wife who will be j willing to spend the evening quietly at home with you, instead of dragging you forth, after a hard day's work, to j fox trot at cabarets until you are readv to drop with fatigue, marry a girl who has had a whirl wind time in society for about four years. She will be so ! inx-u oi gauuing aDout. she wiM be so 1 fed up on balls and restaurants, she1 will be so satiated with theaters that j sob will be glad and thankful to sit down by her own library table and reading lamp and never budge from , it- I j "But if you marry a girl who has I never had any parties or theatres and1 .whose feet simply ache to dance, she' will be crazy for all the amusements1 jand pleasures that she has never had.i "She makes the kind of a wife who I spends her afternoons at bridge par-' tics and matinees and stops ni at del- Icatesscn stores as she comes home to,' I buy something In a paper bag to feed i her family on. Shelenvos the baby in charge of the janitor's wife while I she coes off to a tei dance. She is, never happy one sing'e instant when I she isn't on the go. and she regards' liomp as merely a place to come to' when every where else is shut up. "One of the disadvantages of marry - ing a very young girl Is that a hus- ! I band has to chaperonp her through, j her pleasure mad years, instead of! j her mother having done the job. The, j wise man waits until a young woman . has had the danclng-cabarct-theatrn-j restaurant virus worked out of hen j system before he marries her. ! j "Also, son. In picking out a wife.' choose a garl wlio has been a belle, j who has had lots of beaux and heard all the sentimental talk that she! craves. Don't be foolish onough tot want to be a girl's firsrt love. Dc con-1 tent to be the last one. It is the only1 safe position. "Whcuevcr you see a middle aged' .woman act ng the fool about men. in-; I dulging in compromising flirtatious, ini j imngin ng some long-haired professor j 1 of a new cult, is her affinity, ou mayj .w JCXWI . , .,imm.LUI I II J r -Lao-en j |