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Show WOMEN Yonr Baby , Chad WiU Soon Get Used To Constant Disapproval By MTBTIJE METER ELDBED , Our disapproval li always unpleasant un-pleasant to th ehUd who wants, above all things, to stand high In our estimation. But th use of disapproval should ba tempered by our understanding that It will not remain Influential if wa overdo it. If wa disapprove all of the time, the child learns to get along despite de-spite It He has to live and act and if what ha does brings nothing noth-ing but frowns, ho learns to disregard dis-regard them. But in the beginning, when he Is learning to leave soma of our possessions pos-sessions alone, when ho is experimenting experi-menting with slaps and bites, our disapproval helps him to get oriented ori-ented In the social world. He looks to see if what ha does brings our smiles and our approval and, if It does not, he learns to Inhibit the act so -that ha may taste again the pleasure of our approval Suppose he slaps us. we should put him down quickly, or move out of raitge and say, "I don't lika that, baby." Ha knows, then, by our tone and our look, that ha has done something wrong. ' If wo turn away from him, ignore him, he will try to woo us again with sweet sounds and loving pats so that wa will ba friends once more. Obviously, no child Is an angel and we should keep that tact uppermost up-permost In mind. But a smile, a pat, a loving word bring good results re-sults and make it unnecessary that we make too lavish use of disap-proval disap-proval and punishment. |