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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks HOW TO WIN A WOMAN j By DOROTHY DIX. the Worlds 1 1 igh est Pa id Won i a n Writer. A youns man a?ks if I will toll him how to win fl maiden's heart Well, tborv ;irc two vrns to do it. no is to take it by storm. Thp othr ra) i p io rapture it by Biege Both ways work. The woman's choice is , by storm There is something of the ap woman in r'vrry woman's nature that always responds to brute force She yearns io be loed savagely by some man who is ready to murder her if she will not marry him. In her secret soul It is grief to her that the actual physical kidnapping of brides is no longer good form in society. She would dote on being captured by a .strong armed man in an aulomobJe, who would urab her! by the hair of the head and whirl her away to a honeymoon full of blood curdling romance. Never woo a woman humbly. The 1 man who burns jncense at a woman's, leet generally pets kicked for his re- ward. Re a woman's handy man, fetch ' and carry for her, take the favors she throws you as gratefully as a dog does a bone, and she will snub you every time. Make her believe you stand upon a pedestal above her, and she will break her neck climbing up to share your halo. Women like men who dominate them and the man who does not ask their love, hut takes it The suitor who tells a woman he is going to marry her, whether she wnnts him or not, ends by doing it. The courtship by siege is less spec tacular and has fewer fireworks about it, but it is equally successful, for all things come to the patient waiter. Many points are in his favor. By heme he-me continually on the spot he establishes estab-lishes a quarantine around his lady love that kf-eps all other men at a distance. She isn't married to him. but she had better be so far as being isolated from other matrimonial i chances. Also he forges a ch;iin upon her by her gratitude and habit. Fropinquity! is on his side. She grows dependent i upon him and when, some fine day, he! announces that he can stand the uncertainty un-certainty no longer and is pulling out I for other parts, she realizes that his) absence would leave a void that noth- j me could fill and she weeps upon his collar and beg? him to stay. Another strategic move that usually meets with much success is a star play to a woman's sympathy More women marry men because they are i sorry for them than for any other reason. rea-son. This move must be made dls- J crcetly though. The man who Whines Is lost. He doesn't arouse nltv. Hh fills her with disgust. But t,he man who can make himself picturesquely wretched before a woman who has refused re-fused him. and who smiles with a broken heart, has a tramp card, while the one who can make her believe 1 h at she is driving him to suicide has won the game. Many men are strong advocates of ihf briberv theory In courtship and believe that the road to a woman's heart is paved with gifts. This is a mistake. Women like generous men, and men who are not niggardl) about trifles, but no woman's love is ever bought. Every girl has what she calls hei candy beau, but she seldom mar-I mar-I lies him. An important point just here is that he who would curry favor with gifts must eive With tact. The personal element is always the strongest with a woman, and she would rather have a five cent bunch of field flowers that i. represented somn taste or fancy than .1 rifty dollar bunch of American beauties beau-ties bought hlt-or-miss. 1 In winning B woman bo bold, but bo not too bold Women hate a bashful bash-ful and timid man yet they loathe the one who assumes he is so fascinating jno woman could resist him Many a man has lost the wife h. d.-.-irod because be-cause he didn't have the courage to pop the question, and many another has been refused because he had so much the air of conferring a favor on the girl by asking her to marry h:m thai she couldn't reit the tempts ion to say "no Three dangers there are in ourt.-hip One is that a man will ion much. Another is i ha t he w ill say too little Too glib love making argues too mill b experience. Too little starves the heart of a woman who is bunker. ng and thirsting for romance. lunng courtship is a time when a man should let go his hold on veracity for it is! ever woman's right once in her life time lo be told that she is perfectly,' beautiful, brilliantly witty, and a com-J jpiete compendium of every feminine I charm. The third danger is jealousy which is a boomerang that always returns and annihilate the man If he lets a woman sec that she can make him I jealous thereafter he is merely a mon-! mon-! key on a stick that she makes jump j for her own amusement On the other oth-er hand. If he makes her j alous he Is simply furnishing ihe text for future curtain lectures and unlounded BUSpi-cion. BUSpi-cion. j The most vital point of courtship, however. Is the ability to seize the ; psychological moment when a woman jis ready to say yes." Never propose to a woman when she has on her best, , tailor made and 1 5 feeling fine and fit, and as if she had the wot Id in a slin?. 'Watch for some hour when she is down Ion her luck, and looks Blimpsy, and feels that all she wants is to cry on I the second button of a man's est and have him call her "bab." But after all. these are merely tips on how to win a woman's heart There is no infallible guide to courtship If a woman loves a man any old way works. If she doesn't there is noth Ing doing oo |
