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Show 8W The Salt Uke Tribune, Sunday, January 1986 12, News of weddings The pain of being visible By Ann Berghout Austin, Ph D. Assistant Professor Family and Human Development Department Utah State University As a LOGAN teacher I was al- ways concerned with the youngsters in my elementary classes who struggled so fiercely with academics. I was concerned with the academic failure they faced every day, but I was even more about worried a subtle phenomenon I saw occur- ring throughout the school system. As I discuss this phenomenon, please remember that I do not think teachers CAUSE it, rather I think it accrues from our intense societal obsession with competition. The phenomenon is simply this. Children in elementary school who struggle academically do not do so aionymously. Everyone knows about the child who fails, who misses 29 on a math assignment with 30 problems, and who reads in the infamous reader reserved for all the children who read 4ell below grade level, Masked Childs Struggles 3iy colleagues and I tried to mask tfils child's struggles by making the grading of assignments strictly a private affair between child and teacher. We acquired beautiful new reading materials for them which the m children had never seen before, especially in a lower grade. But still it seemed that this childs deficiencies were by the entire class. I Later, as moved into research I decided to study this issue, to see if children academically I as felt as visible were they really were in the classroom. I decided to relate this to classroom acceptance as well, for I had also noticed that many times academically less-awell-know- n vanced children seemed not to have as many friends as the more academically able child. Participants in this study included 145 children from a Mid" estern rural elementary school. It sample involved 77 percent of the schools student body in grades three through six or all children who had received parental permission to participate. Data on each childs classroom visibility, classroom acceptance and academic achievement were collected. More Accepted We found that children who were average or above in academic achievement were significantly more often accepted than were children whose achievement scores fell below the classroom average. Below average students were socially rejected significantly more often by their peers than children with higher achievement scores. When visibility was considered, children who were positively accepted by their classroom peers were also quite visible in the classroom, but the most visible children of all were the children who had the lowest achievement scores. It seemed that everyone knew about these children and everyone kept track of their failures. So, was it the fault of the school system? Not necessarily. I have been and will continue to be an advocate of public school teachers. Obsessed With Winning In part, I think we can blame it on our societal obsession with achievement, with winning, with always wanting to be the best. As part of this obsession, I think many children learn that they can not and should not be by anyone else. So, as part of this mentality, the failures of the struggling child validate the successes of others. lets help remove this As parents, stinging visibility from lower achieving children by encouraging our youngsters not only to do their best academically, but more importantly, iiiii d to do their best to become sensitive, caring youngsters who actively look for all kinds of goodness in others and happily applaud it wherever it is found. Let's teach them to take joy in others' success and to do all they can to ease others' struggles. Dcnnej -- 1 lolmstead Janae Denney and Kendell Holm-stea- d were married Friday at the Reception Center. A reception was given after the ceremony. The home of the bridegroom's parents was setting for a wedding breakfast. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Denney, Draper, is a dental assist. nit for Dr Paul Baugh. The bridegroom, a son of Mr. and Mrs Lee Hoimstead, Draper, is employed by Ralph L. Wadsworth Construction ('o., Inc. Mr. and Mrs. Viehweg Johnson- - Viehweg Laurie Johnson and Kent Viehweg were married Friday in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. A reception was given at The Old Meeting House. Lion House was setting for a wedding breakfast. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Willis C. Johnson, Salt Lake City, is employed by Questar Service The most pop(AP) ular name in the United States is 111. Fairview, according to the editors of Rand McNallys 1985 Road Atlas. They say a survey showed 121 towns named Fairview in the country. The next most frequently used town names are Midway there are 105 of them and Oak Grove, with 94 towns bearing this name. They also report 14 places in the United States named Ebenezer, 19 named Pisgah and 12 named Nebo. Kim Cloward and Vern Quincy Iverson were married Monday in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. reception was given at The Old Meeting House. The Westin Hotel Utah was setting for a wedding breakfast. A The bridegroom, a son of Mr. and Mrs. Verl J. Iverson, Brigham City, graduated from Utah State University and attends Creighton University Dental School, Omaha, Neb. The couple will reside in Omaha. Morris-Julia- ge Gail Johnson and Todd Savage were married Friday in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. A reception was given at the Shala-ma- r Reception Center. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Leo R. Johnson, Grantsville, was a secretary for Gibbons & Reed Construction Co. The bridegroom, a son of Mr. and Mrs. Gene R Savage, Draper, is employed by Union Power, Denver, Colo. He filled an LDS mission to Texas. The couple will reside in Denver. LOGAN Louise Bench and John Craig Rogers were married Saturday in the Logan LDS Temple. A reception was given at the Lion House. The Bluebird Cafe, Logan, was setting for a wedding breakfast. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Frank K. Bench, Arvada, Colo., attends Colorado State University, Fort Collins, where she is studying chemical engineering. She filled an LDS mission to Portugal. The bridegroom, a son of Mr. and Mrs. Paul E. Rogers, Salt Lake City, graduated from Brigham Young University with bachelor and masters degrees in geology and was a member of the BYU varsity track team. He filled an LDS mission to Florida. no Page Morris and PARK CITY Johnson-Sava- SKOKIE, Bench -- Rogers on The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Michael B. Cloward, West Valley City, graduated magna cum laude from Weber State College. She was elected to Phi Kappa Phi. Corp. The bridegroom is a son of Mrs. Grace Viehweg, Salt Lake City, and the late Gerald Viehweg. He filled an LDS mission to South Dakota and will attend the University of Utah. Whats in a name? Cloward-Ivers- Don Edward Juliano were married Friday at the home of the brides par- ents. A reception was given at Snow Park Lodge, Deer Valley. Phillipes Restaurant, Park City, was setting for a rehearsal dinner. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Phillips Morris, Park City, attended the University of Utah where she affiliated with Kappa Kappa Gamma. 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