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Show ONLY-CHILD INHIBITIONS CAUSE INNER REBELLION, LONG HIDDEN, TO BREAK r , -- " By BETTY BLAIR ' Inhibition .imposed by parents on children the extent that normal sssocisttons sre ftrrbddrn may bircome handicapi for life. Relationships between boyi and firls should be o normal that abnormality may be entirely unknown between them. - Why Be Tired? Ar you on of those people peo-ple who'a energies art always al-ways at low ebb? Chronio "tiredness" 1 usually curabla, and largely depends upon living liv-ing your body the tonlng-up of properly proportioned mineral, min-eral, and vitamin diet. For your health's sake, you should know all there is to be known about these food elements. The new booklet, "Calories, Vitamins and Minerals," by Mary Pasco Huddleeon,' will tell you the relative values of foods in terms of energy building elements. It is not a booklet of diets, but a scientific scien-tific compilation of food values. val-ues. For your copy send 16c In coin or stamps to The Salt Lake Tribune-Telegram Home Bervlc bureau, Salt Lake City. Dear Mlsa Blair: I wonder If girls in families where there 4e more than one child have the aame difficulties I have. I am now 16 years old but being sn only child, my psr-ents psr-ents treat me as if they thought I were only I may invite girls to- my home for partlee but never a boy. I am forbidden to accept dates with boys and even the few girls I knew don't seem very much interested in-terested In me any more. They can always talk about their good times and their dates but I have ' none to talk about so they Just Ignore me. Even when I stand around with them I feel left out How can I make my parents understand thst I am old enough to have boy friends? Not long ago a boy asked me to go to one of the matinee dancea with bim, but I bad to make an excuse. I haled to tell him it was against the rules of my parents to do evaa thia Aaother time a boy asked me to a school dance in the evening and I started to make an excuse but my girl friend piped up and told him my parents objected to my going out with boys. I hated to have her do thia, as he has told other boys and they Just sort of laugh to think anybody my age can't have boy friends. I am Just miaaing all my youth and the good times other girls have. Please tell me what to do to change things. A millloa thanks. "SAD." I always wish, whsn a letter like thia one cornea, that It was the 1 parent Instead of the child who wrote it I can't very well tell a j daughter what her mother's duty Is, but on request I ahould like very much to tell the mother herself that her daughter needs the normal ' association of boys from the time she ia a smsH child. In order thst I her own development be not lopsided. lop-sided. Difficulties Arise It la a very difficult thing for a girl unaccustomed . to the whole-soms, whole-soms, normal companionship of boys her own age to be suddenly thrust Into their company. Through lack of knowledge of the nature of boys she is apt to have developed very false notions concerning them. She Is self-cons olous In their presence, pres-ence, and her very self-consciousness makes her overdo ber act in the attempt to appear to be natural. nat-ural. Boys of similar background and training to a girl are no more harmful than are the girls of the same background. They may be aolsy and more robust In nature and Inclinations, but this Is something some-thing girls should know about Thsre la no better way of teaching girls and boys to meet life than by giving them the actual experience experi-ence that come along naturally for every age, but from which too many parents keep their children protected. pro-tected. Children Overeoddled In the last Reader's Digest, an article by I. A. R. Wylle should open ' the eyes of many parents to their custom of overooddling theta children, chil-dren, or keeping them away .from .the realities of Ufa. Pehaps, "Bad," If you were to give this article to your mother to read, her eyes would be opened to the fact that you are one of those being overeoddled. Social OblLgatioa Dear Miss Blair: . ' I have been engaged since Christmas, but my mother and my fiance's mother have ' never met Dont you think It was his mother's place to call up my mother or else pay her a call In person. I have always thought "it was the boy's mother's place ' to do one or the other immedl . atsly aftsr our engagement waa announced. I would like your opinion on this question so I would know definitely whether any mother or hie has been in error. Please tell me all about what ahould be done In case of this kind. Thank you. Ton were quite right In your point of view. The young man's mother ahould have called on you and your mother as soon as she waa told of her son's engagement The purpose of this visit Is to welcome wel-come the bride-to-be Into the family fam-ily of the bridegroom-elect It la considered a very Important all. Be Important, In fact that the call ia supposed to be made within M hours of the time it la known the engagement exiata. The call la auppoead to be made In person by both the father and mother If possible, possi-ble, If not both, then by the mother at least The main purpose of the - call made by the parents of the prospective pros-pective bridegroom upon the bride-to-be is to welcome her Into the . family, to tell of their happiness about the engagement and ether felicitous comments. It would be natural oa thia occasion to speak of yeur approaching marriage, plana for the wedding and the probable elate of its occurrence. If you think this Important call haa been neglected because of lack of knowledge of Its being their duty, you might start things rolling by inviting them to dine or to tea. I ' ' This would be making a virtue of necessity and la about the best thing ftm ess do. |