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Show GIRL AT LOSS TO KNOW WHETHER LOVE OR PITY DOMINATES HER MOOD By BETTT BLAB One person' need of another and that other's ability to fill the need is often all that is needed in the effort of two to put salt on the tall of the comet of Happiness Irnnarriage. Deer Miss Blair: Two years ago my very best - girl friend died. Although she had been married for a year and a half our friendship had not abated. I had not known her husband previous to her marriage, but never felt that he was the equal of his wonderful wife. Nat-orally Nat-orally I respected her deep love for him and didn't give her an idea how I felt toward him. 81nee my friend's death, her husband has come to our home a good deal. My mother took him under her wing and we all treated him as a member of the family. He was terribly lonely and as he was practically a newcomer here when he married my friend, he had few real friends. At first I felt so sorry for the poor young man I forgot my dislike dis-like for him. I tried to be my moat cheerful self when he came to help him forget his loss. But I was going out with other men at the time and didn't think of Dim as a possible suitor. Special Kind of Leva " That, however, Is what he has come to be. He tells me quite frankly that no one can ever take the place of his first wife; that ' she holds a special place in his heart forever. I admire him greatly for this. But he also tells me he has another love for me, that, though different from his first love. Is very sincere. He thinks be can't face life without with-out me. Now, I am not especially In love with him. I have learned to admire and respect him. I also have a very strong feeling that he Is not really In love with me. I think he has come to think of me as a hiifd of bulwark against loneliness lone-liness and further loss and trage- , dies, Tou see I have kept up his morale for the past two years and I think he la fearful last I marry some other young man and leave him stranded on the quick-aands quick-aands of his own desolateness. There Is another young man . Wha has asked me to marry him, and except for my deep feeling f love or pity, whatever it is, for this other man, I think I should marry him. I am not wildly In love with the latter but we manage to have enjoyable times together. . Can you aee through the mass f my dilemma and help me to find the right way out? "SMOKE GETS IN MT EYES." The solution to your problem lies hi your own nature. Which predominates pre-dominates In you, the mother complex com-plex kind of love, or the kind that must have companionship and great love for yourself? Study Tear Own Mature) I wonder If you haven't had your greatest happiness In the past two years In bringing a sense of security and peace into the heart of the man atiee married to your best friend. Or If now, yon could ever shake the responsibility you have assumed and tarn him either Into the arms and doubtful happiness of another woman, wo-man, or leave htm "stranded" as you suggeet Answer this queetlon for yourself and your problem is solved. Imagine yourself having to give him up entirely, probably to a woman wo-man who would resent your future friendship with him. Would you like that? Love Is made of Just each stuff as the. feeling you de-eribe de-eribe for this man. One person's great need of another baa In times rt constituted the greatest bond marriage, providing that other had the ability to supply that need. Very doubtful happiness eomea when a woman marries with a love that has only the mother complex to bolster It But your love for this man has something more than this. companionship tempered by good reasoning powers should snake for happiness between you. Teu told me so little of the second asaa that he doesn't enter the picture pic-ture in my mind at all as a possible rival to the other. DANCE HALL ETIQCETTE Dear Miss Blair: ' The young man X go with talks all the time we are dancing, and frequently when we are in the midst of a lively conversation he will atop dead still on the dance floor to finish his conversation. This Is very embarrassing to te, as the other dancers always aay things that are far from complimentary. com-plimentary. This doesn't affect him at all, and neither do my efforts to get hint to go on dancing. danc-ing. What do you suggest I da bout it? "EMBARRASSED." I suggest that you encourage the young man to find a place off the danca floor to finish his conversation. conversa-tion. Tell him you aa well aa others object to his making a speech-platform speech-platform of the dance floor. Tell him yon will arrange with the manager to have a soap box there for him If he insists on stopping stop-ping to finish his speech. Tou can aay all this la a way that will not offend and yet that will let bun know you are serious. |