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Show Learn to Cultivate Your Own Personality. TOO many women make tho fatal mistake in their efforts to plcaso o trying to copy the special charms of women whom they consider charming. This is especially true of young girls. It is a wrong attitude to tako for two reasons. rea-sons. It suppresses individuality, that quality in you that should bo cultivated to the full, and it often brings into your maunor the false note of insincerity. Be yourself Don't Envy Others' Charms. The fact that you admire intensely tho special charms of another woman is not the slightest excuse for your trying to copy them, but every reason for your trying try-ing to bring into play individual charms of your own, some of which you may not even know you possess because you may have been too diffident, too self-depreciating or indolent to cultivate your individuality. indi-viduality. Charms are distinctly a matter of personality. per-sonality. Hospitality, kindness, effective ropose, tact, &c all these are charms that may he acquired if wo do not happen to possess pos-sess them. But the special charms of personality, they belong each to tho special personality person-ality that has engendered them. Naturally serene and quiet of disposition, disposi-tion, for some reason you envy Miss K.'s vivacity. She has a spirited little, way of tossing her head; she uses lots of nrotty little gestures; her remarks have an entrancing habit of ending in question ques-tion marks. You try to do a8 sho does. But you don't quite succeed, do you? Theso graces thnt you admiro so in Miss K. would not bo charming in her at all if it wore not that they arc perfectly spontaneous to her. They are expressions expres-sions of her personality, which is so diametrically opposed to your own. You try to adqpt them and you cither make yourself ridiculous or, if not that, at least detract from your own charm, which is quite as deplorable. Uso your good common sense. Admiro those charms in Miss K., but regard them as something absolutely her own. Don't embitter yourself with envy. Cultivate Cul-tivate with more care than ever tho graces that spring naturally from your own, serene, quiet self. There will bo many people who will find them far more attractive than the charms you so covet that aro Miss K.'s. The world needs her charms and it needs yours. You -will onlx hurt these real merits of yours by trying to graft in among them charms foreign to your personality that simply cannot thrive because the special temperament needed to make them thrive is not yours. Under tho grafted graces that bloom so unsatisfactorily, un-satisfactorily, the guaccs natural to your temperament will fade. Most of us aro not awake to the possibilities possi-bilities of i-hanu that lio in ourselves. Self-depreciation is a general failing. "Wo do not often try to know oursolvos, we are too busy watching other people. It is well to admire other people's charms, but never to a degree that impairs im-pairs our confidence in ourselves. To each and every one of us was given as a birthright a personality different from any other. Life demands of us in return for Uie marvellous gift the de--velopment of it. If wo do not develop it, but drape It in tho shroud of self-effacement and depreciation, or hide its tr,uo light in the falso gleam of borrowed lights, what olso nre we doing but robbing rob-bing tho world of what is its duo from us? Bo Youraclf. Be yourself in all your ways, and some day you will laugh at tho days when you tried to copy Miss K.'s vivacity, Mrs. M.'s laugh, your neighbor's wnys oC walking, your cousin's langour, &c. Envy has a way of growing weaker tho of tcner it is eliminated. Study yourself and develop your own personality. |