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Show Ideals of Behavior Differ Among Those of Same Group To Embarrassment Extent By BETTY BLAIR The fact that "like attract like" may breed monotony among human beings, but it also breeds a sense of security, stability and a peaceful conscience' Between tiumsn iwingrwho differ widely from cadi other there is usually a sense of fear and mistrust. ' Dear Miss Blair: I am hoping there ia some ad- vice that you can give me to bet-ter bet-ter a situation which requires more tact and ingenuity than I possess. - It Is this: There Is a couple with whom we are friends and of whom ws really think a great deal, but they do not seem to know how to behave in company. We are all middle-aged people, but shs insists upon acting like the flappers in prohibition days after she hss had a couple of cocktails, "mauls" the men in the crowd, noisy, and in general doee net behave as a lady, though shs doee not do anything actually wrong. What Ideas Have You? We're hoping that the prob- I lem of a peaceful disposition of the family car may etlr """y ff n"r radr In a theory, or an actual experience experi-ence offering a solution. Parents Par-ents and youths of driving a-rs are Invited to enter the contest, con-test, which closes at midnight Saturday. Write your solution In not mors than 200 words and mail It to Betty Blair, Salt Lake Telegram, not later than midnight mid-night Saturday, January 30. The best solution will receive an award of S3; and the winning win-ning letter will be published, though real names will not be attached. He is a big fsllow and Vways plays ths part of ths clown, and is so noisy It Is embarrassing to go out in publio with him. Good Qualities They are, however, really good people, in spite of her actions, which are most misleading, kind, generous and loyal. Because of this ws have continued to be friends, though I can aee other of our friends gradually dropping away from us because of thsm. Others In our crowd have tried tactfully to make them understand under-stand how ws all feel, and to aet ' an example before them, but ao far It haa been uselees, and they have become disgusted and are gradually dropping them. They are both ao complacent and ao aura they are the -nest run ana "good sports" that anything to the contrary Just will not register. regis-ter. I dislike to hurt them by leaving leav-ing them out of our gatherings, but unless you can suggest some other way, there la nothing else I can think of to da "PUZZLED." There are people, other crowds. Who like the sort of thing to which your friends are addicted. Why dont you give them the lmpetue to find the blrde with plumage like their own by failing to Invite them iaanv mora nartlee with the crowd that gets ao diegusted with them. Invite them as a couple to your individual in-dividual homes for dlnnsr and a foursome of bridge If you wish to show your loyalty aa friends. But you need not suffer the consequences conse-quences of their failure to play the game according to your social standards stand-ards by Including thsm with groups. People Seek Own Level Water haa a tendency, to aeek Its own level and ao do people it others oth-ers don't do too much misinterpreting misinter-preting of levels. If these friends want the company of the old crowd enough to change their ways, leaving leav-ing them out of things for a few times will open their eyes In a snore telling way than anything you might aay. But then what are you going to do about it If this sudden change in their behavior takes all the Joy out of life for them? They probably prob-ably In all sincerity consider themselves them-selves the life of the party and are Just a little bored with all the other. oth-er. They would be bored past recognition rec-ognition were they asksd to become like the others. You can aee my point of reasoning. reason-ing. Let them find out for themselves, them-selves, by simple means of deduction, deduc-tion, that for one crowd at least, their actions are rldlculoua. It may mean more happiness in the sad for them as well aa you. NOTE TO "IX DOUBT" CeA your awn attorney or if you wish, first the county attorney attor-ney for an explanation of the details de-tails yoa ask me concerning annulment an-nulment and divorce. PERSONALITY Dear Miss Blair: I would like to Improve my personality per-sonality and would like to have you tell me what books to read to do this for me. Thank you. , "KATIE." No ene book in the world can help you to a very great extent to improve your personality. A wide knowledge of people and of what is going on in the world, with the ability to enter into the viewpoint of others will help you more than reading one book on developing your personality. Something added to your skill, or character, or knowledge that will help people to see you aa you truly are also helps. You may have liuie personality faults of which you are aet aware, the elimination of which would help you to make friends. Why not aek a friend to tell you what they are. If any. Play the game called Truth' with two or three girls preeent aad playing the game. It takes a little courage both to tall and to take' the conse-euences conse-euences In the right spirit but it can be done. Along with many other books you should seed. If you still want ths personality book, read Basil King's "Developing' Personality.' , , |