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Show 4 Dorothy Dix Talks J KISSING fl Ar' i 37 D0ROTHY The World' HiShest Paid Woman Writer j U( W I I get a great many letters from ; , young girls who want to know what Mj i they shall do about the kissing propo- V S sitlon. They say that it is practically v J j a case of no kiss, no beau, for the f ! young men who take them about de- -dill I niand a good night kiss as pay for their 91 courtesies, and if they refuse it is, in- all deed, good night, in the slang phrase, Zm .' for they never see these oscillatory VX .'MT youths again. !& ' t ov' tue lnnate modesty and delicacy mmZ$y , of these girls revolts at yielding their '5 lips to .men to whom they are not even ,1 - j engaged, to men who do not even pre- I ISf II . tend, to be in love with them. It vlo- lUClII I la-tes. their sense of what is proper, , I ,j but, at the same time, they do not want ni to be regarded as prudes and puritans. Still less do they desire to be wall I j flowers left out of all the fun and par- i 3 ties, and numbered with those forlorn ffl " 9 , I damsels who never have any attention l from men. I-' ' Sn Vi o fir! la i nm h'Traan V. j stinctive sense of what is right and her knowledge of expediency, and she wants to know what she shall do and how she shall answer the eternal argument ar-gument of man when, he is trying to persuade a woman into doing the thing that he knows she should not do. To klES, or not to kiss, that's the question that troubles her. There can be but one answer to give a girl to this problem. It is no, no, no! A maiden's lips should be kept inviolate, in-violate, and the first man's kiss that Is pressed upon them should be the kiss of love from the man she expects to marry. For a girl to give her lips to every Tom, Dick and Harry who takes her to a moving picture show or escorts her home from a dance is something some-thing unthinkable. It Is as much of a desecration as if she trailed a white rose but through a sewer. It is a pity that girls can never be made to realize that the most alluring al-luring and attractive thing about them is the aura of innocense and unsophis-tication unsophis-tication that surrounds them. It Is the whiteness, the untrodden snowness of their souls that is their chiefest chairm, and they never make so fatal a mistake as when they throw this jiway. If girls were only wise enough to realize real-ize how facinating alooaness is, and what an appeal unsullied purity makes to the masculine imagination, they would keep every man at arm's length at least until he had come out and popped the question. They would not think for a minute of putting up with cheap familiarities from men that rob them of their freshness and make them little shop worn bits of humanltv that have been pawed over like the "goods on a bargain table. Girls should never forget that it is the shy and shrinking violet that is man's favorite flower, not the brazen sun flower. My girl correspondent says that she does not know how to answer a man when he begs her to kiss him and tells her that there is no harm in It, and that his arguments make her feel foolish fool-ish because she seems to bo making a great ado over a very little matter. There is one answer that every girl can make to a man's request for a kiss. She can ask him if he would like his sister to kiss any man good night who happened to call upon her. She can ask hjm what ho would advise his sister to do if his sister were in her placo. And shs can ask him if he would like to think that the girl that he is going to marry some day had kissed a hundred men who' were more casual acquaintances. Such questions will make any decent de-cent man writhe. A man will tell his own sister quickly enough what h,e thinks on the subject, and his own lips would grow cold ahd stiff on his sweetheart's if he remembered that her soft young mouth had belonged to a long procession of men before him. Girls can never bear in mind too constantly con-stantly the fact that men never play fair with women, and are never just or logical in judging them. A man will spend hours, days and months persuading per-suading a girl to do something that is wrong, and then have a contempt for her afterwards for yielding to him. He I will argue down her every instinct and scruple and principle against kissing kiss-ing him, and tho minute she does he will lose his reverence for her as for something utterly fine and delicate. It has beon his hand that has brushed the dew off of the bud, but, none the less, it is henceforth a shattered rose for him. Girls should also bear in mind that a wedding ring on the hand is worth a peck of them in the dim distance and that the girls who have the most beaux generally get the fewest and the poorest poor-est makeshifts of husbands. A girlv observes ob-serves that those girls who are free and easy in their manners, who exact no ort of respect from men and per mit men to indulp-o in familiarities and take liberties with them, girls who drink and smoke with men, and listen to and tell of colored stories, girls who are good sports, are what we call popular, pop-ular, and aro generally surrounded by a horde of men. Especially while they arc young and good looking, and full of high spirits. But what the girl does not notice is that this typo of young girl very seldom" sel-dom" marries, and when she docs she almost invariably marries a crooked stock who wasn't worth picking up. Tho fast, girl, the girl without modesty mod-esty or delicate womanly reserve may be the kind of a girl that men liko to play with, but she isn't the sort of a woman that they want for a wife and for the mother of their children. That Is why you arc so often surprised sur-prised at tho marriages th'at men make. Men whom you have known of as gay rounders bob up with a wife Avho is Ja Sunday school teacher. Men who have been noted as chorus girl chasers go to some country village and niarry girls who nover saw a brighter light than a kerosene lamp. They don't want the lips on which a thousand kisses have rained. They wan the lips that have never kissed at all. And don't be misled, girls, into making mak-ing the mistake of believing that because be-cause a man asks you to kiss him t is any indication of his being in love with you. A kiss is no guarantee of affection. Judas betrayed his Lord with a kiss, and every black hearted traitor of a man who ever betrayed tho faith of an innocent and trusting young girl began his devil's work in tho same way with a kiss. The primrose path that leads to perdition per-dition for women is paved with tho kisses of men. The thing tha't up money could have hired them to do, that no arguments could have persuaded persuad-ed them to do, they have been kissed into doing. For it is no flight of the poet's fancy when he speaks about women being made drunk on kisses. It is a literal fact, and that is why no girl is safe who permits men to kiss her. The girl who never touches intoxi-I intoxi-I eating liquors and who never kisses men needs no other chaperon than just those two things. She can walk through the temptations of the world unscathed, and wherever she goes she is followed by the respect and admiration admira-tion of men. As for the young man who won't come to see a girl without she will Idss him, she's better off lacking his company com-pany than with it. His. cheap attentions atten-tions come too high. They are not worth the price. Any way you look at it, promiscuous kissing is vulgar and common, unsanitary unsan-itary and disgusting. Good taste and common sense alike demand its abolition. aboli-tion. nn |