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Show I I SOME ADVICE FOR "UNHAPPY." 1 H -HE letter signed " Unhappy "which H I appeared In the Comer a whllo j I ago has called out a number of re- W piles and comments. Ono of theso H I I printed in tho Helping Hand; some H ol the others I give below. Thcro Is H a cortaln similarity In the advice of sev- H eral of the wrltere, but enough diversity M exists In the counsel offered to make in- 1 tcrestlng and, I hope, helpful reading, not H only for "Unhappy" herself but to H others who, llkehcr, maybeaffllcted with B self-pity. H The first gives an Interesting personal V experience: H I havo Just read tho lcttor written R by Unhappy,' and I am tempted to wrrto H a few lines that may perhaps give her a H new line of thought. I certainly pympa- I. thlzo with her, although I have never H been of an envious disposition and always H try to mako tho beet of things, H "If 'Unhappy' will just look around H her at tho ' plain little place ' and1 try ta H Imagine how she would feel If It -was all' H taken away from her at once, perhaps she Hj f will appreciate the-tew things she has and H placo a higher value upon them. Let mo H ; tell you of arr experience I had. H ; My husband, who Is a noncommls- H eloned officer In tho army, and I were tc- H gother at lib station at Fort Crockett, Hi Galveston, during the terrible storm last H. August and we lost absolutely everything H vre possessed. All of our furnlturo, china. If pictures, clothing, and Jewelry -went. In K fact, wo had nothing but the clothes we Hi wcro wearing, and wo almost lost our IF lives getting through tho water to the If fort. I " After the etorm was over and I real-It real-It ized thatall my treasures were gone, little l , lntimato things with memories connected II j -n-ith them, pictures of my dead mother, l j something that all the money In the world could never replace, do you wonder that I It felt as though I could never be happy again? For days I was ln astunnedcon-I astunnedcon-I f dltion and couldn't seem able to pull my- I self out of it, '(B "After the water went down we went I'M back to where ' homo ' had been and, ill wandering around among the rubbish, I found a few HtUo things that had been f.,M mine. I don't think you can blame mo - when I tell you that I shed my first team IM over tho little Indian basket with one H of the arrowheads I had collected still I ln U I " Then the regiment was moved over to I Fort Sam Houston and I am now planning I to start over again. I am making new I couch pillows and other things, and havo I in my mind a great many plans for beau- tifylng two or thrco rooms. I am grateful II that my life was spared, grateful for tho i I good husband I have, and moro grateful I I for my sight, which enables me to enjoy 3 I the beauties of nature, of which I am I passionately fond. I havo read somewhere some-where that if you arc truly grateful for small blessings, moro will be added unto you, and until that time comes I am going go-ing to be satisfied and happy. I." Surely " Unhappy " has had no such bitter experience as this In her life. Perhaps Per-haps If she had It might have given her a different standard of values and put matters to herhxthfir real light The next letter Is from one of our valued val-ued Cornerites who has sent us many helps and hints which have proved help ful to all who hac icad them and followed fol-lowed them " Having read ' Unhappy 's ' letter, I feel called upon to c.pi ess my views. I hope every reader of the Corner will ponder pon-der over the letter well, for there Is a great lesson in it for every one of us. Tho circumstances may not be the same In each case, but the remedy Is the same for all, and that Is ' know' thyself ' Remember, Remem-ber, ' lie that conqucreth himself Is gi eater eat-er than ho that lakcth a city ' " These women whom you quote as hav ing the same or similar faults that ' Unhappy Un-happy ' possesses aie women of taste, ic-flncment, ic-flncment, and posstbl mote than ordinary ordi-nary intelligence One may not reason with them because they know how unreasonable un-reasonable their faults nic. One must shame them, appeal to their pride and self-respect. All such women icqulrc is self-control and being able to adapt themselves them-selves to circumstances " Theie are pcttj traits In ncaily every character, but arc we to let those tendencies ten-dencies i ule us or will we overcome them? I am sure you women would have no pu-tlenco pu-tlenco with a man who would say. ' I hav a desire to go and get drunk, so I must give In to this Inclination, ind yet I know how Indecent and uniegenelnte it would be. Tho same rule applies to us and we should ?top and think that there is not one human being peifectly contented with his or her conditions in Hfe Still, we can improve these conditions and make things easier for uui selves and for those around us by adapting ourselves to circumstances " It Is nil vory well to be ambitious and to desire to better ourselves. "We would be poor cltl7en8 did we not feel that, but that desire must be u stimulus, not an obsession. The discontented women need a Httlo more Bible reading. Do you suppose sup-pose Christ had any uch envious feeling as thoso women tell us they have? Those who feci as ' Unhappy ' docs lose the joy and uplifting influence of companionship com-panionship with God because they aro busy looking to sec how their neighbor ' does It.' "I am truly sorry for such women because be-cause tlioynro missing so much happiness In life. Let them pattern after Christ and not society! Aunt Maud." Other letters are Jn much the same vein. Here Is ono of them: " Dear Unhappy: My sympathy goes out to you In your evident dcslro for true contentment. While we should always be trying to make our homes prettier and better, discontent will only hinder. Beautiful Beau-tiful surroundings arc not necessary for a happy home, but cheerfulness Is. A happy home, no matter how plain, is within with-in reach of all If tho father and mother work together. " Will you not try for six months to follow the suggestions which follow? When I was a child I read a story of a. poor woman who was always cheerful and when asked by some one how, with poverty and III health, sho managed to keep po happy, replied: Count your mercies, child.' " I began then to follow that plan. After going to bed I would lie and count over my blessings, always beginning: ' 1 am thankful that I was born In the United States,' going on with my home, which, though plain, was comfortable, and the list grew long First of all I put now that I am God's child. Try this, please. " Then remembering that we have a loving Heavenly Father who watches over us and takes caro of us, form the habit, morning, noon, and night, of really thanking him for all your blessings for home, your husband, your children; that you are one of ths workers, not the Idlers, etc. Do this from your heart; you nn do it In the midst of your work. "Third, make special effort to fach your children to see their blessings; bring them up to recognize the happy things they have, the gifts of sight and hearing, the beauty of sky and field, the flowers birds, and stars I know a young mother, about 30 years old, with four chll Iron, who has done her ow n work, given a home for several years to an oiphan brother and slstci. who sings ln a church choir In a neighboring city, yet Is always wonderfully bright and cheerful. She lias made a special point of teaching her 1 children that work io a, blessing and not .' something to bo avoided. ' Tho jov of J i work ' is a good thought to dwell on V K,l " Try for a few montha to read Just 1 fc cheerful books. Also collect cuttings from papers of some of tho numerous - littlo poems and quotations on thank- fulness and looking on the, bright tide ,-s Especially make a list of the Bible- voraes ffi on God's love and care, reading them r& over often so as to dwell on this and Ilvo in It. If you can- learn, to rest ln the $$ realization that God Is love and grow to IM feel that love Is- about you you will he surrounded by the warmth of it. c. a. p." ) m A lovely and helpful letter which ought 1 to do good to every ono who reads It. The following Is also admirable: ? " I was much Interested In the letter j j f of tho person signing herself ' Unhappy.' J f& I know just how she feels because I hnve , j been In the same box myself, but no j i & I seo things differently and; If It would t WWi help this particular person I will tell my j j story. I. f "When I was married everything vae j: :g rosy. We had a nest-egg laid away; a j. ? little boy came to stay with us and in j 4N a couple of years another little boy. In a j: few years came a third little boy, out i I S--God took him away after a few months. 'fe, I became sick with typhoid after that j f? and came near death myself. Ourntst- I ' ess molted away, my husband became j 1 1 discouraged and so did I. Then we found , & fault with each other; we did not e , ' f why we could not sail along without any i V rough weather I thought my husband , J sffieh and naturally felt hurt because I 'HI could not have lovely dresses, like mj E friends, go to all the club houses ana . H suppers, etc. "Well, I worried and worried and did M not bee a bright side to anything and -M finally I had a slight shock, brought on. H the doctor, said, because I did not go out M enough or eat enough. While I was ill l in- bed it came to m that I anG only I ifjl was making It hard for myself, so I con- pP eluded that sighing for what I could not t4$ have was out of the question now My husband Is away a good deal, out I am P& not alone for I have two boys to live for ,' IjjH and I try to wear a smile instead of a I ifef fiown, to look about me and ;e how r ijjr much better off I am than some others and rT I am trying all I can to help my husband ! 1 by not complaining. v 17 "If 'Unhappy' would just try a ens .- i there lines I am sure sne would fed trt- . ; II s tor. Contented ' ' 'II i May the lesson of the wrile-s of thf- ; lj f-lelters f-lelters help not only " Unhappy " but all I 'j jt othors wno have a complaint to make 1 1 :, against life! , 1 r |