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Show 12 W The Salt Lake Tribune, Sunday, March 14, 1982 Applied labels in marital conflict continue doing. These findings mean spouses tend to look at what the other does over a period of time and then use summary labels to describe how the partner must feel about them and their relationship. Once summary labels are in place, they are difficult to change. When a wife concludes that her husband does not find her as attractive as other women, her conclusion will not easily be altered by his protests or explanations. Some scientists have theorized that it is much more difficult to change a label than it is to arrive at one in the first place. Another reason that the labeling process is important is that spouses describe the same behavior differently. If a husband, at a party, has spent the whole evening with colleagues from work while the wife has been left to fend for herself, she may let him know she didnt appreciate being left alone and is tired of playing second fiddle to his work. The attribution is a stable, general property applied to the husband: You care more about your work than me. A Different View He will see the event in a different light: Well, we just got caught up in talking about this problem weve been working on at the office. He believes his action was due to the situation at hand, and was a temporary, fleeting event. Or he might say, Well, you always complain that we dont get out much. I was just giving you a chance to meet some new people. He is attributing his behavior to a desire to be considerate of his wife. Research has confirmed that such a labeling process is the common pattern. Surra, Ph.D. By Catherine A. Assistant Professor, Family and Human Development Utah State University In my article last Sunday, LOGAN I explained the reasons conflict is inherent in marriage, when the intertwining of spouses lives gives them many opportunities to disagree. The most important level of interdepen- dence is the attribu-- 1 f tional. Research by social . ir Mrs. Souza Mrs. Swenson psychologist Hal Kelly of the University of California at Los Angeles indicates that attributions take the form of labels applied by one spouse to the other and the mar- Mrs. Smith Mrs. Dilley Wedding news attends the University of Utah. She filled an LDS mission to Portugal. The bridegroom, a son of Mr. and Mrs. Joao F. Souza, Sao Paulo, Brazil, is an economics student in Sao Paulo. He filled an LDS mission to Portugal. Hie couple will reside in San Paulo. a Hutchings-Souz- Joan Leilani Hutchings and Renato D. Souza were married Saturday in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. An open house was given at the Butler 9th LDS Ward. Creekside Inn was setting for a wedding breakfast. The bride, a daughter of Cherie L. Hutchings and Robert N. Hutchings, both of Salt Lake City, Belleek, Bemardaud, Ceralene, Ceremonte. Coal port. 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The bridegroom is a son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert D. Dilley, Salt Lake City. Julie Charise Robinson and Michael G. Smith were married Monday in the Salt Lake LDS Temple. l . A reception was given at The Stable. Lion House was setting for a wedding breakfast. The bride, a daughter of Mr. and Mrs. D. Robinson, Salt Lake City, graduated from the University of Utah with a degree in elementary education. She was elected to Phi Eta Sigma. i s near the 6th So. entrance, 2nd level, of Trolley Square. Open 7 day a week. 3551013 The bridegroom, a son of Mr. and Mrs. James V. Smith, Decatur, Ga., received a degree in microbiology from Brigham Young University. The couple will make their home in Atlanta, Ga., where Mr. Smith will study dentistry at Emery University. He filled an LDS mission to Ireland. SMALL IN SIZE BUT LARGE IN CONVENIENCE - a- - 4 P. ' 'mo8 .f: Designed for fhos p ipiflKjp ytywi pi iiHi f n ffrf The couple will be further honored April 9 at an open house in Decatur at the home of the bridegrooms parents. P W twmflM 36" dir Oft ;feWr features feqh v rein and hoot H bminotod toy in a i - choke of wood groit and t r; patterns. Mofcfeng j r.sdharliai pad dad seats In Knight-Ridde- r Newspapers In the mid-60a growing number of people became concerned about televisions preoccupation with murder and mayhem. In particular, the question was asked, What possible adverse effects could a daily dose of video violence have on s, the impressionable chilminds of Americas Accepted Belief The Report to the Surgeon General on Television and Social Behavior, published in 1972, verified that children can, and often do, act on the suggestion, inherent in the themes of many television programs, that violence is an WhWevpkeblary end . way acceptable ground has since become 7' ;?' 77 77 7.7 - i.-- & ? , Ul ;77 .'7.7 ink 7' f Tn. .j77. 7 , &7 34ifiCE 7 7;7 SET i : 7, 3-D- J For Childrens Tele- have a cause celebre, and the networks can demonstrate their sensitivity to social vision, issues by reducing violence on television. In the final analysis, it costs the networks nothing. Suspect Link between lated juvenile chimpanzees in environments that offered no opportunities for play. He observed unusually violent behavior in these chimps when he reunited them with normally reared peers. and aggressive behavior among children. generation is also a more violent generation. Efforts to prove (or disprove) the smoking gun theory, however, might be exercises in barking up the wrong tree. The relationship between television and aggressive behavior in children may have more to do with process than content more to do with the watching than with whats being watched. Animal behaviorist Harry Harlow of the University of Wisconsin iso- Theres certainly reason to a link suspect television that the suggests television Since the early 50s, when television first moved into our homes, the number of violent crimes attributed to juveniles has increased more than Over the same Fantasy Play Psychologist Jerome Singer of Yale University has found evidence that children who engage in frequent fantasy play are less likely to be aggres v CLASSES FOR ' PREGNANT SPECIAL AY advocacy among themselves, but also with their teachers. Even without a final answer from the scientific establishment, the anecdotal evidence strongly EXERCISE 7 70, 'd Is- consumer dents fight not only f Tl I ill 7 ffl '7''7 77.77 After all, the public has a scapegoat on which to hang the growing threat of juvenile aggression; period, public schools have become a battleground where stu- , StOpJn today.' matter. big-cit- y c pjto'dedr of handling conflict and other problem situations. The idea that violence on television can stimulate violence on the play- ( . accepted belief. But, the tie that could forever bind television violence to aggressive behavior in children has yet to be found. The smoking gun theory is still just a theory. No groups, such as Action dren? hr r jutpveiveaneboAsthat ompkoNetti tho Rtoottdng a generally By John Rosemond fritor. - .. , - j. r Reg. $190 .Extra chairs available - Vs a WOMEN ? Starting 1: March 25th For further information call Betsy Hunt 5 ftr JUST ACROSS THE PARKING LOT FROM Resolving Conflict Conflict resolves itself if the spouses, through open exchange of information, can arrive at a common redefinition of the event that triggered the conflict. The label applied to the relationship is now an agreed upon assessment of the relationship and how each should behave in it. The label becomes a rule which helps partners know how to function in future situations. If they can agree that it is necessary for her to become more independent, the way each should act at parties and in other situations becomes clearer and future conflicts are, if not prevented, at least better understood. The alternative is for each partner to insist that the other accept his or her explanation of the event. And in future situations, behavior again will be guided by what both know about their relationship not much. Effects of television on children Robinson-Smit- h Tal-mad- - The labels are general qualities, attitudes and dispositions that are believed by the labeler to accurately describe the state of affairs in the relationship. Some labels are we positive, such as he is a good father, are committed to each other for life, and others are negative she cant be trusted, he doesnt really care about me, and are a major source of conflict in marriage. Research shows that even when partners are asked to specifically describe their problems and desires for change in their relationships only about 40 percent of the examples given are at the attributional level of conflict. The same is found when partners are asked to specify positive things they would like their partners to Because of the different ways spouses perceive the same event, attributional conflicts often carry strong fears of rejection and feelings of anger. In the first place, spouses will expend a lot of energy explaining why their point of view is correct. If spouses are skilled at expressing their point of view, however, and at listening to and trusting their partners, the disagreement can be a time when new information about the other is acquired. Expectations, doubts and assessments about the relationship are revealed. If the conflict is an open even heated one, the spouses may be inclined to express things that should be told, but would not be in the absence of such strong emotion. J 583-315- or J.C.C. 581-009- 8 sive and hostile and incidence of depression, bet- ter able to tolerate frustration than children who, for whatever long regarded by sons, do not engage in games. Chilton Joseph Pearce, make-believ- e of author Magical Child (Bantam New Age Paperbacks, $3.50), writes that play is the most important of all childhood activities. It is through active, imaginative play, Pearce says, that a child develops creative competence, or mastery of his environment. Need Play lime In his latest book, The Bond of Power (E. P. Dutton, $11.50), Pearce adds that when children who are not allowed extensive play time, or whose play is restricted to forms prescribed by adults (e.g. adult-designe- store-boug- d, disturbingly, possible that television can so isolate a child from the world (while seeming to bring the world closer), that rage or retreat are, ht toys), they develop feelings of isolation and come to perceive the world as a threat instead of a challenge. Their anxiety further causes them to either withdraw or attempt to control the world by force. Here it may be interesting to note that the Betrothal Theresa Lynn Fitzpatrick LAS VEGAS, Nev. -- J Mr. and Mrs. Richard' Qosed Sunday ? it s 2144 Highland Drive ' J 6 SugarHoute Las Vegas, Fitzpatrick, announce the engage-- and friends to loin them in honor big him on his 0th Birthday at an Open House, on Wednesday, March 17, 192, 7:D4-0from p m. in the evening at the ; Ambassador Athletic Club. 145 South 500 East, Salt Lake City, Utah. 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LARSEN 80Hl BIRTHDAY relatives and psychiatrists psychologists as violence turned within, is also on the rise among our nations children. The average American child, while he sits and stares at 32 hours of television a week, is not playing in any sense of the term. He is not doing anything but watching, which is hardly doing anything at all. If play is as essential to the formation of a healthy personality as Harlow, Singer and Pearce think, then television is fundamentally unhealthy for children, regardless of the program being watched. It is distinctly, and rea- djwfHi mirtfgi 1 Awuol paroantago rot 967-033- 2 toon wtlh grofiOtad 39 on o 3 635 p Mri roto ' |