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Show Flirtation comes under scrutiny By Glenn Collins N.Y. Times Writer NEW YORK The glory of flirtation, aside from its undeniable pleasure as a pastime, is that it has so frustrated social scientists attempts to study it. The major charm of flirtation is that its such a very difficult behavior to study, because it's so subtle and said Maury Silver, an evanescent, assistant professor of psychology at Johns Hopkins University. Psychologists like to make precise the things that seem fuzzy, said John Sabini, an associate professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. But the essential quality of flirtation is ambiguity. Once flirtation becomes explicit, it may be a lot of things, but its no longer flirtation. Dr. Silver and Dr. Sabini are engaged in research into what they term the moralities of everyday life, and one of their focuses is flirtation. Flirtation is a phenomenon that invites an exploration of the nature of ambiguity, said Dr. Sabini. Noncommitting by Definition have examined the motivations of flirtation Aristotle first defined the problem of responsibility for behavior that may or may not be intentional. In recent years, the sociologist Erving Goffman has observed the behaviors that people use to form affiliations for example, varieties of touching and g that can be attributes of flirtation. Others have studied flirtation as a form of communication, and Peter Blau, a sociologist at Columbia University, looked at flirtation from, an "economic negotiation standpoint. He theorized that flirtation is a form of bartering where men may be seeking sexual conquest while women may be looking for commitments. out those reasons, and the ambiguities of flirtatious behavior, in a book to be published next month by Oxford UniThe Moralities of versity Press, Everyday Life." But what is the difference between When youre teasing and flirting? said accusing someone of teasing, The Salt Lake Tribune, Sunday, March 14, 1982 H5 - I Sabini, you're really accusing them of having made the point of the game abvious and then of reneging on that overt commitment. Whether you get in over your head or not depends on the sophistication of your partner and whether he or she is aware of the fascinating game youre both playing. hand-holdin- ,re& . awing Uemonstratiori Form of Negotiating Flirtation may in fact have that aspect," said Silver, but its common for people to flirt with those with whom they really have no intention of having sex. So if its a negotiation, its hard to imagine what they may be negotiating about. Silver said that it isnt always easy for researchers to label formal flirting behaviors because almost ar.y kind of from activity can further a flirtation playing footsie, to wearing certain clothing, to, he said, stepping on your dates toe to get a reaction, or even if that is deemed ignoring your date part of the game. The purpose of flirtation would seem obvious: sex. It seems to be simple, but it isnt, said Silver. In many cases its clear the purpose is not sex. Most flirtations dont end up in a sexual way, and arent expected to. Easy as Pie The word flirt derives from the Old French word fleureter: to touch lightly, or to move from flower to flower. Flirtation is a behavior that is noncommitting by definition, said Dr. Silver. Once you say to someone, Lets go to bed, then youre not flirting anymore youre making a rather explicit proposition, he said. If I kiss my wife passionately, it may be enjoyable, but its not flirtation. Ambiguity is essential to flirtation, said Silver, because it allows people to test others reactions without any overt commitment, leaving open a graceful Compare to Chess exit. One may also use ambiguity to disguise the activity from oneself, he The researchers make the comparisaid. This permits us to take pleasure in son with chess: One can play chess for flirtation without fully knowing what to make money, to many reasons were really doing. have friends, or to prove ones intelligence but the point of the game is to Keep It Subtle mate ones opponent. Both people may be aware of said Sabini, you can or only one flirtSimilarly, said Silver, flirting, for many purposes to pass the be or both aware, people time, to play a game, to achieve a partner may may be unaware. However, the one sexual goal but you have to play the thing you cannot do in flirtation is to game by its rules. 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