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Show FOREIGN PARENTS RAISE OBJECTIONS Br BETTY BLAIR Racial and national traditions and customs rear barriers of prejudice that seem insurmountable until the mallet and chisel of common ; environment and education has been at work on them long enough to reduce them to a common level. I Dear Miss Blair: I am a boy of foreign parentage though 1 was born in America. I am In love with a girl whose Heart's Haven parents were also foreign, but from a different part of Kurope entirely than mine. When I mention men-tion this girl to my parents, they ' show their disgust of all people of her nationality. When she mentions my name to her family, they talk fast and show they have Bo use for us. We would like our parents to feel differently, as we hope to get married as soon as I am making mak-ing mors money. How can we make them see they -are both nice folks and should get acquainted? ac-quainted? Thanks for belp. "Oley" e e e National r. ibits and customs take a bulldog grip on people and hold on not only with tenacity but Indefinitely, In-definitely, "Oley." If you can get people together over a period of time, long enough that they will have abandoned some of their distinctive dis-tinctive national habits and adopted adopt-ed some of the common customs of the new country, they may begin to like each other. But so long as each stays pinned up In the blanket of his own traditions, it Is hopeless to expect the two families to be friends. Ths English, Scotch, Irish, Scandinavians Scan-dinavians and northwest Europeans in general have had about the same habits and beliefs for centuries. But . whea Italians or Poles, for example, first arrive In the United States or Canada, they are so different In their ways of life that marriage with each other or with any in the ether group la sure to bring trouble. But give them time to benefit by a common environment . and the chances for happiness are greater. Need Melting Pot However, It Is hardly possible to expect this to happen to the generation gen-eration coming hers. It takes a aecond and third generation of the melting pot treatment to make them enough alike each other that their differences seem like little things. Then common education and manners link them together. That la why, if you are greatly attached to your own family, and their consent is necessary to your happiness, you are running a risk, so far as happiness in marriage is concerned, by marrying outside your own nationality or at least outside the group that for generations has Lived by similar traditions and customs. cus-toms. WORD TO 'BUSS' Dear Hue Blair: I would like to pass on a word to "Bliss" about making tomato soup. After the milk and tomatoes toma-toes have heated separately, add H teaspoonful of baking soda to two cups of the tomato juice. Let h flsa up and go dowa again. Then combine the tomatoes and milk and serve. I have always found this successful and hope you will too. "M. a" a a Thank you, "M. B " Comments from readers are always welcome. TO BE INTERESTING Dear Miss Bialr: Will you please name a few asagaainea that will help to increase in-crease one's knowledge and also help him to become a good conversationalist? con-versationalist? How else than by reading may one develop the art of conversation? Thank you. "Uninteresting" o e e Read such magasines as Time, Reader's Digest, Current Digest, and other digest magasines. The Forum, Harpers, Scribners, Atlantic Atlan-tic Monthly, American magaxine. to ' determine the kind that really suits you beat AM to CeaTereatlea Tea, reading good magasines Is an aid to conversation, for you must nave something to talk about before be-fore you can ably converse. It's true plenty of people talk and never any anything, but I'm sure you want to avoid Joining the ranks of this class. After reading, be sure you practice prac-tice telling what you have read, simply and Interestingly to others. If you must practice to yourself In the mirror first to get up oour-age, oour-age, do so, but don't fail to practive an someone else, too. Don't band out your knowledge with the idea of trying to instruct someone else or you will be a bore. Try rather to be entertaining and to slip in a comment where your views would lend interest. TO PICKIX ONIONS, -MBS. A." Pour boikng brine made strong enough to hold up an egg over the small button onions, let them stand 24 hours, then drain and cover with hot vinegar apiced to taste. HOME-MADE SACHET Tes. "Ila," you can make your own sachet Take lemon verbena, dry It and put it in organdie bags. Balsam may go in small bags for the linens. Withered gardenia blossoms blos-soms carry their scent for weeks. Or you may buy sacbet mixtures by the ounce at the drug and department depart-ment stores and make your own organdie or-gandie bags for them |