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Show MARRIAGE DREAMS FADE OVER IN-LAWS By BETTY BLAIR None need ever expect success at any undertaking that ii begun with dislike and a disinclination to adjust to its requirements. 1 ' ! Dear Miss Blair: ' J There is only one thing that is i keeping me from marrying the ' man I love and that is that he - wants me to go and live with his folks until we can save enough , money to set up housekeeping for , ourselves. J Now, I am not laiy, andI don't , Bind "working T have always Heart's Haven j worked at home and now have a s Job that is no pink tea but what , I don't like Is to go into the home c of my intended's family and be 1 expected to work all day long, J with no time at all for myself. Work and No Play They are people who live on a farm and there is plenty to do. The mother thinks It is terrible if anyone should sit down to rest, or want any time to herself. She ays the most Insulting things about her other daughter-in-law, who la a nice girl, but who believes be-lieves in doing other things as mother-in-law thinks she should stay at home all day long, cleaning, clean-ing, cooking, sewing, and making work when there is none. I don't believe In this, either, and for this reason I don't want to get married now. My fiance thinks I don't really love him or I would marry him now when his folks have aaid they would be glad to have us come to the farm and live. Please tell me what you think about It. "WONDERING." e e It would be roily for you to marry nd go to the home of your In-laws to live unless you could change your frame of mind to fit In with conditions condi-tions you would find there. The continual con-tinual irritation you would be undergoing un-dergoing mentally would not only be bad for your health, but It would be destructive to the fine spiritual values that should be built up between be-tween husband and wife in the first Months of their marriage. Every young married couple should, from the beginning, build up their communal Interests with each other in their plans, their hopes, their Interests. It is Impossible Impossi-ble to do this If you hsvs to live the aommunal life of another family. ; Must Look to Fnture Tell your husband this and that Jt la out of respect for your own future, fu-ture, as well as for the fact that jrou would Hke your in-laws to think kindly of you, that you can't accept the plan to live with them. Tell him you would rather work and save and plan for the time when you can set tip housekeeping In a humble establishment estab-lishment by yourselves; that happiness happi-ness lies that way, but not through living with others. Tell him it Is because be-cause you do love him and wsnt that love to reach Its mature marital mari-tal depths that you are choosing as 70a do. ; Live within your means during Uhe time you are saving for the great day. Bo many girls are extravagant 'in unassentials. Jewelry, treats, more movies than the budget allows, accessories these take up the surplus sur-plus money that might be put on jrour savings account. And remember remem-ber that waiting doaan't aeem so ;)ong when your dreams are finding Actual fulfillment while you wait. , DOLL HOSPITAL Kindly send stamped, self-addressed envelope for the name and address of the doll hospital, since !we may not use this kind of Infor-matlon Infor-matlon in the column. i PETS NEED HOMES Three "cute" kittens await good homes at 414 Fletcher court, be- tween Ninth Esst and Tenth East t streets on Fourth South street. I MOTE TO H. B.' . Lost pups must find their own-1 ers through the advertising col- umns. We hope your storm-lost Z waif will tare well at your bands until owners find him. If owners t do not claim hire within a reason- able length of time, let us know. 'mincemeat fob WANA-pnr Two pounds lean beef, pound beef suet, 4 pounds apples, 1 pounds seeded raisins, 1 pound cleaned currants, cur-rants, 1 pound shredded citron, ' pound caddied orange peel, 3 pounds -light brown sugar, t quarts sweet "cider or the equivalent in fruit I juices, 1 cup molasses. 1 cup meat 'stock, 1 teaspoons (level) salt for Zsalting the meat, 1 fiutmeg. grated: 1 tablespoon ground cinnamon, 1 'teaspoon ground allspice, 1 cup preserved pre-served cherries or strawberries. Boil meat until tender and then ' boil rapidly at last to reduce stock - to one cup. Let cool in stock. When cool remove from stock and carefully care-fully trim away fat, gristle and bone. Put meat through food chopper and strain stock. Mince suet. pare, core and chop apples, chop raisins. Cook all ingredients except preserves pre-serves in preserving kettle over low fire for about two hours, stirring to prevent sticking. Add preserves if liked. |