Show om sins Women omen Live in in Past an and Wonders Why They Enjoy Feeling Bad Bade For or Things That at Should Be e Forgotten The l e Girls Have the Boys All Wrong Divorce Divor t Law in Utah Romance in in Library By BETTY BLAIR M Memory mory is the greatest of ot the vices Any habit good i or bad is a vice if indulged in to excess and remembering things that should be forgotten is a bad habit Too much Indulgence in the past may invite a complex There are times when one should forget to remember De Dear r Miss l Blair Please tell me wh why it Is b a woman woman wo wo- wo- wo man mm Insists on living in the past Why Wily does she enjoy feeling bad bd o over something that happened d months in the past CURIOUS i The woman who insists on living r in the past while she is still young oung j and vigorous is the exception to the rule She is the woman woman woman wo wo- man who is never t happy unless she is miserable and is in reality a psychopathic c case casc But it iL is neverA nevertheless nevertheless never never- A true that while 4 most normal women d' d do not insist on living in the past the past Insists Insists insists In in- on living in them to a certain extent t Memory is a treacherous 4 r F erous thing and it is through memory that the past through the least association of ideas rears its head out of caverns where it was supposed to be deeply buried and sends its Us poisoned darts after its victim Men are arc no less victims of this tr treachery chery than are women Visit thesa the sa same a provocations upon their heads and they will remember it against you to your dying day and get geL a bitter sat sat- satisfaction satisfaction satisfaction whenever the occasion warrants war wor- wor rants In reminders True they may not get the weeps over remembrance of the wrong done them as a woman does but memories revived by a sudden n word or a Q fancied wrong akin to the real will put them in the glooms Blooms or bring from rom them sarcasm sarcasm sarcasm sar sar- sar- sar or bitter words A woman not yet et hardened to the slings and arrows of ot life Ufe not yet having built up a resistance to a wrong done her in violation of her fondest dreams will give way way under stress of the flood of resentment and hurt pride which can be as strong with memory as It was with its first occurrence occurrence occurrence occur occur- rence and md it is true fairly wallow in int her grief She sees herself as unloved I t t as having lost the place of respect she r f had bid thought she held in her sweet sweet- sweethearts sweetheart's sweethearts sweetheart's i hearts heart's or her husbands husband's affections Letters questions and requests re re- quests for advice should be addressed addressed ad ad- dressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of the thc paper It Lt is nece necessary sary that you app append ap ap- ap- ap p pond pend nd the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these these- will be held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving involving involving in in- advertising information cannot be answered Letters requiring personal reply must be accompanied by stamped self addressed addressed envelopes Ed And the least little thing or big thing that toot happens thereafter only serves through memory to pile up evidence for her that there must be another who has taken token her place or that if she could so be forgotten org once there Is ls noU nothing ng to prove that she may not be so forgotten a second time and a third Of course the sensible thing for forthe forthe the woman so besieged by memory to do is to make the grand attempt to outwit it If she doesn't do so she is apt to fos foster r that worst of all character charac charac- ter softeners self She must say sayto sayto sayto to herself I let It get me last time but much as it still hurts I will not show again how much it ge gets me down inwardly And in order not to show it she must often exaggerate her unconcern unconcern unconcern un un- concern over the whole matter She must try to remember that the offender is after all a growing up child as which of us Is not and that he probably acted on impulse end and not at all aU in accordance with his truer deeper feelings She must feel teel the regality of her own place in his rus- She must seem to have forgiven forgiven for for- given and forgotten utterly for tor there Is Ls n nothing thing like this latter act in setting set ting Ling up prohibitory forces against a repetition of the offense The woman who says repeatedly You done me wrong once and there is no reason why I 1 shouldn't suspect you ou will do it again only opens the way for a repetition repetition repe repe- t of the wrong or even for some some- thing worse for there is progressiveness progressive- progressive ness even in wrongdoing NOT Nor NECESSARILY BASHFUL Dear Miss lUIss Blair We would like to know why It ItIs Itis Is II the girls thing thine we are bashful just because we are arc not petting them all aU the time We would like to hear some girls' girls thoughts on the subject PAT AND MIKE We think you must be acquainted with the wrong girls Pat and Mike r But Jut we too would like to hear what they hey have to say for themselves Surely such a general charge demands some explanation or defense But even should all aU the girls agree that a aboy aboy boy must be bashful if he will not pet we hope you would prefer that charge to the one of being a common petter UTAH UrAH DIVORCE LAW Dear Miss l Blair Wr If U a person living In Utah and divorced there was married in another another another an an- other state In less than the six months' months required by the Utah law to make the divorce valid lid and then returned Immediately to live in Utah would the divorce be considered legal Jera In Utah MR l T. T Since the two concerned are not legally divorced in this state and therefore not in another until the required required re re- re six months have passed a remarriage remarriage remarriage re re- marriage in another state would be I illegal no matter where the couple lived LIBRARY ROMANCE Dear Miss Blair I am a young youn man auto through h high school and unable to go 0 to college col lege because of a II lack Jack of funds I am trying however to occupy my time in self preparation for the time when I can go 0 to college and andI I spend many hours in the library reading books on economy and md so so- While there I have met meta a a. girl who is also trying to add to her knowledge though she Isn't especially Interested in the same subjects she spends about as many hours there as s I do I have become so Interested In her that when she falls fails to come at the usual hour I find I dont don't get tet any studying done I read a a. line and then look to see If the person entering Is she Then I read this same line over again and take another another another an an- other look Altogether ether by the tho time I have read each line about a dozen times and still sUII have but but a avery avery very hazy Idea what It Is all about I am too exasperated to settle down to study and so that period Is entirely wasted waded for me On the other hand when she arrives and sits opposite me in the corner where we both have the habit of going I can settle down and sad study like a professor The very fact that th she is sitting there across the table from mo rue settles my nerves I occasionally glance up and one look Jook at at her absorbed In her book Is a great Ireat satisfaction and puts me back to work I think of her when at nt home and always hurry just a little faster to get Id to the library than I Idid Idid Idid did before I be began an to notice this girl Do you think I can be falling failIng falling fall fail ing In love Jove with her We always alwa's speak peak to each tach other though because because be be- cause of library rules rule we cant can't converse c When she Is ready to togo togo too go o she always seems in a a. hurry so 50 I dont don't offer otter to go 10 at the same time Please give rive me your advice and opinion LIBRARY HOUND The fact act that you get so much satIsfaction satisfaction satisfaction sat sat- from seeing this girl sitting dally daily across the library table from you suggests very strongly that she might not look too bad sitting opposite you at your own breakfast table But Butof Butof Butof of course for forr a fl boy just out of ot high school and financially unable to go to college the consummation of such dreams remains in the distant future Until you have the opportunity to really become acquainted with wIlh this girl I should not spend too much time dreaming But you might say to her herIn herin herin in a friendly Uy wry the day after her failure to put in an appearance I missed you yesterday Then why dont don't you try staying away on occasional days yourself Get the point And though conversation is forbidden forbidden forbidden forbid forbid- den whole volumes may be read inthe inthe in inthe the eyes 1 if you are a good inter inter- preter By such slow degrees may reel real friendships spring up And anything anything anything any any- thing warmer than that must be built on OD friendship anyway |