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Show i ; r.'"N Ben F. Mortensen, Ph.D. 1 i Relationship Problems -! : Marital and Otherwise , i There appears to be widespread ,sf! agreement that, while marriage is one of the richest and most e rewarding of all human relational!: relation-al!: ships, it is also the most complex hi and requires the greatest amount of p effort. The United States has one fa o the highest divorce rates in the world. There are many causes of . marital unhappiness. Usually involved in-volved in most marital problems ' are poor communication and the lack of an effective method for s ; settling disagreements. Hi We live in a society in which we have never been taught how to communicate in depth with another human being. There are two levels 1 in any communication between j husband and wife: the content level and the feeling level. The content . level involves talking about "Did it haDDen on WednesHav nr Hid it --"-(valuable coupon) j Rent 1 Movie$? 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Whenever there is a loser in "solving a problem, the relationship loses. Sooner or later, 'ser, consciously or un-Mnsciously, un-Mnsciously, will get revenge with - Merest added. 1 A part of the psychological 'ment of marital problems ""any involves teaching the couple c mmunication skills, "ychologlsts have developed rnumcation techniques that can J au8n and which will improve LqUJUty and dePth of if"18 between husband and !).' , frequently involved in couni. almenl is Caching the P'e methods of resolving con- bou,a1d Agreements so that a , es win' ralner than having manm situatin- In treatment of usuallJ problems. the partners are psvchn. Seen 'aether by the ho g,St- 0cc'onally, the Sl'g,st mfly ant to see each onTor 8n indiv'dual basis for goal ic . sessions. 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