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Show FRIENDS' INTERFERENCE LEADS BOY TO BELIEVE THEM WATCH' BREAKERS By BETTY BLAIR Whatever significance we may attach to the activities of friends tn our behalf, it is well for our own peace of mind to lift matters to the bottom in frankness of (peech with those moat concerned. This will either allay suspicion or prepare one to act in case sus- picions prove true. Dear Miss Blair: Will you please help me with my problem? I have been going with a girl ever since the last of March almost a year ago. We havent had any trouble, but it seems that she and her friends want me to go with other girls, but I don't want to. I think ber friends want to break us up. I know I love this girl. I don't have to go with other girls to find this out. I think she loves me, too, only she doesn't see through what her friends ar trying to do. If she could only see through the whole thing, as I do, she wouldn't want ue to go with different boys and girls. Pleas help me. -WAITING." Why dont you talk quite plainly to your friend about your depth of affection for her, and your sureness of yoursefl and your unwavering attitude. After that if she still make of the family car to keep peace at home and not to create too great a hardship hard-ship on parents or adult children? chil-dren? Both parents and young people of driving age are invited to give a solution to this problem. Your Ideas may help another family to solve the problem. Write your solution In not more than 200 words and mall K to Betty Blair, Salt Lake Telegram. The best letter will receive an award of IS. Letters must be post-markad post-markad not later than midnight, mid-night, Saturday, January SO. Winning letters will be published pub-lished in Heart's Haven, but real names will not be used. wants to break up th steadiness with which you have been going together, tell her you r perfectly willing to do so. Tell her a change doesn't hurt anybody, Th more willing you are to give her this opportunity to meet other boys, the more willing you seem to be to want to take out other girls, th more careful ah will be about squandering her affections on ethers. As soon aa she begins to feel she Isn't quit sure of you. th better she will like you. It may be true that friends ar trying to break you up. Why not suggest this to her t see what her reaction la? Usually young people feel better, when a crisis arises 'between them, after talking things ever. Try this method ef laying all your card en ths table. Sometimes ' that Is all It requires te give you a clear idea as to what you want to do yourself. You may decide that you want a few weeks' vacation front each other. And th vacation may product unlooktd for results that in tht tnd provt better than tht eld. CRYING CHILD Dear Miss Blair: I am 21 years old and happily married. I have two daughters, one of 2 months and tht other 2 years. But here la my problem. My eldest child erles all tht tlmt, not because she Is sick or because . something hurts her physically. If I ask her te de something she cries. If I ask her to eat her dinner sht cries If I punish her . for crying and whining aht doesn't teem to understand why '. I'm doing K. I talk to her and ' explain that when she stops cry- , Ing and whining tht can gat off tht ehalr. But ah feels that I ' am punishing her not because of any fault ef hers. Whenever shs talks at all or aska for anything It's In a half-crying half-crying tone. The older she gets, th worse It Is. When I ask her to do or not to de anything she goes right on her own way as If - 1 hadn't spoken, although I know ah has understood what I hav said to her. Sh is truly a puzxl. Can you help me? "MRS. N." Tour little 2-year-old daughter. . whose place hat been taken by an-, an-, other baby la the family, needs . more love, mora directing by play , and cheerful methods, to be mad . to understand that she has a right-. right-. ful place In your heart Hart Is only a repetition of the , exprinc of many hundred ef children forced to tak a second place In th family life by a new baby. Ignore her crying and whin-'. whin-'. big as much as possible. Stop i punishing her for It It is her language lan-guage of revolt for what has token place. Remove the cause of revolt ' and your cbild'e nature will change. . Teach her by game to be a ' happy bird that sings and flies about the room doing the Utile things yoa ask her to do. Be the mother bird and de things with her In kindness and with a cheerful attitude. Shower mora affection on ber. My heart goes out to th baby who has to crest a whole new world for herself when mother has a new little one demanding moat of her time, attention and love. She is merely showing rebellion, and th longer you give cause for this rebellion re-bellion th mora obdurate will become be-come the habit of crying and whining. whin-ing. Chang your tactics with her and you will soon find her tear and whine changing Into joyoua childlike laughter and willingness to play th game of life with you. |