Show jJJJHwjjJoonMMoganifahundajlovenTbPMjji lv' i £& 'jtf Early years of marriage Parents convey sex images to children very liitle information from her parents none at least that was helpful in understanding her own sexual feelings When the researcher asked her how she would communicate with her children about their sexual feelings she responded by saying that she’d already started by allowing her childreri to watch their dog have puppies She had explained the terminology involved in the birth process She further said that when her eight-an- d children were older that she would talk with them about their sexual feelings Ironically this mother had just recalled her own feelings as a young child but was denying them in her children Sexuality is a topic that can be and should be openly discussed within a family This does not mean that each family member should be denied their privacy It does mean however that establishing honest and open communication can be a family goal if this type of comRecognizably munication has not been a part of a family’s format it may be difficult to begin But a beginning is a great deal closer to being responsible for taking the steps toward being the primary sex educator in your children's lives than no attempt at all Current polls regarding parental effectiveness in the sex education of their children rates parents as ineffective Parents are not the primary source of sexual information for their children If parents are to have a greater impact changes within a family toward making sexuality a topic that can comfortably be discussed needs to occur It is necessary not only to try to answer questions your children have but to let children know that they are respected for their sexual feelings and that these feelings can be aired in an By Joel Wells All parents provide sex education for their children Mothers and fathers convey messages about sexuality no matter whether sex is ever mentioned in their home Attitudes each parent holds toward the other parent's andor maleness femalcncss and the interaction each has with the other is one of the bases for learning sex roles and establishing feelings of sexuality Sex roles ultimately come into play in establishing meaningful relationships throughout one’s life Children model these roles and incorporate them into their sexual Identity It is important that children feel good about their gender These feelings can be positively developed through parental recognition of their own feminity andor masculinity and what this represents to them and their relationships with other people Parents frequently not do associate sex roles with sexuality and yet our understanding of roles enables us to build positive or negative through identification with others of our sex and of the opposite sex The earliest role models are most often parents or close acquaintances of our parents The greater the identification a child has the more influendal the parent may be in helping their child' or children beeome healthy sexual beings As sexual beings we need to recognize that sexuality begins long before the onset of puberty and in fact is readily apparent in the infant Parents often have a difficult time accepting their children as sexual beings This is perhaps better illustrated by a young mother who told a researcher about her own sexual feelings as a growing child She stated that she had received self-feelin- NJ SOMERSET Undercoat — (UPI) A product introduced troducing wallpaper a in- new undercoat said to make almost all understanding and supportive way The following guidelines might be helpful in providing more positive sex education for your children — Recognize your children as sexual beings and as having sexual feelings — Always answer questions honestly and correctly You don't have to be an expert But if you don't know how to answer your child's question(s) find out — If you ask for time to think of a response to a question posed by your child make sure you get back to your child when you promised to do so Not following up on questions is one of the fastest ways to lose communication — If you feel you have bungled a response to a question or you wish to add something more go back to your child and say that you’ve thought of a better answer Go back as many times as you feel is necessary to feel good about your response — Approach your child positively with questions or concerns you have about what your child now knows about sexuality especially if your child has not approached you with questions We often miss out on our opportunities to be instrumental in talking with our children about sexuality because of the misconception of “too much too soon’’ Trust your children to “turn your off if your explanations are too technical or are “over their heads’’ — Communication is the key Creating a bases for more positive communication between parent and child will prove to be a more rewarding experience for both of you as a parent as well as for your child Joel Wells it an assistant professor In the Utah State University Department of Family and Human Development a painted old wallcoverings plaster wallcoverings strippable when dry resin The water-base- d coating can be applied to any wall surface be it new waliboard cured Somerset manufacturer is and wallpaper are crucial to families sur-vac- shifts associated with early marriage it might be helpful to determine areas where change has been most disruptive and to discuss with the spouse acceptable ways of alleviating the discrepancy between what was expected and what is Of course professional consultation may be helpful in this regard Catherine Surra Stump li an assistant professor in the Utah State University Department ol Family and Human Development the SHffctSHacfc o TEAM SHIRTS a JERSEYS a FASHION TEES a INFANT TEES a PHOTOS ON TEES a LETTERING a OVER 100 DESIGNS CUSTOM DESIGNS FOR TEAMS - SCHOOLS - GROUPS QUALITY DISCOUNTS a Independence urged "We encourage all Latter-da- y Saint families to become and independent" LDS President Spencer W Kimball says “Recognizing that the family is the basic nnit of both the church snd society generally we call upon Latter-da-y Saints everywhere to strengthen and beautify the home" President Kimball has said To strengthen the family and build members are expected to work hard avoid debt and store a year’s supply of food clothing and fuel for emergency he has indicated self-relia- nt self-respe- ct watch for GRAND OPENING IN NOVEMBER Stunt 1209 No Main Logan Utah Shacit sealer and eliminates the e need for sizing wood or metal The ( Continued from page 23 ) resented the fact that they were expected to give up time spent in bobbies and their “nights out with the boys’’ And some respondents both males and females felt like they had been tricked into marriage by mates who never really loved them even though they felt loved while dating For these respondents marriage held many surprises They experienced things they hadn't bargained for They did not anticipate or prepare for changes in self image the mate’s expectations for behavior social life and even in the emotional bonds which held the partners together as daters Other research indicates that engaged partners who work out agreement on a variety of life domains (for example money matters use of leisure time) score high in the frequency of affectional and companionship activities and have parental approval of their relationship achieve greater marital success in the first three years of marriage than couples who do not We can conclude that the transition to marriage is smoother for couples who enter marriage with a clear mutual understanding of their spousal roles and of the social demands which accompany them Of course it is difficult to know what marriage is really like before we are in it but those who are considering marriage should be encouraged to assess their own and their partner’s beliefs about marriage and to talk to others who are experiencing the 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