Show Logan Utah Sunday Doctor Lamb On loss of appetite By Lawrence LambMD DEAR DR LAMB — For the last year I have not nad a proper appetite which makes it rather difficult to be interested in cooking proper meals for myself I ve been alone for eight years and some think this causes a loss of appetite My mother was this way in later years and I knew it must be miserable and now I really know it is I'm 65 and do not have to watch my weight Is it normal for people as they grow older to lose their appetite? Sometimes especially in the evenings I hate the thought of eating DEAR READER — I don't like to use the term normal but it certainly is frequent Many people who ByJoanHanauer UPITV Writer NEW YORK (UP1) — Once upon a time birth and marriage and aging and death all took place within the home Those milestones of life have increasingly become institutionalized in modern America — but not for some people That's the area covered in “Home" a documentary by John Reilly and Julie Gustafson that PBS will broadcast Nov 4 at 10 pm (check local listings) The program is broken up into four case studies with the most poignant concerning aging and death — perhaps because it is a land where we all will be forced to travel someday As somebody once said about aging — think of the alterative The show opens on a high note however — with the birth of a child assisted by a midwife in an maternity center For those who are squeamish about reality — the actual birth of the shot of the child is show including a head-oemerging baby The segment on marriage also is upbeat — a divorced mother of two boys marries a man she feels she really needs in an elaborate and formal ceremony that marks an emotional high point of their lives But the heart of the show lies with two old women One is widow who has been placed in a nursing home by her middle aged children A woman with a deep voice and granite jaw — no frail little powder puff lady despite her crippling hip injury — she obviously believes her life is over She yearns for the past when her husband was alive and her health was steady And she nurses her resentments — unexpressed and yet why does she mention that her son has room but not his enough in him home for his mother-in-lamother The final case study offers an axample of sacrifice that the viewer will admire — but not necessarily imitate It Is titled "Death of a Parent” and deals with a woman — again a widow — suffering terminal cancer She entered the hospital for diagnosis of what she expected would be a minor complaint But the news was bad the prognosis hopeless and her family never expected her to leave the hospital alive But the hospital suddenly warned it was releasing her in two days Her son — a bearded young nan thin to the point of emaciation — volunteered to live with her for her last weeks helped by other family members rather than place her in a nursing home “She has never turned her back on anybody in her life” her son said He talked about his childhood when he remembered a grandparent who had to be carried around and was always spitting into a handkerchief Those grandparents are still spitting into handkerchiefs but they are put somewhere because it's n w Itmmitlii Inn Ask Ann Landers in SLCmiIiI LAKE CITY The Hamada Inns of Phoenix has sold its Salt Lake City hotel to a San Jose Calif firm Realm Corp President Howard Matthews said the transartion for acquisition of the hotel was completed Thursday Realm which was founded in 1970 owns four hotels in California two in Oregon one in New Mexico and one in SALT Il live alone gel mil ns a result tin) Ium their appetite and may lose Height Actually luv of appetite is a symptom To find uut what it means a person should have a medical examination The social factors of eating are important which is another reason pioplc who live alone may neglect their nutrition See your physician If you have a medical problem he may be able to help you If you have a depression you might need some professional help which could improve your total enjoyment of life in addition to just enjoying food The only other suggestion 1 would make is to eliminate cigarettes if you use them and to improve your physical activity Regular walks might stimulate your appetite a little more Mcunw liile I'm sending you The Health Letter number Depression: The Ups And Downs Of Life so you'll have a better idea how such problems can affect your appetite Others who want this issue can send 75 cents with a long stamped envelope for it Send your request to me in rare of The Herald Journal PO Box 1551 Radio City Station New York NY 10019 DEAR DR LAMB — I would like to see something about bags under the eyes I've asked my doctor about this and all I get is it can be caused by a number of things He said it could be from an anemia but he didn't think that was my problem or it could be from fatigue I've heard for years that strong glasses dissipation or kidney trouble causes you to get pronounced bags under the eyes DEAR READER — You could fill a book on the number of things that people have claimed will happen to you if you dissipate Dissipation usually includes any activity that the person talking about it doesn't approve of You can get swelling around the eyes from an accumulation of fluid Fluid tends to accumulate wherever the skin and tissues are loose as they are around the eyes In this case fluid is apt to accumulate during the night and be particularly prominent in the morning There are a list of medical conditions that can contribute to the accumulation of flued This includes kidney disease and heart disease and any allergic problem that tends to block the normal drainage of fluids through the nose sinus and eye area A more common cause of bags underneath the eye is the enlargment of the normal fat pad underneath the lower eyelid We all have one and like all other fat pads they can be large or small Finally the skin stretches as one gets older and may sag This is a fairly common problem The surgical removal of excess skin and fat pads is relatively simple in the hands of a trained cosmetic surgeon (Newspaper Enterprise Assn) A!i ANN LANDERS A mu aiiou ft lu "Tungnc Tied in Appleton" Ueli-iii- l nu li wao good hui think that mother moiv help H ou rcmrinlier she asked for nlv u r on how to answer her 14 year old daughter w ho said ’ 1 know I'm a rotten kid hut if a your fault ” you raised me You told her in effect to tell the win iv almut what other people think Listen to HER No matter what she says all she wunls is for you to love her Mother Of Four Who's Been There DEAR MOTHER: 1 s r Thank you for those excellent guidelines relationships are never easy for a wide variety of reasons Any mother who says “My daughter never gave me a moment's trouble or a single heartache" is not leveling I honestly believe that it is not possible for u daughter to completely understand nr appreciate her own mother until she has a daughter of her own - lonely? Do you feel awkward Welcome to the club There's help for you in Ann Landers' booklet “The Key to Popularity" Send 50 cents with your request and a long stamped envelope to Ann Landers PO Box 11995 Chicago Illinois 60611 Mother-daughte- daughter she could change and make something of herself Of course she can but she ran do it a lot easier with her mother's help I have a few r suggestions for (he mother that will ease a tense and unhappy situation: 1 Never engage in a shouting match with your daughter If she screams bite your tongue lower your voice and say any thing you feel compelled to say in a voice only slightly above a whisper If you can't manage that tell her quietly that you will discuss the subject with her when you are calmer Then do it 2 Never let her reduce you to tears You are an important person too When she gets out of hand send her to her room deprive her of a privilege but don't let her defeat you 3 Let her know you love her Tell her the next time she rages at you that there is nothing she can say that will cause you to stop loving her You may not like her behavior but she is your daughter and you are committed to loving her so let her know she might as well stop trying to alienate you (Don't worry there will be times when you can't stand her but remember you're probably not lovable all the time d I'l 1 J at 0 as i (LTD — 308-roo- Arizona The company is also developing two in- - Hiicirivf iwmnHinf either) 4 Touch her a lot This is important! When she's glued to TV and you pass by her chair reach out and pat her Give her lots of hugs and don't be put off by her groans or pulling away 5 Try not to criticize too often Suggest if you must but don't be on her back about every little thing Save your “nos'' and “don'ts" for the biggies and MAKE THEM STICK! 6 Stop blaming your husband for not spending time and gone a lot that is his with her If he is stand-offisproblem — and his loss You are responsible for your relationship with your child and you cannot control anyone else's attitude or behavior 7 When you reprimand her (if you must) in your d quiet voice choose good language find “I Example: your offensive behavior unacceptable" It will be far more effective than “You are a rotten kid” Remember that 14 is a tough age It's not easy to grow up and this baby you rocked in your arms is finding it more difficult than it was in your day Don't h newly-acquire- ENDS THURSDAY Today's almanac By United Press International Today is Sunday Nov 4 the 308th day of 1979 with 57 to follow The moon is full The morning stars are Mars Jupiter and Saturn The evening stars are Mercury and Venus Those born on this date are under the sign of Scorpio American humorist Will Rogers was born Nov 4 1879 1 On this day in history: In 1842 Abraham Lincoln president of the United States married Mary Todd in Springfield 111 In 1931 the League of Nations cited Japan for willful aggression in Manchuria In 1952 Republican Dwight D Eisenhower was elected president ending 20 years of Democratic administrations He defeated Adlai Stevenson In 1977 the UN Security Council imposed an international embargo on shipment of arms and other military equipment to South Africa because of its 16th I 1 r'ANI 1 II SHOW TIMES aW--l 7:309:21 ITs five mites wide it’s coming at 30000 mph and there's no place on Earth to hidel racial policies Kk IDOILLA1& thought for the day: Humorist Will Rogers said "Everything is funny as long as it is happening to somebody else” A at m ugly mother Instead the son cares for his skeleton-thiher messes and her pain until she dies mercifully with her closest family at her bedside The picture presented is both ugly — and beautiful - J! 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