Show II — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Sunday Novc mhpr 4 1979 'There is no place like Logan' Facing anger is family problem By Rev LynnC Davis pastor Holy Trinity Lutheran Church The family can easily be likened to a tree Many different parts working together to support one another Roota leaves bark and many more parts working together for the common good They grow together and work together helping each other Treea have some problems though Disease malnutrition infestation rotting the list is endless of the things that can damage a tree The family is not immune to its own problems either People do make mistakea feelings get hurt and problems do occur Dr Carl Menninger an MD and author has said “All change is considered loss and is followed by anger" If this is true then as the members of families grow and mature and encounter difficulties there exists the natural consequence of anger Dealing with anger is a very important part of life and one that many people try to ignore rather than deal with it openly Resolving anger is work The Apostle Paul says "Be angry and yet do not sin do not let the sun go down on your anger (Eph 4:21) In Christian homes anger is sometimes present and really needs to be dealt with There are many ways to deal with anger One can ignore it But ignoring anger can be much like ignoring a splinter in your finger The splinter can fester and get painful and finally cause death if it is not taken care of properly Anger too can eause death of a family relationship If it is not dealt with Like a splinter the anger must be removed for proprer healing to occur Ignoring anger is not the best way for many people to resolve it Another way that some deal with anger la open violent hostility This can result in things being said and done that too ean erode a good family relationship brother's eye" Just how does one deal with his or her log? It would appear that dealing with the log is necessary before we can deal with another person This being the case we need to deal with our own anger before we deal with others anger John gives us a clue as to how to do it "If we say that we have no sin we are deceiving ourselves and the truth is not in us If we confess our sins He is faithfol and righteous to forgive us and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” As one deals with his or her own anger and understands that God through Jesus Christ freely forgives it is easier to deal with Internal feelings and problems When this happens we have the ability to deal with others anger and emotions Luke writes "Be on your guard! If your brother sins rebuke him if he repents forgive him And if he sins against you seven times a day and returns to you seven times saying 'I repent' forgive Urn" (Lk 17:34) This is possible although not always easy for me who lives This ean sB keeps kids busy Activity of the youth of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-da- y Saints is primarily In two organizations called the By John Flannery USU Information Services one looks around it appears that is selfishness and the more natural and frequent It also seems to be the exact opposite and of being understanding forgiving Where does one learn and acquire the ability to be forgiving? One of the best ways known to the author is through a living relationship with Jesus Christ After Paul makes his comment about resolving anger he says “Let all bitterness and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you along with all malice And be kind to one another tenderhearted forgiving each other just as God in Christ has forgiven you” (Eph 4:31-32- ) This presents the family member with a tall order and brings to mind Jesus words "And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother 'Let me take the speck out of your eye' and behold the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite first take the log out of your own eye and then you ean see clearly enough to take the speck out of your sometimes be compared to amputating the whole arm because of a splinter in the finger It would appear that outbursts are not always the beat way to deal with anger There is an alternative to these two ways of dealing with anger It is approaching one's self and other members of the family with an atr titude of forgiveness This quite often seems to be the most difficult and alow way bf resolving anger but in the long run can fie the most effective for people The attitude of being understanding and forgiving isn't a natural quality or characteristic As Church Nigerians dedicated to goals knowing that Jesus offers forgiveness It is a viable and properly looked at a healthy method of dealing with anger Families do change because we as members of the family ehange Change is a normal and healthy thing we all want our families to grow and mature Families will growl If anger is dealt with they grow closer and grow together They almost sound like members of the Cache Valley Chamber of Commerce This is a great place The people are friendly There are no problems here Even the police are friends Bernard and Victoria Otti came to Utah State University from Nigeria as the result of an offhand comment while Bernard was enroute to the USA on a student visa Bernard's cousin Cyril Otti came after the couple had been here a couple of years Bernard Otti was on his way to the United States to attend college at Ann Arbor Michigan He met a atudent who said it was cold there The Nigerian changed his plans and naively headed for Logan Utah where he has since learned it is "very cold" Farther along the way he met another African who asked him if he had heard of or met the Mormons and added "Boy you don't want that experience" Bernard a Catholic ignored the advice and continued on to Salt Lake City where he ran into a snag He had no dollars "A woman from Texas — she said she was a Mormon — gave me $25 so that I could buy the bus ticket to get to Logan! "We have written to her three times but she has not replied" Otti notes The students feel that their lot is not particularly different from that of other married couples going to school Both work Bernard for the USU Computer Center and Victoria for the local hospital In Nigeria they point out students don't work and go to college and don't drop out a quarter or two to make money to continue You start with your class and stay with it and all your relatives know when you are supposed to finish Here they have economic problems like other students and must be careful about their expenditures like American students They have made a concession to western purchasing a ear which they consider a necessity for shopping if nothing else Bernard had his sole encounter with the law by way of the vehicle He was in Smithfield got a call to hurry home and wss travelling at a fair clip when a policeman pulled him over "I was really frightened He asked to see my driver's license and I pulled it out — my Nigerian driver’s license” The policeman who shall remain nameless advised the young student to get a Utah license and to calm down for at least a half hour before continuing home Bernard walked around a car dealer’s lot until he was over the fright and proceeded on his way He and Victoria both drive these dayslegally Their friends are many including other Nigerian and American students and USU staff “I will tell you this" Bernard states "When I get back to Nigeria and meet the first foreigner I see I am really going to be friendly” The Ottis feel that it would be rougher for an American going to school in Africa than for an African coming here Some things that we take for granted here are simply not available to most and there is a wider difference between the rich and poor A wealthy Nigerian has more possessions than a wealthy American they relate What do they miss? “Fresh oranges that are not colored orange” Victoria says "Goat meat” Cyril says immediately "We eat a lot of that at home" "Fresh vegetables” Victoria says "Too many things in restaurants or in stores are froxen” life-sty- le m BBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBBB and the Members of the Start and end in BLOCKS aiwi NwoH to pwted Moend tom tool color IV aai lor um fei badroom dan Mchwi w woitahop Choooa Oam 1ft M and 17 (nefi dtagenal icman akaa MsM dwp color ptefcma CoMnoky and (Mon to aie your pmaonal dmar Iht Mda M to U v -- by & nuance a wot M mm ciwm Evelyn Pearson TauaviaioN dWC Automate hoquancy ConM a a AvUno Mohm toOa Mam a Wf Motor tow toning plush warm Allure Robe ACC Automate CetorCowtel to in -- a WOlpoiaAAff AowAntamai $268°° 3995 iOCtodowten You'll like the soft comfort and basketball and softball Several teams The Aaronle performance tblwvibioai Priesthood also Includes Church-sponsore- d Boy plush glamour of BLOCKS newest design © compete annually the largest television a 400 luM w Km Cftaua now Mam AHAwWduw tom Malar tow Ming aOCMtowaon a wot Mato a umMaaaMMtoauwkM a Maxtor tow maw a DC AidawAnn most eountries that have such In other the Church eountries sponsors Its own in- - 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