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In his studies Ernst focuses much early in life. time and attention on men, giving As adults and as children, males Similarly, American men have renumerous workshops on the charac- die sooner than females. Among ported their closest male relationteristics of the traditional male role children, doctors find many more ships have been in war or in sports time when men are bonded model, what's wrong with it and boys than girls with hyperactivity, how to break out of it. dyslexia and learning problems in together to compete or kill. "One major ramification of this In that capacity, he offers his boys. And among adults, he says insights into the male world that men have a higher death rate from difficulty in developing close relamost major diseases. men and women should consider: tionships is that it effectively eliminates one half of the human race as "What the shorter "The traditional male is expected might explain to be aggressive, dominant, asser- lifespan and greater incidence of potential supports and thus detive, stable, logical, competitive, physical maladies in males is the creases the probability that men unemotional and strong. stereotypic male role which pro- will get their psychological needs met. "Of course these very things are motes this outcome." "This same role also adversely Ernst doesn't believe the other what keeps him from being a comexpressed opinion that influences men's relationships with plete human being and fully involved with other men, women and men are physically weaker than women. Studies show a major problem is that men define a relationwomen in resisting disease. his family. "Overall, the competent male in "If one assumes that men's psy- ship with a woman in narrow our society values strength, sees chological needs are the same as terms, often as sexual or supporhimself defined by success in work, women's; that they want to love tive." Ernst says it is believed that a denies feelings to the point of not and be loved; to depend on and be know to to and be on; stage of adult developwhat significant stresses he is depended recognizing experiencing, develops so much known and to find purpose and ment occurs whem a man shifts competitiveness and homophobia meaning in life, then it should not from sex as the primary focus in that he is unable to develop close come as a surprise to realize that relationship to sex as and intimate relationships with these needs cannot be met while one of the many components. men or women and shuns nurturing one strives to fit the 'total man' "Unfortunately, many men never so that he has difficulty with his image of competitive, inexpressive, reach this level and never learn to role as a father. separate sexuality from other kinds aggressive and insensitive." - most-ofte- n male-femal- e - Seare, Julie Searle, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Durand G. Searle of Orem will marry Kirk Douglas, son of Mr. and Mrs. Dexter Douglas, also of Orem, on Saturday in the Orem Community Church. The Reverend Ross Tyler will perform the ceremony. A reception at 7:30 that evening will be at the Provo Elks Lodge. of Annette Searle, sister-in-lathe bride will be matron of honor with Michelle Durfey and Tauni . Braithwaite as bridesmaids. Brian Spotts will be the best man. Mark Douglas and Robert Searle will usher. Prenuptial parties were given by Mrs. Robert Durfey, Mrs. Jeff Sargent and Michelle Durfey; and by Mrs. Richard Hartvigsen. The couple will live in Orem where Mr. Douglas is employed. - n sun arm-wrestl- e, then discuss the highs and lows of winning and losing and their importance. In other exercises, men share fears with each other; touch each other and discuss that sensation and discuss sexuality and fears about sexuality. Ongoing discussion groups are formed from the workshops and Ernst says they tend to last the length of the school year. "Our society today needs men who can cooperate, can form close relationships with others regardless of sex and can be active and involved parents for their chil- n mid-seaso- SHOE SALE THRO NOVEMBER 20 special group of seasonal styles from regular stock not all sizes in all styles reg. 16.99 to 20.99 dren," Ernst concludes. "This 12.98 awareness and these workshops are an important beginning." Bunch Them Down reg. 21.99 to 24.99 Leg warmers are truly functional fashion but you have to know how to wear them. Push them down so they're bunched on the lower half of the legs. Never wear them pulled all the way up over pants. If you're wearing them with boots, just let the tops peek out from underneath the tops. Douglas Vows either a tuft if it is a carpeting small area or a larger patch. If you don't have matching carpet for the patch, ask at your local carpet dealer. They should be able to provide you with something that POLLY matches. A shoestring DEAR POLLY with the ends tied together makes a good bookmark. Just slip the open book through the loop, then close the book. Can't slip out as easily as MEG a simple piece of paper. How can one nRAR pot.i.y a carpet? from marks remove burn of intimacy." dropping These from are cigarettes traditional the he Finally, says a short, is The floor. to the carpet the influences male role adversely M.R. texture. dense men in their roles as fathers. The procedure to "It is alarming to realize that DEAR M.R. how on use deep the burn depends average fathers spend as little as 12 the minutes a day with their children. goes. If it is a surface burn and not is fiber each of entire length This is consistent with the tradi you may be able to trim tional view of fathering they are damaged, area by rubbing it burned off the uninvolved with infants, less nutur-an- t steel wool. and less competent than moth- lightly with a piece burn the if goes much However, ers to care for newborns." In an effort to break the traditional male mold, Ernst's workshops feature nine exercises designed to confront the issues and the anxieties of change. In one exercise, the men 1498 reg. 25.99 and up 16.98 fn Cotton Tree Square w a David R Radford Julie Nuttall Nuttall, Radford Talk COROC Is Of SERVINCWARE The "f if save, too, on special selection of handbags MasterCard GIFTS AND LEATHERS 2230 N. Provo Univ. Plcwy CROSSROADS PLAZA 9 Bennett, Matheney Vows reception will honor the couple from 7 to 9 that evening at the Alpine Second Ward Cultural Hall, 165 N. 100 E. Atending the bride will be Pamela Burch as maid of honor; Heidi Bennett and Donna Matheney as bridesmaids; and Holly Bennett and Lori Matheney as flower girls. Best man will be Steven Matheney. Special guest will be Alberta Bennett, Alpine, grandmother of the bride. usher. Prenuptial parties were given by IVlllMH " A prenuptial party was given by Colleen Robinson, Francis Patterson, Alia Garrett and Barbra HudMark R. Matheney Gaylene Hahn. The bride-elec- t attended BYU son; and by Virginia Blaney and Heather Bennett Irene Edwards. where she majored in sociology. is a graduate of school and LDS Seminary in Dallas, The bride-eleHer fiance is a graduate of Ricks American Fork School and Texas. He served an LDS mission is He a in senior High College. computer LDS Seminary. in Denmark. science at BYU. Her fiance graduated from high The couple will live in Orem. The couple will live in Dallas. Temple. A wedding breakfast will follow. 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