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Show Why Wc Behave Like Human Beings Br GEORGE DORSEY, Ph.rX, LX.D. Gushy Girls Waste Sex Emotion THERE are many histories of marriage. Westerraark's, in three large volumes, is a mere sketch and was out of date the day it was printed. Now marriage customs have been Invented. Marriage does not stand still. It grows backward, forward, up and down. There are as many forms of marriage behavior as there are married mar-ried couples. Possibly more; some dissolve and remarry. Marriage laws vary from state to state, nation na-tion to nation, age to age. Can marriage behavior be generalized or reduced to law? There is no biologic excuse outside out-side structural deficiency for un-mated un-mated adult human beings. Many human societies respect that law. Other communities flnunt it, disregard disre-gard puberty, indefinitely postpone mating or mate casually, and make Uie best of children as they do of other accidents. In other words, we get little light on human marriage behavior from the mind of the ameba or the social Instincts of the anthropoid apes. Human marriage behavior is as distinctly dis-tinctly and peculiarly human as is a sewing machine or the "Wedding March" of Lohengrin. The mate Instinct must be there: Is there. If we are born whole, we have It : the capacity to seek a mate, the Impulse Im-pulse to find one if it takes us overseas. Why, then, a world of sexually unadjusted : unmarrieds, divorces, oft-marrieds, courtesans, prostitutes, prosti-tutes, homosexuals, loveless marriage, mar-riage, childless marriages? Endless kinds. Two general observations: (1) Europe's population has doubled In the last hundred years despite the enormous losses from wars, disease, infantile mortality, and drains overseas. over-seas. The mate-hunger Is not Impotent. Im-potent. (2) We hear only of the sexually-unadjusted. There are millions of happily mated couples In America who find no fault with nature's marriage laws or those recorded In codes. Now for the other side; the behavior be-havior of the mate-impulse.. It leads many to marry. The marriage falls ; drunkenness, cruelty, Infidelity, Infidel-ity, desertion, etc. The courts recognize rec-ognize many grounds. Why does one man become a drunkard, nn-otber nn-otber beat his wife? Marriage itself it-self Is no more responsible for such misfits than is business for arson or banking for defalcation. The man who beats his wife probably beat his sister or his mother. The man who drinks because or in spite of his wife would turn to drink under un-der any other situation to which he could not adjust himself. Between the age of fifteen and twenty-five nre ten long years. During Dur-ing these years the mate-hunger impulse im-pulse cannot be put to sleep, as one does a child ; or locked in a closet, as one does but should not a naughty child. It is Inevitable that huge amounts of energy be diverted. divert-ed. But where? What Is to bo Its outlet? "Raise the standard of men's morality!" mor-ality!" But not by talk. Work will do it. Many a boy Is so hard at work he has no further energy left. The boy or girl who for ten years chases pleasure as the main business busi-ness of life may be "pure," but neither nei-ther will bo likely to acquire any socially useful habits during that time. Both men and women can become such habitual lllrtg that they are abnormal ; they ara sexual perverts. The normal sex-complex can bo broken In many ways: disappointment disappoint-ment In love, no response on the part of the mate, etc. The sex-complex sex-complex thus becomes conditional to abnormal methods of response: tendency to avoid or be disgusted tinder conditions which are neither "disgusting" nor to be avoided; prndishness ; sloppy sentimentality; sentimental-ity; morbid Interest In the exter-raVn exter-raVn or the accessories of sex con-duet. con-duet. The sex-complex thus comes to mean for one Individual one thing; fur another, quite .Homothing elso. It comofl to be as varied as behavior be-havior Itself. What It Is tit any one time depends on the lessons It has learned: Its exporlenrp, ts habits. hab-its. No man or woman enters Into marriage with a Rox-romplox ft a t e on which something has not been written. Until reoentlv, It was likely to be too little on the part of the woman, an Ignorume so Iti-(rrnlned Iti-(rrnlned that learning was painful; too mneh on the part of the. man, more than he could rub off. Foundations of habits whh h means rhararter nre laid In homes Nine-tenths of th girls that enter Juvepjl courts e;jve h;ol home. As Thomas puts It, runny a girl cannot can-not he tnld to fail, beHtme hlie hai tipver risen. S'!i Is not Immoral, but amoral. 1 be mate hunger Is turned Into love for adventure, r!otr.et theMer, ft 1 1 e p t pip, dlvtlpe-j tion, freedorn. And sorpe diover that the oply menus they h,iv t'l ! ".:'.7Ai the-e Re,.;j.e.J ft;,pef;:es s' their M X. 'J hey U'- It lis they wouPl n coin to buy n d v 1j p ' g--s an d i .:-fir. 'I!.'.;n:s -;t. pumas ns rjy:r t that gi:!s In l ur.i lo t I1 nr ! virglp.'y es thev lo-t ii,i;r mill: j toe;, ; ther .');) fp.e no j lau-.d.; hr-' ount of r: t o- s. 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