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Show Spouse Turns To Blame for Safetyalve Br BETTY BLAIR Toe many of us keep our sen esteem es-teem not only by blaming others for our failures, but by putting on Heart's Haven the shoulders of others the blame fur every mile tiling that upim the smooth running of the daily machinery. Dear Miss Blair: I know that neither you nor anyone clue can cure all the ills there are in the world, but it is wonderful to know there is someone some-one like you who will listen to our woes In time of need. It helps a lot to be able to let the troubles trou-bles spill over into somebody else's cup occasionally, I was so much in love with my husband before we were married, but he Is guilty of one fault that makes me very unhappy. He bosses me every turn I take. He even wants to tell me how to run the bouse, the cooking, the cleaning, clean-ing, the children. And I am blamed for everything that goes wrong. I could never understand why people want to blame anyone. any-one. Vhat good does it ever doT Oh, I hate to have my happl-- happl-- ness wrecked over these seem- Ingly trivial things, but Its every day, every day, with no letup, till sometimes it seems as If I can't stand It. But I know that I will go on like this always because I'm not a quitter. So If you can say something that will make It easier for me, I shall never forget you. "Dolores" see When I hear of husbands and fathers fa-thers who are pleasant human beings be-ings away from borne. In the office, the store, the bank, the machine shop, and are bears at home, I know they haven't the normal outlets out-lets required for the release of tension, ten-sion, and ao they "take It out" on their wives and children. I often wonder why they don't take It out en a golf baH, a handball, the ten pins, or a swimming pool instead. Release From Tension Women, too. need relief from the tension caused by the humdrum of their daily Uvea Furthermore, husbands hus-bands and wives need to learn to play together. You may never do so if you have to create that play within your own homes. Why not go bowling together, ride horseback together, take up photography and tramp the hills together, or photograph photo-graph your children, or do any other thing together that will make . you forget your troubles, make you ashamed of them in the presence of greater joys. Mingling with other people In their homes, la clubs and at parties also helps you to forget your own troubles la what seems to be the greater happiness of other people. Oe se Benrose Inquire Into your husband's daily work. Find out what It is that troubles him there. Fatigue, fall-urea, fall-urea, or fears of failure, are often at 4he root of people's tendency to blame ethers. They must have someone on whom to lay the blame In order to save their own serf-esteem. serf-esteem. Few are the men who can say. "The fault Is mine." Helping your husband to live a normal life la respect to outlets from the tension of his work will Inspire respect for you in your work. Let him know he has enough to do and that worrying about your work only wears bins out, makes other men think him a sissy and a fail-are. fail-are. ONION FAMILY Dear Miss Blair: I have a recipe for an Italian meat and vegetable dish that calls for shallots. I have inquired at my corner grocers, but the clerk there doesn't know what they are. Will you please tell me what ' they are and where I can get them, or a good substitute T Thank you. "M. 8." e e - e Shallots, chives, leeks, onions, all belong to the same family. The term shallot is often given to small onions that do not develop bulbs. The true name for these, however, 'is acallion. Try the larger grocery tores for shallots, and if you can't get them, try ecalhons, onions or seeks as a subsitute. STORING BOOKS Dear Miss Blair: I am going to remove some books from a wall cupboard and use that space for a china closet. To do so I have to store my hooka Will you please tell me what to put among them to keep them from being eaten by book insects? Thank you. -Mrs. K." e e e Purchase a package of cedar chips at a drug or upholstery shop. Sprinkle these amon- your books. Moths are averse to print, and most insects dislike cedar odor, so try it. |