| Show MOTHERS MOTHER'S S INTERESTS 1 LEAD OUTSIDE HOME SINCE TIME AFFORDS J ts Criticism of Sweetheart Given Bombastically and in Public Con Conceited N Not TN L t v r. r If S She j. j le Knows It J I By B BETTY BErTY BLAIR LAII Marriage is only one phase of or the universal human de- de Gire for expression When husbands and wives aid each other to expand that desire in many directions they are laying a alinn a airm linn irm foundation for happiness that centers in each other Dear Miss ML Blair I have been married for H 14 years ealS and am the mother of four children the youngest of oC whom I is now nearly eight I have always done doneR 1 my own work vork cookI cooking cook coole- A ing scrubbing sewing sew- sew I C R mending and I ing Ill r HI many other things things' l fH I II- II 1 I it takes to run a aWS 1 W S home and md bring up ilI children with some Nt respect for order I 1 and cleanliness I N Now o w however that my children can wash and dress themselves feed them themselves elves and keep their own noses clean I find tind I have hav got ot the rest o of my work in such uch a running system that I have time on my hands with nothing to do I have alwa always s 's been too bUs bUsto busy to join clubs and too tired when ni night ht came to do any reading besides besides be be- sides when I sat down to rest inthe in inthe inthe the evening there were alwa always s 's stockings to darn overalls to patch buttons to be sewed on I still do these little odd jobs at night but my leisure time comes in the afternoon after the noon d dishes hes are done I would like during those few hours before before belore be be- fore lore I have hav to get dinner ready to do something different Something Something Some Some- thin thing that would give me new thoughts and make life liCe more interesting in interesting in- in for me I have mentioned this a time lime or two to my husband but he only looks at me in amazement as if I had lost my senses and tells me to go ahead That's as much help as I get et out of him Sure go ahead but at what I think its it's a husbands husband's place to help a wife wire find a little recreation when she has slaved for him and the children all her married life We He takes his own pleasure in his own wa way as he is scarcely home an evening in the week after aHer dinner is over Please tell me how to go about finding something something some some- thing thine Interesting to do away from home at least one afternoon a week I could take two after after- afternoons off oU if necessary Thanking you ou BUSY WIFE Most certainly I agree with you ou Busy Wile Wife that a husband is morally morally mor mol ally responsible for seeing that his wife has just as much recreation tion outside out outside side the home as ashe he has and that it is the sort she likes and really helps to create her anew But in your particular case would your husband know v what would prove provo to be of interest to you in your leisure hours Perhaps the best Letters questions r. r n d reQuests requests re re- rc- rc quests for Cor advice should hould be addressed sed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE LAKES Write le legibly upon only one side of the paper It is necessary that you OU append ap- ap append ap pend the tile right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will vilI DC oe held In strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving in- in involving in advertising information information I tion cannot be answered II help elP he could be in this matter would be to agree with you yourin in rin whatever choice of interests you should make and to dig down inlo into his pockets to furnish Curnish the necessary wherewithal for joining joining Ices fees dues and so on oh for clubs The Civic Civi Center offers study courses for fol sel self improvement for nominal fees fecs that are very interesting interesting interesting interest interest- ing and that offer acquaintanceship with the other women taking them Courses are lre also given at the Lion House that you may like to consider Both places have a small fee Ice but arc are well worth the lee ice for the advantages given shen From the contacts made in these study courses women who find rind much In common later have formed little social clubs that have brought blou ht them many good tim times They have held parties in irs the evenin evenings s that have included in in- eluded their husbands The Y W. W C. C A. A also offers gymnasium and cultural advantages for girls and matrons that are well worth looking lookin into Every woman longs for tor sell self sion outside the home with its fin nn its pictures and books and pots and pans and draperies form but buta a small part o of this means of sion Lion A husband is laying a firm foundation foundation tion for his own permanent happiness with his wife and children when he helps them add to their expression for forthe forthe forthe the life liCe outside the home both in a recreational and arid educational nal wa way POINTS OUT FAULTS Dear M Miss s Blair I have been going with a boy bor for more than a year ear now and though we are not engaged he acts sometimes as if he owns me mc He He wants me mc to do always just as ashe ashe ashe he says and he has even got to the point where he criticises me mein mein mein in public This makes me furious and we quarrel afterward I dont don't think it is his place to point out every little mistake I make in manners or grammar and I certainly dont don't like to have him bawl me out be before ore everybody to show off ort his own smartness and my dumbness s. s That is all he does docs it for tor I dont don't se see what makes him so conceited and I have told him so but he hc says he isn't he only wants to help me and he thinks I should should- be glad of at his help Please tell me what to do to make him consider my feelings a little SUE Tell him you would welcome any helpful criticism that is not riot given in in public and in a bombastic manner tc to show off his own knowledge and belittle be bc little yours ours Say to your friend also that he may know a lot about manners and correct speech but he should read up a little about psychology and the ill effects effect public criticism has on the one It never a accomplishes an any r F good in fact those toward whom itis Itis it itis is directed resent it so much they are very apt to go to c extremes in the opposite te direction Private help given In the proper spirit should never be resented by a aper per person on truly eager for self sel improve improve- ment Another persons person's sense sanse of self Importance is then bolstered up instead o of violated and that i is something something something some some- thing to be carefully looked after arter GIRL FRIEND OFFENDS Dear Miss Blair I have never wanted to be cla classed sed as a conceited girl yet one of m my girl friends keeps calling calling call call- ing Jag me mc conceited I have threatened threatened threatened threat threat- ened to slap her a as she calls me mc that in front of my best boy boyfriend boyfriend friend whom I love dearly and it embarrasses me mc terribly Should I strike her or should I try to keep her friendship She Is a very ignorant girl at times Please give me advice ORTA What happened when you OU were younger and struck one of your playmates when she called you ou names or stuck out her tongue at you Didn't she strike you back again and wasn't there a lot o of scratching and hair pulling Has it occurred to o you ou that though you are now almost a young oung lady the same thing may occur if It you ou strike your our girl friend Passions are very primitive when once let loose Then too now that you arc are older she ma may just beat the thc stuffing out of you ou Bhat would be simply terrible terri tern ble and aDd would make malte your our boy friend think much less o of you than for him to hear the girl friend saying things about you ou that he probably knows very well veIl are not true No Orta just smile sweetly when the thc girl says you are conceited and sa- sa say Oh do you think so Then laugh and say Ive often wondered what a conceited person could be belike belike belike like and now Ill I'll have a chance to find out That will leave her without without with with- out another thing to say and you will have stopped her tongue and have remained a lady This is far more important than giving vent to your feelings which never accomplishes accomplishes any good |
