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Show Review - Wednesday, April 15, 1987 - Page 2 rrrrirTrT 1 'JaiJU'lWfc Words do tremendous damage to children j i.QKohinH closed doors. But by damaging a child's psychologies growth and Cplf image emotional abuse sometimes takes a greater life than physical abuse toll on a child's Only parents can prevent emotional abuse and the toll it takes on a youngster's life by learning what emotional abuse is and what it can do to ai child. Parents need to form strong bonds with their babies, community ties that will make and the strong them feel good about themselves and less isolated. Emotional abuse is a social ill for which both the abused and abuser require help if it is to be overcome. While April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month prevention must be a year round effort. Don't use words as the weapons to break a child's spirit. Homes are not war zones, and children are not enemy. And no one will win in the battles of emotional warfare. Words are the weapons. Children are the victims. Emotional child abuse is the name of the war some parents wage with their children. It is a war no one can win. While emotionally-battere- d children don't carry the wounds of physically abused children, their scars are deep and disturbing. According to the National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse, emotionally abused children are alienated from society. They are subject to depression. As adults, they find it difficult to trust others, or to participate in long-ter- m relationships. As emotionally abused children grow, they turn their pain inward, and often experience problems with alcohol and drugs, even suicide attempts. As parents, they tend to emotionally abuse their own children -- - preserving the patterns of their childhood for generations to come. The fact is parenting is hard work. And it s.not easy d being a kid these days, either. All parent-ch- i relationships will experience outbursts of anger dui most children recover well from such isolated in- - 01 BuTparents who constantly belittle and criticize their children, who withhold love, affection and acceptance as a part of their parental patterns are abusing kids down children as surely as those who throw their the stairs. abusers? It's hard How many parents are emotional to say. Last year about 80,000 cases were reported, out given the nature of emotional abuse, that figure is tar below the actual number. After all, how does one know if a child is emotionally abused -- - or if a parent is an emotional abuser, ine wounds are all internal, and the attacks often take Sex and money not worth treason By MARCELLA WALKER What ever happened to patriotism and loyalty? With all this news coming from the U. S. Embassy in Moscow and Vienna, it makes you wonder where have all the loyal U. S. soldiers gone? Gone to rack and ruin every one, or at least gone to the nearest floozy provided by the KGB. If you can't trust a U. S. soldier who can you trust? It would have seemed to me, before this recent bunch of malarky in Moscow and the arrest of those Walker fellows in the Navy, that a soldier was a good bet for being trustworthy and loyal to the country whose uniform he wears. People who say money can buy anything are just about right. Throw in a little sex along the way and you can get people to cave in right away. I'm sorry, but this is not going to be a humorous column. This really bugs me. Not long ago I read in the Reader's Disgest about the Walker spy case and how they got involved. I think the thing which surprised me the most was how easily the older Walker got the others involved. In the account I read, he didn't even have to argue with them. They just said, "Alright" and that was that. Good grief! The Marines are suDDOsed to be p.f). blab the cream of the crop. Our son went through basic training for the Marines in San Diego when he was in the Marine reserve. We went down to his graduation and it was won-derful. We first attended a ceremony in the auditorium and they showed a film presentation of the training the guys go through. It is unbelieveably strenuous. It is not for wimps, that is for sure. Their parade grounds ceremonies with the men marching in precision, in the hot sun, was outstanding. You couldn't help but leave that pageantry feeling that the country was in the best of hands and the Marines would always be there. Well, guess what! I cannot let myself believe, however, that all of the Marines or sailors would have done the same thing as these who have been brought to light lately have done. I cannot believe that the sex these girls provided in Moscow was that tremendous that it was worth betraying the country for. Maybe the government better only let married men work at the em-bassy and let them bring their wives with them so that the men cannot be tempted away so easily. That takes care of the sex angle, but money has been the goal of many of these traitors who steal U.S. secrets and give them to the enemy, and this is another whole problem. Somewhere along the line we have missed the boat in teaching people that it is better to be loyal and trustworthy than rich. People do not want to work too hard. They are lazy and an easy way to make dough is a real temptation. And, I suppose, if you were in a position where you had access to valuable secrets and you were promised a whole great big bunch of money, you might be sorely temp-ted. But, in that somewhere, where is the integrity, the wholeness of character that is so important? Where are those who would lay down their lives for their country? Many a good soldier has done this, whether in one of the World Wars, Korea or Vietnam, whether on the fields at Gettysburg or at Bunker Hill. They did not turn on their own country. How can these, for a handful of silver, Detray this country and $ that it stands for and all those fought so valiantly for it in m gone by? Klinger on "MASH" once told Col i Potter that every man has his price Some sellout for their price, a pafe j few thousand which satisfies Ife r immediate needs or debts. Othen hold out for a better price, it is calls integrity and strength of character ' It is much more valuable h i worldy possessions. But why do I write to an audience c who would never betray thei i country anyway? Because we have children. They are tomorrow's possible spies. What are we teacfc them? Do they get gooseta when the national anthem is played' Or do they just think it is a tune Hit; play before all sports events? sl We need to have the kind i 0 patriotism that makes us love at: f defend this country at all costs. The; need to know to Say "No" to drugs h: alcohol and premarital sex, and say "No" to spying, no matter where when. al It is easy to sit by and say, "Ot a' what a shame! But we need to If more involved than that. I urge ye; to take the time to teach the chOte about loyalty and patriotism. After all, those Marines and the Waiter bunch were once someone's children, too. letters to the editor J Thanks to local doctors Editor: For the past nine or ten years our family has had several major medical problems. Because of these problems we have had the op-portunity to meet many very ex-cellent doctors in Utah. We are so grateful for these doctors, all of whom have taken such good care of our family. We appreciate also, the fine medical facilities that are available in our area. Most of our hospital stays have been at the University of Utah Medical Center, which everyone knows is one of the finest in the country. Our most recent health needs were taken care of by American Fork Hospital. It is the purpose of this letter to publicly acknowledge the wonderful care we received there. First, we want to thank Dr. Terrell Thomson for being such a conscientious and thorough In-- l ternist. He was the one who found the problem, which, if not detected, could possibly have been fatal. Dr. Thomson is new to the medical staff at American Fork Hospital and we are fortunate to have him here. Dr. Roger Sheffield, who has been here for only two and a half years, is the surgeon who took over from there, and performed the necessary operation. There is not a better surgeon nor a more caring person, in our opinion, than Dr. Sheffield. We are very grateful to these two doctors. Last, but certainly not least, we want to thank all of the nurses on the surgical floor at American Fork Hospital. Because of them, our "not so pleasant" illness was made as pleasant as could possibly be. Not only did they fulfillk their responsibilities as nurses and ease the physical pain, but they were also there to offer moral support and encouragement when we needed it. Some things happen to us over which we have no control, af-flictions of our bodies because of medical reasons, being one of them. How grateful we are that we have been blessed with hospitals such as the one at American Fork and their fine medical staff, who can ease the pain and suffering that we are sometimes called to go through. For this we say "thank you." Jim & Georgie Fralick Pleasant Grove. Utah Trading places as an LDS missionary Winter Haven, where the Gatlin family of the Winter Haven Ward invited Hill and his companion, Elder Call of Salt Lake City, to dinner. When Elder Hill answered the question, "where are you from?", by saying, "Pleasant Grove, Utah," the Gatlins looked surprised. So, last week, Elder Hill from Pleasant Grove, was eating at the Gatlin home in Winter Haven, Florida, and the next week Elder Gatlin, from Winter Haven, Florida, was eating at the Hill home in Pleasant Grove, Utah. "The missionaries in Winter Haven work in one ward," said Elder Gatlin, "while we work in 34 wards here in Pleasant Grove," he added. The Utah Salt Lake South Missio: runs from the middle of Salt Lat County to St. George and 1; missionaries from all over I world assigned here. "There are 208 missionaries infe Utah State Lake South Missif said Kriser. "Since Pleasant Grove is abotf ; percent Mormon, we don't dome trading, but go on referalst invitations," said Gatlin. In the f five months the missionaries 29 people in this area. Elders Kriser and Gatlin can ) reached at Look for the "good guys" insi; ties and white name tags.W hapy to come to your home discuss missionary work without a home cooked meal! ' shortly after graduating from high school. If you are familiar with Mormon missionaries, you readily recognize the name tags that each wears. When Elder Kriser and Gatlin came to the door for our Saturday night dinner appointment, their name tags looked different. Instead of white letters on a black background, their tags were white with black letters. When questioned why?, Elder Gatlin was quick to say, "the good guys wear white." He later con-fessed that the colors are reversed to distinguish the Utah missionaries from those at the Missionary Training Center in Provo. Since the highest point in Florida is 345 feet above sea level living and working at the base of 12,000 foot Mt. Timpanogos gives the Florida Elders a dramatic change of scenery. "The canyons and mountains are one of our favorite spots for "P" day activities," said Kriser. "P" days are "planning and preparation" days and come every Monday when the Elders clean the apartment, buy the groceries and get in a little recreation that usually includes a ride on their bicycles. Although they have a church owned car, they are limited to 800 miles per month so that means that some missionary work is done on the bikes. Elders Kriser and Gatlin were invited to the Hill home for dinner as part of a rather unusual cir-cumstance. Clark Hill, a Pleasant Grove native called to an LDS Mission in Florida, was recently assigned to By JACK HILL Members of the LDS Church here in Utah usually don't feel they are living in the "mission field." Mormons outside of Utah, especially those called to serve on LDS Missions, frequently find that the "mission field" certainly does include Utah, even so called "Happy Valley." Elders Gatlin and Kriser, who were living in Florida when they received their mission calls were surprised to read that Utah would be their "field of labor." Elder Kriser, 20, from Chipley, in the agriculture "panhandle" of Florida, has been in the Utah Salt Lake City South Mission for 16 months, the last five here in Pleasant Grove. "I lived in Utah when I was in the ninth grade and told my Florida friends, "I'll never go back there,' " said Kriser, who smiled and then added, "I ate those words and I love Utah now." Kriser plans on returning to BYU following his two year mission experience. Elder Gatlin calls Winter Haven, Florida, his home. (A check of an Atlas shows three cities in Florida with the name of Winter: Haven, Park and Garden. Utah has none with the title "Winter.") Gatlin said, "I wanted to go to Australia or somehwere it snows," when asked where he hoped to serve his mission. Both Elders come from families that joined the Mormon Church as a result of missionary efforts. "I think in heaven I asked, 'please let me come down to a Mormon family,' " said Kriser, with a bright sparkle in his eye that indicated that he was very happy with what he was doing here in Utah. Gatlin has been in Utah 10 months and the last three months here in Pleasant Grove. His parents joined the church in Mississippi and he was called to the Utah mission I v it U ' 1 J I , ' . I - " V - u ; . . A-.-- . f i , n ' I i ' , x J With Mt. Elder8 h Timpanogos in the background, J and Gatlin head for an appointment as they work missionaries in Pleasant Grove. People, Politics & Policy If Matheson takes on Hatch for senate seat By E. MARK BEZZANT One of the interesting things about politics is how much things can change in a very short time. One year we vote for the great society and the next year we vote for Richard Nixon. One year we vote for Jimmy Carter and the next year we vote for Ronald Reagan. Looming in the future might be one of the more interesting elections in recent years. Scott Matheson might decide to take on Orrin Hatch, for one of Utah's senate seats. Hatch on the one hand represents the Reagan right and Matheson on the other hand represents what the Democrats are calling a Utah Democrat. No one who was a part of the first Hatch campaign will ever forget that he did the impossible. He beat Frank Moss, who at the time was a powerful incumbant Senator. Hatch n ot only came from nowhere as a dark horse in the Republican Party to beat all foes there. He pleaded with the people to give him the chance to go in the lions den and take on Moss himself. People called "political hacks" throughout that Hatch did not have a ghost's chance. Matheson on the other hand has turned out to be a very popular political figure in the state of Utah, even among some died in the Wool Republicans. Independants have really taken a liking to Matheson. While a number of Republicans are nervous about the thoughts of taking on Matheson, a senator named Orrin Hatch is not. Hatch knows the system too well. The far left in Washington does not particularly need, or want an in-dependent Democrat on capital hill. The fact is that they will take what they can get and in Utah they won't get a liberal Democrat elected. The people in Utah are just too con-servative. The Democrats in the OUR ltWN East would love to get rid of Orrin Hatch. He has been more than a thorn in their side since day one. At times Hatch has almost single handedly stopped liberal legislation that he felt would not be good for the country. Democrats know that it would take millions to beat Hatch in a tough race even if the Democrats had a good candidate like Matheson. This is not going to be a race for the country fair. We are talking about one of the most powerful and effective senators in the United States. Matheson will have to decide if he wants to raise that kind of money at his age, and then on top of that, fight the toughest campaign of his life. The alternatives are to hope that a democrat picks up the presidency and he would then get a cabinet post. No fund raising. No campaign, at least not like the one that he' would face taking on Hatch. The other option is to hope that Hatch gets appointed to the Supreme Court or runs for a higher office and then go for the Senate seat. Now that would be more to any democrats liking, except of course those of the liberal per-suasion. Decisions, decisions, decisions. One things for sure and that is that a battle between the two men would be a classic test of just how good Hatch and Matheson are. It would be far from the token opposition that Garn faced from the Democrats. Local Democrats would be both happy and sad. If Matheson runs, they would be happy because they would like his coattails and the further influence he would have if elected. They would be sad if he runs and loses.The loss could mean that another pillar of the crumbling Democratic party has fallen. To a struggling party that would be devastating. t CAU TOEFiRE DEPTA... j5 I THAT LAST EDfTORfAL -- C "PEOPLE , POLITICS $ pDLfCY" h V WHS REALLY FULL OF 'flB HOT AIR Thanks to penny inchers Editor: Thanks to all who have helped in any way to make the collection ol funds for children at the Primarj Medical Center. The project "Pennies by th Inch" has been very successful du to the splendid cooperation of tho6 who have so unselfishly given o: their time, contributions, etc. special thanks to citizens of Alpine American Fork, Highland, Lehi Lindon, and Pleasant Grove. Donna Brocl J Areadirecto |