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Show j Dorothy Dix Talks Ii THE ART OF FRIENDSHIF A girl writes me thnt irtie la lonely, that she deslrca friends of her own age ar.d aex, and shv nska how s'uo can maxe other girl-, like lier. Vlao. m.v child, teat h a iiueatlon that no one can answer io.,fii alh . Thert la no follow-thls-rule-nnii- ou-cnit't-fall recipe rec-ipe ror making what BUmj Lou called i a "nlntlmste friend' as there Is ror making spice cake. All that one can do I is to orr.r you a few gaheral ubaerva-tlons ubaerva-tlons on the gentle arl or making rrlcmis. i if course, tho ery essence of the I subject Is comprise, 1 n th . ,i axiom which afcyi thai to has.- friend Wo must1 show ourselves friendly. There in si me-j thing in our very ilj.ire u, be liked. I thai ihawr. tieople towards us It is aome warm hu'ovn Muality that inakea ui akin to all with whom we coin? in contact So IT you wari plr! frlenrts. you must show yourself frb-ndK ;.. other girls. You musi do little klnli. thing ih.-m ".e musi i-how rlu tn Ilia, x -m enjo them, and you rtjuei mel Ihem l mrnx' than halfway. None 6f u ' such superior l arms lhal we ran afford to stand aloi f -nil wait for other people to seek u out. It Is Jimt a?, much our I..- - to make overtures to strangers, as h b theirs to ri-.iir: us. If you wan glr! friends. nv must, be eympMhotic '..u musi hi willing lo enter Into the J'.y i and SorroY.v of tltf'so Uboul you ani to reiolce Itli llioae w in. rej.,:. and weep with thotl tirho weep. You u"isf be willing to help the gTOOn young girl who Is J-:t tai ling In the st i r.- 01 office In which yru work and who Is scared to death, or a a rrb nd-ly nd-ly Utile cord that muU a . range girl feel al home In Ihe social set in which you nipve. .lust a hand held out ui such a moment has given many a cirl a friend for life. And you must h! aWe. to listen v.-lth-out woarlneM while other girls tell you. over ami .ver again, for tli millionth time (he alcry of their trouble! al lu m . or about the row they had with their beaux. Heaven kaowy why friendship should b a tea . . but n . The price we nay fi r our frh ids : - loui;i i we list, 'f belnv n r. ;.;a le fcr theii' nard lu' k storle. l-f you Would Have vclrl frlemlv vou mut he willing pUj." the came. Friendship means team v...ik. and sa rlfn-lng your o n Individual deslr Ifl ih- will of ti. many. No v'.rl who inslrts on bossing t.. lumch ever has any friends, and '! . ir t who i. always ready to take Iter floll rags and gi home If tire pthori won i i la her way, Is eerj ri-n permitted to Ut. libfnc aim s:m a: hi. mi l.v u-nelf If VOU wan; to be popular, with glr!, pe easy to gel along' with. Tho sensitive girl who is always getting her re-lings hurl, and who ha- t. b handled with I. id glove. Is too much trouble n hothoi v.iti. s.. 1 1 ! ' h-tempered girl. w Is fori - .-r taVir-. offense, and getlln; angry, and making a s"er.e. or going Into a glootrv grouch, and wlio has to lie i continually propltlaWd to kep her In a good humor. So Is Ihe "tmeamlsh girl whn la a perpetuni wet llatik"t n every parly because iie la always' lacing shot k-e.l. k-e.l. or si .- Is afraid of aometl Ina or she cut' have everywhen ekactly tho sm amount of physical cemfort that he hao at l:rme. The cli ! whom oiJ.. ; girls like. Is the I girl who Ik alw..;. good a'.ured. and full r f in. and who alwavs rr.akes the best . r every situation and Of everybody. She Is as i omrortatle aa an old shoo, n i neerlng as the sunshine, and everybody likes to have her around because she fits In everywhere arm rubs evcryhodv's for th i Ight mhi . if you wap i girl rrl-nds, you must deny1 yourself the pieaaure oi iiagglm,'. So other girl Is so unoopular as the one Who Is alw.-.vs boasting of he- family, her monej. her education, her l.ok. her beaux. You know the kind ot girl I mean, the one who tells eon within five minules alter yot) have met he;-, thaf she hni a . oiiee;. education, or tfiat signor Graft! laid lies ll at she had a .grand otiera ..I should go -on Ute-'atagc but thai lier f.itner Just won't give his consent t" her having a public enr-er. or Unit io- has .m Importyl Prench . sr. or thai I ne is simply worn ...n i y iste hours, but what is one to do when men are so1 per- i.'ont: .Vol.. sly loves a braggart. No woman joins In ibr ej-.orui when another woman I sings her own praises. r, - if you want ! to have girl friend un ihe' ogotlstjc stuff Put the sofl Tiedal op slf-pral Spend . iir voice op telling other Kit!" bp prettj .and vwnt. and vnP'Hi'r 'he-ir-'. and sr. shall v en . io a fc a kino words from vour tex. If you v.ant plrl friend, don't pe a cat. Then I nobody In the world or whom other women are afraid .md of wl.i in , thev steer no clear. Hi "the clster who r.. ei oQtiips pear them v.iihou' giving them ly claMr. Vou have hoard a sweet. Inaovent-looklng babi'-faced tiling lisp out; "What a lovely now d la m md I In von have. Mary: I always 'hik thus little Chaap e)i;) dlanv.n.i. are So Attractive. ' ir: "How bsamlfullv your '..Id dress ma- . .,vee dlitnt If. Dolly.' Vui would hardly knew it for the fame thing, ar..' this Is tbe third season. Isn t it?' ir: "How well you arc looking. Jane. Voi a re get'inc In the fat-Woman las; . ars-n't yd ' ". i.at a sporl v.u .in . Mrs Jo.io. to thai oil- r around with ih.- el.uianti I'd 'e nrraid 1 would I . gin. still lave them .'i'.ce veil. It ran! le done Mav the kindly thing, not U ll nv thai hurls. If vou would 1 1. be-foved. friendship Is an ehnolltnt, no i Crfoi. Finally. If.ar6u would hae girl friends, be gonerotu Don I be n pig nil tr to grab the be'sl or everything for yourself Vou know the lv f girl Who tries to shut oul everi girl he knows from her L'iksI time)., veil K irirf her .i"'-. alone. and c.i,. establlahes a iiutantiiif ai.umi , -. iffan she meett pad wouldn't introduce intro-duce i.:m to another girl to save her lire. Tl.ut sort e.r girl never has any friends. , because there Is nothing In greediness to all forth arfe tion. It is not hard t . mnlie ..ther glrln like ' you. Hf simplJ- and sincere, and klndlv land helpful ar.d rtlfinliv ybnraelf. That's ' the secret or winning friends. |