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Show LOVE AND THE YOUNG GIRL IN HER TEENS H If You Have a Daughter Be Very Careful of Her H Beaux Until the "Right One" Comes Along, But Do Not Intrude. H BY 'MRS. KINGSLEY. Kj ERHAPS thcro 1b no time so "J trying In the life of a child as l tho love-making period which takes place anywhero from 14 to 20; it Is very trying to parents, and they often succeed In making it doubly so for the parties most concerned. "It fairly breaks my heart," complains ono mother, "to see Ted looking at Jano with 'that look' In his oyes. Oh, ho's a splendid boy, and all that, but Janoy ia hardly out of the Infant olass. And oh, I just don't know what to do." Another An-other advanced mator, who has ambitions, ambi-tions, vows and declares Becrotly that Helen must oventually marry Lloyd worth, the young lawyer, who has, all things financial considered, "arrived." So she sets to work giving Hepworth a hearthy welcome pressing invitations, invita-tions, and all sorts of encouragoment. Sometimes the eligible Is delighted at tho prospect, but in nine cases out of ton, being a red-blooded man, ho prefers pre-fers .encouragement from moro desirable desir-able sources. Young love, like a great many other very natural things, is best not forced; in fact, there Is no such thing as forcing forc-ing "love;" It just has to grow. But, and this is tho essontial most disregarded, disre-garded, it requires directing, pruning all the things that lovely and carefully cultivated plants aro given If it Is to attain to its best. And in somo cases it needs actual transplanting. Hero is a real taBk for any mother, ,a duty to herself and to her child that she must exercise with all the tact, all the gentleness, gen-tleness, all the potent power of suggestion sugges-tion of which she Is capable. Apparently Appar-ently it is an insuperable difficulty, but when mother love is brought to bear upon It, It becomes Just ono moro of th'o joy chores alloted to mothers exclusively. ex-clusively. Since no two cases are aliko In all particulars, it Is well nigh Impossible to lay out any definite plans of procedure pro-cedure But ono may gonerallzo about all things, even directing young love. And the following "dos" may help. Do everything to keep your child's love and admiration for you; bo sympathetic, sympa-thetic, trusting and do, above all things, make a chum of that son or daughter of yours. Then that sweet, sacred confidence which every mother craves will not bo donied you. But what, you will ask, has all this got to do with match-making7 Why, Just everything ev-erything In tho world. It makes the pruning, tho directing, tho transplanting and tho care of young lovo not only possible, but comparatively com-paratively easy. If, Instead of young, vigorous and promising Ted, the man with "that look" In his eyes Is mentally mental-ly and physically a misfit and, therefore, there-fore, an undesirable yet your Janoy refuses to sec anything but tho image of her blind Infatuation, well, then, play the chum rolo for all that you arc worth; talk to her, sympathize, and make her bare her aoul until you get at the bottom of things. Adviso judiciously, condemn gently but firm ly, and visualize for.hor tho inevitable future. That falling, eliminate tho propinquity which is Invariably tho reason of blind love, so called; pack her up and Bend her away until it all jH dies out But if as in tho first-instance cited, the young hopeful is worthy, IH well, then, little mother, you might H just as well throw up the sponge, foi IH It's bound to happen, and you know perfeotly well that early marriages are IH every bit as safo as late ones. Besides, IH Jane lBn't by any means a toddler; It IH offends her deeply to be treated as IH such when she realizes the Importance IH of young womanhood. IH But just a word about your little girl and her first callors. Do not dis- IH coin-ago their coming, but avoid en- IH couraing anything like propinquity. Make it your business to bo about IH when tho first boau calls; do not in-trude, in-trude, nor yet altogether excludo your-self. your-self. Tho presence of-elders on such thrilling occasions always causes tense moments and rather o trained ef-forts ef-forts on all sides to hit on something that will prove of mutual interest So draw the line where you can, and keep an eye of trusting watchfulness. As I have already said, exceptional prob-lems prob-lems require exceptional means of so lutlon, but the really chummy spirit works wonders in all cases. vM |