Show S OCIAL CIAL AL CARES AT A ThoME Many Things for Both Mother and ami Father to Know Kw w HE question so often arises ar S In hi the tho THE I family ch lc as to whether the I husband nd must do this or tho wife that and generally speaking ape the has hus husband band slips out of most of his obliga obligations lions tion leaving the wife to bear a 0 double social burden But there are arc certain social duties which are ex ox expected expected and should be demanded of or both bolh I bothA A man Is very verJ apt to come home some samo evening and say 41 I r wish WiS h you rou would go and call on Jones wife Hes Hos Hosa I a good friend end of ol mine In business Und 1 I think YOu ou might help me out to I that extent The Tho proper way wa to solve such a problem is for that man manto manto manto to ask Jones when he be and his Ills wife will be at al home adding that with ith his wife he lle is coming around some somo even een evening lug ing to make a call The fact that the tho two men know each other would w uld re ye r have 1100 an otherwise very cr trying tring and am dUll duil situation Again the fretful father cOnies a home borne at night and anti asks hla Wife WICe Who Vho is that chap calling lg Oli 0 1111 Of course tho the mother mothel know who Is calling on hev he daughter ti but It is i nOno the less the duty dut of the father to know the tho br joUng yoUng man I 1 do donot tJ donot not mean that it Is IE necessary for either or both the father and mother to sit in iii 11 the parlor tho th entire even cven InS ing but tho the head Mad of o the th house should know every young ung man who Is call callIng callIng Ing Jag on his daughter Let him him go into the drawing dra room roo Informally I and chat with the tho a leis few minutes long enough to Judge Is ho is 18 the right sort bort And Arid if he be is 15 not the right sort then let him Inform his daughter of ot that fact the thc next nest day and when the tho undesirable young oung man nai calls caUs again Ethel Eth l can easily send word that she sh If Is 16 not nol at home When lien a young oung girl is if introduced into society t at al u Ii tea lea or 01 reception loc OVon If Ir the lh affair IB In in the th afternoon oh the tho father tather as well as nil tho the mother should be lJ in ovid Q In Ta tho the receiving re elv elvIng ing lug line lino He lie cannot lay lILY tho the entire responsibility on tho the shoulders of his wife At such a tea both men and alid women are fir invited and as us a n rule lulo many young oung men men attend hence the tile father should be bo in sight playing pla ing his part art of or host just as tho the does her hor share of the duty dut as hostess The Tue in invitations to such Buch a reception contain only tho the names of Mrs Parker Smith and Miss Smith but Mr MI Smith must bo be lI at homo home and do all in his lila power to make the he I affair a success Every than man and woman who pre pie tend t nd to do the proper thing III in a n bo so o cial Wu way aj should have correct calling cards Married douple o need sets Tho The card caid of at tho wife should road mad Mrs Walter EdWard Blank BlankIn fn In n the lower Jower right hand corner her hel address should be lie engraved und Imd if she aho has a 11 a any ay at nomo TIllS should be engraved on the lefthand cor corner corner cornor ner nor Tho The husband should have his cards cardie reading Mr Ir Walter Waller Edward Blank with no house address There should then be a third card carti reading Mr and Mrs Walter Ed Edward Edward ward Blank with the address in the lower corner but eliminating any day at home All cards should bo be engraved on heavy dead d ad white bristol board in old ld English type For calling and an for Cor general purposes it I t is better to use uso tho the two single cards hut but the card bearing the time name naUla of or 0 both husband and und wife IB is used for Cor sending wedding gifts girts and in sending joint regrets to invitations Frequently lr such a card Is with a wedding Invitation h to indicate whore tho the bride now lives and nd where tho the presents be bo sent Whon a hUbU hd and Wife ICe call al n 1 on they th leave 1 V ono of tho the cards ads and two of tit the tho husbands This signifies that MIS S Uth calls callson on oli Mis Jones J r es and anti that tb t Mr Smith calls on od o both Mr tl U and Mrs Jones Joncs A woman n ver loaves louv i a card for a than man manAs thanAs As BO nob 1 ati nS a ti death is among nr friends fl ot or es car cn cartle On of both husband and wife or duo O e of or lr joint cards should be ho b loft at the t 1 house h s Occasional tI a brief expression sion elOI ot of or s sympathy Iri hi Written flUen across the th card caid but It Is bettor bOtter b to write Tile nothing on them If Jf the tho death occurs In your own city cIt the cards ards should be left l rt pel not mailed but 61 course If It i the lb friend lived lIed out o l of or toWn the cards should bo ho hem mailed m immediately upon receiving r tho sad news The Thc man mait who himself left l t a it widower 1 With one or more daughters and ond sons to lo bring up must decide up LII upon upon on ono one of two he must either have havo some homo elderly woman come como and live in Itt the tho th horde homo h h and take ta c up till the lh du duties ties Lien ll s Of r tho mother or ot ho must Con Constitute n himself both father athel anti and moth mother IH th er Cl to IllS his Young girls are arc not capable of making the right kind of friends and they should not be allowed to go out with every man who asks them then nor to entertain every everyman eer man malt who wants to lo call The Thc father must ml t act as their chaperon and must keep kellI a watchful eye ern on his hiti girls He lie should know every corr man that they ther know he know when they thc get sel In at al night from tho the theater and ho lie should know lenow the tho parents o or of nil all their girl friends Unless a girl is iB well ell along alonS in her liet twenties and hus already been beau out outa a reason eason or Ot more moro with her mother to tonet act net as guide it Il l Is III far bettor botter for fol 01 the thc father Cather to ask sonic elderly relative to come conic and live Iho with them A girl just blooming into womanhood woman hood needs nc the influence of or an older ohler I woman |