| Show p i S t. t Girl Resents Parental Display oft of of- Her Sweetheart for t I Temper Against I. I 5 v L Whom She Plans Retaliation Move MoveS x S Lapse t of Time Needed After Divorce Sweetheart Sweet Sweet- heart Necessary t. t Puppies Love Ghosts Walk i By BETTY BLAIR It Is possible e for parental parent love to degenerate Into a selfIsh self- self I 5 Ish sh tyranny that t either mak makes s anarchists of ot their children I driving them to independent action regardless of ot parental I I law or reduces them to spineless marionettes that dance t on wires on-wires wires pulled by parental hands 1 t Dear Miss Miss Miss- Blair I am a young girl 19 years of I age I have be been n going with my myman myman I man man friend for over a year My folks dont don't care i for him and th they y ridicule me for tor forgoing r s going with him k 4 Now my problem lem is this He HeS S invited me to dinner I ac accepted accepted ac- ac I and appreciated ap predated it The 5 5 following night S I I obtained permission per pr permission 5 mission from my 4 mother moth r to ask askS S 5 him to dinner at my home When I we arrived at atS atthe S the house my l S parents had gone out but a note I. I was left telling us to help ourI our- our selves We were In iIi the midst of I sandwiches and coffee when home they came Ill I'll tell ten the whole S. S cene acene word for word We had walked w a mile mUe home and I had ne neglected le to take my key out of the door as as we were in iri a rush to get in out of the cold My parents arrived and Dad absolutely bellowed Heres 5 5 you OU d d d key again and gave it a throw S When we were sitting at the table calmly eating what mother said we could have Dad comes bounding into the kitchen muttering mute mut I. I d-d d d sick d- d t ing oaths Im Tm and nd tired of feeding people outside outside out out- side ide of my own famil family I Can you picture the scene that followed my embarrassment and humiliation After I 1 ha had hatt l the consent of my mother to Invite 5 him and then to have Dad toss him out We just got up from the table anti walked out Ive I've talked nice pleaded 5 quarreled quarreled quarreled-aU all to no avail They still wont won't make snake my sweetheart 5 A- A welcome W What at can I do I start my steady job tomorrow tomor tomor- S row and then I wont won't have to be bek ber k 4 obligated to my folks loUts any fur fur- i ther I want to thank you for lor forS r S space and help and hope you wont won't find my letter irksome S I BONNIE I We Ve are sorry Bonnie that any i young oung person right or wrong in his choice o of companion must roust endure 11 the sort of humiliation you describe It could come only from a parent I who regards you as property and andI I not as an individual in his own right I who must of necessity accept a parents parent's par i r ent's ants bounty 1 Too many parents absolutely own 1 i. i their children hUdren body and souL InI Instead In In- r I stead of giving them the kind of training that would make of them beings bet be be- t ings lags responsible for their own acts i they are trained like automatons who act only when the string their string their parents parent's parents parent's parents parent's par par- I ent's voice voIce voIce-is is pulled And when the thel l time arrives as it inevitably will f that they must act for themselves I they fall down completely On th the other hand there is much to be said for parents who must guide undeveloped children and adolescents I into safe pathways over the strenuous objection of their offspring Parents i- i see as none others can the pitfalls that await the unwary Youth does not see evil or harm in anything anything- its heart is pure and its spirit UnS un un- S afraid Yet they must be warned t I even though they choose to find out outi i tor themselveS by experience J All right m m de dear r. r to your own problem You ou are being driven to toI I I your own own independence Independence ence in more snore ways than one We I hope you have chosen wisely and that your sweetheart is worthy of all allI that such Independence may cost I you And even if he Is not the experIence experience exper- exper ence will be valuable providing you set fiet yourself to profit by bythe the trial and S error method Be firm be true be t I loyal to the best that Is in you Then you will never make so great a mistake mistake mis mis- 1 I take that it can cant can't t be reet rectified Be big yourself and hereafter petty things big I cant can't touch you Good luck MARRIAGE RR G LAWS A WS S Dear Miss Blair How much time must elapse before a person cai can remarry after arter a divorce in the st states tes of 5 t Nevada Montana Colorado and S Idaho Thank you MRS M. M M L In Nevada and Montana one can 9 remarry Immediately after the the the-di dl 5 r I T vorce has been obtained in Colorado f after alter six months and in Idaho after the same length of time TO TEST LOVE S Dear M Miss s Blair S Is there any way I can test my sweethearts sweetheart's love for me We WeS S have talked about getting married married mar mar- ried ned but as s we we- wego go along I have a feel feeling that she is interest inter inter- Q gg losing T rest est in me though she he says she loves me as much as ever 5 As far tar as acting the gentle gentle- Letters questions Questions' and requests re requests requests quests for advice should b be bead bead- ad dressed to MISS BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN MAVEN TELEGRAM SALT L LAKE AKE Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It is is' necessary that you append append append ap ap- ap- ap pend the right name and address address ad ad- dress but these will be held in strict confidence and will not appear in print Questions involving involving in in- advertising information cannot be answered Letters requiring personal reply must be accompanied nied by by stamped self addressed envelopes Ed man or being wen well groomed is is' concerned she has nothing to worry about but I am a poor hand at carrying on a conversa conversa- tion Could it be that she is disappoInted disappointed dis dis- appointed in me because of ot that I 1 have stop stopped d using tobacco and intoxicating drinks since we started Steady going She is a decent sort of girl and never wants me to spend much money money- on her If you can answer my question ques ques- lion tion I am sure it will lift a load from my shoulders LARRY Larry why dont don't you ou take a sweetheart vacation for about a month from the girl of ot your heart Tell her of or course about it and get gether gether her to concur In the plan Say to her Do you know I 1 have an idea I shouldn't see you so often I 1 dont don't want you ou to get tired of me so I 1 have planned lanned to not se see you you for a a. month I want you to have a good time during during dur dur- ing jag that month I 1 expect to do the same ame thing Then when we meet again gain we can recount our This will surprise her and will give her ler something new to think about Take her a nice box of candy on the theve eve ve of the vacation And if ever you sparkled in your life me do so on this last ast visit with wit and I. I Sparkle with Sparkle con- con Talk if you have to start the he ball rolling about the thc weather I or r the depression but get off both I subjects immediately to the happy limes mes is here again theme A girl doesn't like to ask a boy to spend pend money on her either by indi indi- reet hint or otherwise e so sa if it you havea have a little to spend let her know that you ou like her well enough to spend it on her occasionally A movie a dance ance a little supper now and again But lut if it you cant can't do this we are glad she be appreciates your position If the girl truly loves you she will know now it and so will you after the vacation But you must be bc sure to leave cave her with the best impression of f yourself it is possible for tor you to make I PUPPIES FOR GIFTS GUTS Two nice puppies 2 months old will be glad to find permanent perma perma- nent neat homes They will wilt make some boy or girl happy if it they are given good homes See them I at 1040 1046 Windsor street AFRAID TO LOVE LOVED D Dear ar Miss Blair When I was 18 years old I had hada a very ery serious love aU affair ir which left me with as near near to a broken heart as I 1 ever eyer hope to come Now that I am 22 somebody Is very much In love with me but butI I 1 still have memories of my first love even though he is removed forever from me since he married another Do you think I should tell this young oung man how I still tul think of of the other Or should I marry him and g give the love I have to offer otter which is as great as I 1 shall ever be able to muster again Thanks IN DOUBT I think you should take talce take yourself to o a good and junk all the old memories They are r noth noth- lag ing ng but ghosts that haunt your premIses prem prem- ses They have nothing for your future welfare to offer They are parasites that live on your faith and hope lope and happiness Cle Clear r them out Scare them away Murder them if need be bel Then accept the fine love that hat is b a 1 reality and prepare to give as much in return |
