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Show The Enviable Art of Holding All Your Friends i . By DOROTHY DIX. AGTRL who is unusually pretty, unusually Intelligent, Intelli-gent, well educated and of fine social position complained com-plained to mo the other day that she was lonely; that she had neither nei-ther friends nor beaux. Sho said, and truly. Mint strangers were always al-ways attracted to her. but that in ji little while they fell away from her; that other girls' cordiality to her was short lived, nnd that men would call on her onco or twice and come no more. Tho cirl wondered why. It was because she possesses tho gift for inspiring liking, but hc docs not understand the art of preserving it. She is like a. peach that is beautiful and Tosy and luscious to look al, but that you find to bo bitter whtm you come to taste it. The one deal in life where we get nbsolutelv what is cominc to us is in the matter of friendship. People arc liked and loved in just the ratio that they deserve it; and o I would ask this drl, who. lie moans tho fact that ho has no girl friends, what she docs tu attach other air Is to her: 'to be boiiosi, my dear, aren't you a good deal oi a cat .' fun l you give the other uirtd a sh : cluwinc when they come Jtiuuim. jH Uon 't you say, "uli, ye?, Mtimlt is i such a' sweet sirl and very proit.v, but she gets her i-omplcMon at i druu store, auo. anybody coum u' I that her hair was pctoxidcd, and . -fur hor being so much aaniired l men, anybody could have bi-uu. u they would run after men the u'a;. . she does. And such being thc case, is there .1113' particular reason why the Mamies of your acquaintance should yearn for your society? Aud aren't you the envious IH thing.- Don't, vou belittle every i IH thine that anybody does thai vmi ! can't do.' When Saliy goe-i to a party that you are not invited to, JH and "she tells you what a gorgeous time she had. don't you remark H that tho people who cave the party arc not in society, or that you wouldn't L'o to a public ball, or somethiuc else Hint takes tbe gilt off of Sally's gingerbread 1 Don't you invariably knock every other eirl's clothes, -espe cinlly if thev are better than yours, and do vour level best "to IH make her feel cheap and meau b-side b-side you; Aud if you do these things, don't you think that the girls could do- very well without And don't you rather pride your- jH self upon speaking tbo truth to your friends? Don't yon, feel I culled upon to tell Sally that her i IH hat is unbecoming, and Betty that shn is looking- sailor.', and Hattie H that she is getting fat, and' TTcnri-ctta TTcnri-ctta that her old dress made, over so, well that anybody who didn't IH l;now would think it a new one7 If you do, ran you think of any H really good reason why any ooe ll should seek your presence in order H to be told the tilings tboy don't j H want to hoarT ' And are you one of the kind of H people that dou 't mix with other IH people! When a hostess stArls to make out bcr invitation list, does H she pause when she comes to vour H name, aud sny to herself: "waII. 1 T'd like to invito Caroline Smith H crs, but if 1 do she will got into an argument, with somebody and H f '11 have to pour oil on tha Iron- bled waters of conversation, or sbit H will be rudo to somcbodv, or drap Jf in u forbidden topic by the head or lH the heel, that will hurt somebody IH clje"? feelings, and so I'tt just H leave her out, becauso it gives me nervous prostration to spend throe or four hours keepiugtbe peaca "b- twoon hor nnd other ,uets?" ':JkkW As for your failure to be popu- H lar Mritb men, that's vour ews fault, too. Look .yourself squarely in the face, little girl, and pes JH whern the trouble lies. Aro you HH one of the sniffy girls who always H trie3 to make u man think that H e'do's a sort of fairr princess and H that no matter what he does for jH bcr sbo's condescending to accept H If a mn takes you to the the- H ater do you sav that you 're ac- .WLLy customed' to box at the opera? 'H Tf a man takes you io ride, in his i iH runabout do you 6pond the time ! H discoursing about. six-cylinder JH hich-power French ears? Tf a man H trents vou to a beer-nnd-saudwich. H supper do you make things pleas- H ant. for him by telling about ton H champagne and trraniu that some ' Jf other man set up for sou -at K ' 1 JtSfth avenuo restaurant |