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Show A Divorce Daniel Come to Judgment By DOROTHY DIX. A BROOKLYN judgo has granted a fi.crht.inE married couple a trial divorce. For six months the lm' band and wife aTe prohibited from seeinj; eneb other or holding any communication. The man ots rid of his wife and bcr aggravating ways and has bis bachelor liberty restored to him. Tho woman goes bnck to ber mother, as she had ul-ten ul-ten throatciiod to do. Tbis arraufjement jjives both par-tics par-tics a chanco to sco bow they like divorce before tboy irretrievably commit themselves to it. A Daniel, a sccoud Daniel come to -judgment, is this wise .judge. Would "that every magistrate who deals with the woes ot the unhappily unhap-pily mated bad bia breadth of view and his knowledge of human nature, na-ture, and that nil divorces had a probationary plank in them. It. would save' the final breaking up of many a borne. For the average divorce is the result not of some heartbreaking and unforgivable crime, as we arc accustomed to think, but of a married mar-ried couple getting on each other's uorves through sceiuc too much of each other, and of the natural human hu-man impulse we all have to glorify ioo much ' the thing that we haven 't done. If the truth were known, more 1 tvorc.es are granted because of boredom than for infidelity. This is particularly Imo among people in moderate circumstances, who cannot afford to take trips and indulge in-dulge in ?ports and amusements that separate husbands and wives. Thus a married couple are thrown back upon caeb other for socictv. and in time they almost iuovitably tret tired of each other, and the dav arrives when they can perceive nothing but each other's faults. The man wonders what he ever could have seen in his wife to make t him want to marry hor. The woman wom-an wonders what the fool killer was doiuc when she permitted that human shrimp to load 1mm- to the 3ltar. The buybniid thinks that if nn wife mentions to him another time wlint hor mother said about, so and so tlial bo "11 commit murder. The "wife crits her teeth lo keep from shrieltinc as her husband start out to relate" for the millionth tinio his pet story. m When a couple rei in this frame of mind ewu'vthing jars upon l.hem. The wife cannot make th" mildest succostion in her husband without his rosculinsr it as an attempt at-tempt to hcnpcck him. and in con sentience whereof he vs thine? that wound and rankle like a poisoned pois-oned dart. , , Xor can tho husband express ins oninion on anv topic, from oolifics In pie, without his wife constderinc ii a deliberately planned insult, that calls forth weeps and lamentation. lamen-tation. , , Tn their secret thoughts both husband and wife believe love to be dead, and .so in only too many cases they apply to tho court for a burial permit for it. Thoy are too precipitate. What they need is a breakaway and not a divorce, and a six months' separation would cuable them to kiss and make ,up, and save all of the expense and scandal scan-dal and heart burniugs that are the necessary accompaniments of a decree de-cree absolute. There is nothing else in tbe world that is more unfortunate Unto thai, we are fo stupid that we do not realize the virtue aud value of judicious ju-dicious absences from . even our best beloved. There are no two human beings that can bo together togeth-er all of the time without wearying weary-ing each other uud coining to loathe each other's society. Even an an gel from boavcu would bore us if we had to always look at the same crown and tho snme wings, and listen to it, day after dav. month after month, vear after year, playing the snme pld tune, in thc same old key, on .the same old harp. Tt is literally true that if people were married only three days a week instead of seven there would be no moro divorce. Never do the virtues of the partner's of our bosoms bos-oms loom up so "validly and beautifully beau-tifully as when they arc not under our immediate eyes. When vou said uuod-by to your John, madam, on the pier, didn't you reflect what a little hump-shouldered, hump-shouldered, dingv man he wasi And when vou had been away for three davs didn't you revise your opiuiou and begin to think that ho was a lino looking, upstanding gentleman, with nu intellectual ' Hv the time vou reached London weren't vou braggius: about what a handsome man your husband was, and before vour three months in Kit rope wero up didn't he look liko a figure of romance to you (hut you were .hurrvins back to as fast as stoam would take you'.! Aud vou. sir. didn't you nnd that, absence robbed your Maria of her fat and sray hairs and made liev slim and beautiful to your fanc.v. and that it turned all her nage'inc ways into loving solicitude solici-tude for vou. of which vou bragced to other men? Vou were so glad lo see her uo vou could scarcely keep a deceul face, but you are so anxious to eec her back that you wait three hours on tho dock before be-fore tho ship is due. Whal the trip to Europe or Florida Flor-ida or tho seaside docs for some coupler-, the limited divorce will do for others. It will zivo thorn the separation they need and a chance tu cot a perspective on each otb-. er's virtues, instead of having I heir faults rubbed in at close ranee. ... lso it will jrivc" them I ho op-port op-port unit v to find out thai divorc isn't all beer and t-kittlcs, as they imagined it in their loncinc for freedom. It. is inevitable that when we contemplate, the past wo put on it a coat of sliding to which U is not entitled. So when a man and wonan think of tho Joys of a divorce, di-vorce, thoy picture themeelves re-t re-t urninc to life ns it way boforp ihev wero married at all? Alas! wo con never co back. Everything cTianzes, We change ourselves. The man who has been married and had a wife and children chil-dren of his own finds out thnl he is moro domestical ed than ho I thought. The idle round of dis-i 1 patlon uoon pull upon him, and if I he had his choice he would rather co homo to pipe and slippers and his baby's arms around his neck than sit in a poker gamo. The woman ascortains that when she goes back home she is tolerated toler-ated rather than a wolcomc guest. People look at hor with pity and call her "poor Mary! ' Her brothers and sisters are. sorry for her but thoy would rnthcrhave her room than her company. She's boon at the head of a house, and it, isn't easv to be a pensioner in somebody else's, and it doesn't take her long to wish that she had put up with John's whims instead of running foul against mother's. Six months of trial divorce ' would convince nine couples out of ten" that thoy had better try matri-mouy matri-mouy ovor again, for if it is true that marriago is one of tho thiugs that you regret, whether you do it or don't do it. divorce is even more so. |