| Show home education the child s first school is s the family frobel issued by the national kindergarten association 8 west street new york city these articles are appearing weekly in our columns punishment OR PRAISE ELEANOR SMITH n I 1 had planned a simple patty for alary la y annes sixth birthday most of 1 her little friends were coming of course alary arne anns was highly delighted so I was much surprised to find her crying bittel bitley ly th tha day before I 1 big event why mury mary anne the matter I 1 questioned oh mummy edith isn t coming to my patty she sobbed edith was her particular chum not coming 1 staid said why is that I 1 tried to speak quietly to calm my little daughter her mother won t lot let her cause she broke a lot of her best dishes yesterday edith d dropped the t tray rather drastic punishment I 1 privately thought to mary anne I 1 replied ill go and see her mother and perhaps shell let her come as a favor to me come and ice the little cakes now mary anne and partly jaitly pacified at 6 the L thought of beciri being allowed to cc cook my little gill gil went with ms me to the kitchen I 1 did go to see edith carstons Carl tons mother but she would not change her mind with regard to the party edith was an intelligent child vather rather slow but pain painstaking staking and loyally trying to please her mother mrs carlton in in turn was conscientiously trying to do her best for her little daughter edith had her own room which site she was being taught to keep tidy she had her little duties during the lay day and she generally performed them with care it was because she had wanted to be especially helpful on one occa sion that she had carried a tray much too heavy for her As mary hary anne said poor edith had b d dropped the tray and the dishes were broken sorry as I 1 felt for edith I 1 felt equally sorry for mrs carlton carllon for she seemed to try so hard to bring edith up properly then one da day she mentioned the subject I 1 had been secretly dreading this because the interview which I 1 had had with hori holl for mary annes fake ladt proved so fruitless and I 1 wa sure we ive did not see sec childrens mistakes in the same light 1 I why my mv laughter daughter is po BO so different lately she said she eee ni s actually ally afraid of me I 1 ve done what I 1 could for her ever since she ehe was a tiny baby ashes healthy and normal in every way yet she is not frank with me often slip even tells about things that she knows she should shoud not net have done do you punish her 1 I asked I 1 knew she did but ara was anxious bious to gain time to find words wise enough and gentle enough for my answer of course I 1 have to what would she be b e like if I 1 she retorted etor ted indignantly dont you dianish mary anne if she elie does wrong ae I 1 NO N weighed O hed my words well be rause here perhaps was where 1 I could help edith only when the wrong vron thing has been wilfully dene 11 I 1 said slowly at last but suppose your mary blary anne anile told you an untruth the ether persisted pet aisted 1 I think she has never naver done that and I 1 hope she bhe never will I 1 answered you see childr children cr seldom tell un 1 truths unless they arte are afraid if they have no fear if they love and trust you they will tell the truth the wrong I 1 am not including of even though it shows them to be in course the high 11 flights of imagination to which all children are subject that is something diffie du Herent rent all together when the fault of which ahi C h you speaking gets started praise not punishment is the remedy d Y A klag kiss foy for the of a bad habit babit is better than a dozen punishments for the same fault I 1 paused half afraid that I 1 had bad said too much t then you dont believe in puri pun 2 at times limes I 1 hastened has cosay to say fearful of being misunderstood but I 1 think one should mak the puni punishment fit the fault and if ot or or r condolence will correct the mistake as well I 1 use ilc them instead I 1 find they el cl l dorn fail I 1 finished A feve weeks later mrs cariton to rae me that my plan plana W was S dvorkin and that praise and per were taking the place ot of blany many unnecessary punishments ants 1 1 |
