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Millions of human beings have asked themselves this question "Why can't get a head ?" wilArs i - ipkt f 1 ' - i ii 00"4 J J They see men and women who apparently have no more ability than they forge ahead They watch people they have known for years gradually climb up the ladder This is not to say that material success is the most important thing in life But since our society is organized the way it is and we haven't yet learned how to make clam shells serve for money we may as well be honest about the matter Money itself means little compared with health and happiness but the in - creased income that is ours as we forge ahead means that some of lifess extras may come our way And just as important psychologically is the fact that human happiness is inevitably tied up with this matter There are only four fundamental human needs: recognition response security and new experiences All Four ' Horsemen of Humanity are inextricably bound up with this subject of personal happiness in work ' 1 ::k : ' '''?'''' i ') ' : - --:- - ' '' 1 ( 1 tn - 74-' '-- :::- :: '1 ': - - 'I - ' - $41 4 3 - - ) - - x ' -0 '- - ' ' A-A - 4 ' - A1'16 o ' '''-- ' ' - ' k 4 - ' 4A: A : ' - ' - I s i'- THE writer : - - - - A It i - 1 f'1'' 0°'''''' : ' 1 '' ' ‘ ‘ : A 'EP?' i ' 'i: '''''''4''''''' 444” : ' - '''-- -- ' 014 f A ' ': 4 ' A ' 1! ' '' J''' r 'It - - k "1 - t - '-- ' 4 ---- - " s - - ' - -- ''-- k 4 '1 ir has watched hundreds and thousands of young people go through the schools and out into life Some immediately start up the lad- der Some flounder around and eventu- ally get started Some never get away from the starting line! In all serious- ness in deep earnestness millions of people ask themselves "Why is it? What's the secret" No person knows all the answers it seems a cruel fate de- Iliberately delights in knocking down certain "hard luck" individuals Some- times economic conditions get out of control Other reasons pop up that seem to hold a person back But from hundreds of case histories we can say that a person usually holds his future in his own hands We have to learn to pull up our own anchors! Most of us have certain traits and characteristics that have to be over- come or wel are held in check We must learn to weigh anchor tor our of destiny The following are 10 anchors that I have watched hold in small back- many people anchored water harbors First if you want to succeed in this complex and competitive world today you must continue learning We've all seen people without much formal education make a grand success of life We see high school and col- lege graduates who never get beyond first base! Why? Educators and psychologists are beginning to grow practical at last We know that merely put- ting time into an educational institu- tion guarantees nothing about the fu- I k - 7- k - A4'' - - - 4 1 i ( P ' - I - 1 4 4041 ture 14 ol ' f this one point stands out above all others In business and the professions men and women who have pulled up their anchors and are really going places have continued their learning l - '4-- ---- :- 1)-- - - "iic1p41 t ' - 0fir 0 b w I "IP -:- - '- I' (1 ( 11 1 " 4 4 1 ': 3:' 40pdr 0 usgs 4 N'' R- i 7 - 1 404 1 - n( :' '- $ 0° 3 - l' k 't 4: I 't k' 7- A - 2 'c7' 7 c 41' 4N"4 khe '''''' ii - 41t v elm :: - k ' ' ° :A r ' 0 ‘''''' ''‘ ‘ !' ss C‘ j ' 0 4 4'''''fr i THIRD millions of men and women 46 '1 ' ? I f — 4 ""' r 41 yt I :711 f ' '1 ) e ' ii 1 ) 't ' - 0v are anchored because they don't give all they have to their jobs "I get paid for doing just so much and that's all I'm going to do" is their attitude If it's an eight-hoday they never put in eight and a half hours! Doris is a good illustration She finished high school six years ago took a year at a business college and went Into an insurance office She didn't The take her Work very seriously were the evenings and the week-enhighlights of living Probably she expected to get married soon anyway About a year ago he came in for a talk She said in effect and with some ur i 7- - ''' N 7 - -0 - ed ed i 4 ' e IP- 4CCA:"'4P tt li ' 44 1 - e tv -- ' -- 4) t et 1 1 47 i 44t176e--- o'''''' '''' e 0- ' ft ?Ig) !frZ - AN e ' F o'0o-ow:e'4:- 4 t I ' ' i p'' t - t If 4 CAv 1) Ify 1 It 0- - t) 411 I - t” 1 i fv - ‘ t' t pliele- self-center- ) I: t - '1 ' - - 10- d''''' '''''' 1 second anchor we- - can label: Liking People Perhaps you'd pre- fer to call it Personality The fact is you don't get far in this world of hu- man beings unless you can get along with them I know you'll immediately think of an example to the contrary! There are bosses who are cruel arbitrary self- seeking There are people who are selfish who trample on But the fact remains those beneath that the vast majority of those who get ahead have learned how to get along with their fellows no secret about the process good personality means kindness friendliness consideration of others It means smiles instead of frowns It means friends instead of enemies If either deliberately or unconscious- ly antagonize others you need to take an inventory of yourself If you're smart you'll study the traits in others which antagonize you! Then make sure that you pull up this hydra-headanchor of your own life THE "- -- ' As I follow the careers of "my" boys lives and girls in their after-scho- 1 e ' t tillt il ds p k - I s $v S ' s' 4 : ws' s taks 4F ) ' '" :coor 00 - r ' I t ' '' I ' i 4 - 1 - t" N 'tWe' 1 ‘k I ‘ t' de jNI - '' 'k - ' ' 1 NS i 11- t - ' : ': ' - 4t- r z 'z k ' :''k k k'k !' - ' tt ' :s ' ' t - : ' ' ' ' ' '' ' ' 't zs ' - '- '' ! 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"Can I overcome my shyness?" asked a mature woman the other day "I like to be in activities in the club and church I like people But I am afraid of pressing opinions I'm willing to serve on a committee but to be a chairman of a committee and have to stand up before an audience to make a report the thought petrifies me!" Well there's only one answer so far as psychologists know You can overcome your fear of accepting re-tsponsibility if you're willing to pay the price iktake up your mind that you will accept every chance that comes along for increasing your responsibil- ity! It will be hard the first few times! But each success breeds confidence William James one of the greatesf thinkers of all times established the principles First make up your mind what you are going to do second seize every opportunity to practice it third never allow an exception to occur If you are shy sensitive fearful of responsibility the problem is one off will power You can heave up this anchor if you want to badly enough — '':' Z - - la ' -- k - -- : ‘ st t k --t '‘ kl -- t4C b - 1x -0 - 4cr'c's' "$10" k ek k t ‘ - - - s - -- "0°"'ope'aiss s'' - z e o f s" : '''‘ waA "' '' eel i i - 4 'tio0 1 A : : -- wilk'414 4w 4 '41 of 2 i''''" ' swr ' ' ': s ---4 ztt i t - Pr'' -- taLt'''' i : t Z ' 0 i r041"7 t'' y"-- ' -- 1 -- "wli 4o-- 0o'" '''' 'N' '' - 4004r'' 1c - -- tr 4" we ''' '''' N e It 0- - : Z $ - ' ' - 0 '''' W' 0 ' ‘ ''' :' S S get because they shrink from accepting Many people are honresponsibility and estly afraid they are sensitive lime-ship shy The thought of being in the light of the possibilities of criticism or laughter just make them shrivel up "- -' s!:k 0s I :- - i Lucky seven! Literally lions of earnest hardworking men "QEVEN and women never started in life in ' N : ' 4 NEXT there are three practical everyday points that may be grouped together Criticitis Boastitis and Talk-M- s We all know people who are afflicted with these three common dis eases Criticism boasting and too much talking and saying nothing have been anchors for great numbers of people They are drags in both business and personal life We react negatively to them Study yourself—and if you are guilty of any or all eliminate them from your lines Fifth there is a large group of otherwise intelligent people who have a millstone hung around their necks heed "I believe in the Lucky Break!" We might tag it Luckitis Attributitjs Life would be simpler if we could at- tribute it rewards to luck! But it just can't be done if we're truthful and honest! i 1 !I i :c4 tears "I've just realized what a foot I've been What shall I do? Other girls have been promoted girls not so capable as I am but who have done their work better They think of me as someone just to pound a typewriter for eight hours "At first I thought I was smart I've been having a gay social life but the men that I would want for friends have passed me up for the other girls I'm desperate! "Perhaps I'll he earning my own living all my life! And I've wasted years I didn't think it was important to try to get ahead Had I better change to another firm and start all over?" Knowing Doris I advised her to stay where she was to go to work to study two evenings a week and let the men for whom she worked see that at last she'd pulled up anchors In the last few months she's had two promotions Just the other day she said to me "You know life's really much more interesting and I'm having lots more fun" Sure! That's the way life is And in a year or two Doris will be a private secretary to one of the executives - - - ir k --- i s -' -- 40a ex-lo- ng - oo- ) ' '' -- -'- woort: 44 ' - ' - oh he ' ' ! - '' self-inflict- ed ! ii dr I At (' - - ! 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A great many younger people in the first few years of work harm themselves by hanging onto this anchor "Fitness for the job first pleasures afterward" ought to be the motto Give yourself a checking Ninth over for personal peculiarities and idiosyncrasies that you may feel are destructive but which in reality label YOU as "Eccentric" I recall a saying of a favorite colIle was supposed to lege professor it was really a but tepch history course in learning how to live effecIt tively in this complicated world sub-p- ar c i? Ill'it': :N 1 AGAIN ' 16 ' '—''' ' '' - 00 was a time back there In the twenties when college boys and girls were trying to be very collegiate Ile stood it as long as he could Then one day he gave us a 'talk which ended something like this Its all right to be different We all are as a matter of fact But a safe rule for you to follow is not to try to be eccentric until you have made your mark in the world!" - IT'S strange how people develop their little quirks and traits Just a httle thing like a handshake may mark or make your future A certain business man told me that he automatically rejected all applicants who gave him a hand! No matter What limp dead-fis- h other qualifications a man or woman had they had to pass this test first Dress manners and speech are all Important They tell the world what I've turned you think of yourself down applicants for jobs because they were sloppily dreswd chewed gum! (actually a girl came in over-dress- ed —- to see me with a cud of gum unckr her (ongue) becau-- e they make grammatical errors because they seemed to have a chip on their shoulders Last of all remember there's no time limit on when you can heave up your anchors! Life doesn't begin at 40! Nor at 20 or 30! It begins every morning when you throw back the bed covers to stait a new day There are about two billion 'human beings on this planet and there ate onty two things they all have in conunon One is a desire for happiness the other is 21 hours a day You have the same amount of time each day that all other human !icings have The quegion is: How will you use it You can hang onto all the invidious anchors that miserable are holding you back! Or you can make up your Mind that the time has come to throw oil' the hat hies pun up the anchors and really sail into the harbor if your di eams in a fairer more interesting and happier woild dead-weig- ht dt I I I 1 - |
