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Show I Lido You A Lot Dai... I like you. I like you a whole lot. I like just being around you. It makes me feel good. So good that I want to be around you all the time. My life just does-not does-not seem the same now that I have met you. I just can't seem to keep you out of my mind. I have decided that I love you and I am willing to love you forever, if you will only give me the chance. But there Is just one thing that I've got to tell you, before you answer. There are some things about you that I just don't like. Liking leads to loving. There is a big difference between liking and loving. Usually you like someone before you learn to love them. ' Liking Is the way that you feel about someone. Loving is often the way that you think about someone you like a lot. quently unfriendly. Parents often feel guilty for feeling dislike for their children. Children often feel that their parents hate them. Parents have sometimes tried to solve the dislike problem by telling their children that they love them but hate their behavior. Yet because the parent feels dislike for the child the parent acts hateful hate-ful and the child reacts to a hateful parent. Parents have the right and obligation to change their children's behavior so that they can like them. The child has a right to be liked and loved. It is the parents duty to discover the likeable qualities of their children and promote them so that the likes outweigh the dislikes. Liking therefore becomes a barometer of the quality of relationships. When dislike becomes greater than like in a relationship the quality of love is terribly diminished. BY W. R. KELLER School Psychologist . Yet, nearly everyone can pick out things about a loved one that they just simply don't like. In marriage, that shouldn't mean a campaign to purga all the flaws found in one partner or the other. It should mean helping to build on those likeable traits and not lose sight of them through fault finding or selfish self-ish Interests. Once the commitment to love has been made, those not so likable qualities should be left alone. Adults should be recognized as having hav-ing the right to change or not to change their behavior behavi-or without coercion or force from others. It Is assumed that when the mutual commitment com-mitment was made that the likable qualities far out-welgned out-welgned the others. If both partners have honored their commitments, those likable traits, In time should become enhanced. If not, those dis-llkable dis-llkable qualities will have emerged, threatening to destroy des-troy the relationship. When children are born, the commitment to love them is not based on mutual liking. lik-ing. Some children in fact, are very difficult to like. They sometimes are easier to dislike. When dislike is present more frequently than like, and the commitment to love has been made by parents, par-ents, relationships are fre- |