| Show GIRLS GIRL'S QUICK DECISION c MEETS WITH REVERSAL L WHEN HEN WISHES CONFLICT i 4 1 1 By BETTY BLAIR f 1 If it be true according to Rostand the F French ench author t at the only liberty life grants us is a choice of then our ur intelligence intelli intelli- gen gence e should at least help us to decide the course of action that S would cause us the least remorse 4 Dear Miss Blair f I am am one i of these strong reliant people who prides herself hersel on maka making mak mak- a- a aIng ing her o own n decisions ions and sticking sticking sticking stick stick- ing by them Often of course my decisions have been wrong but I have made the best of things and nothing has ever been so wrong th that t it has materially affected my wh whole le life Now however one of ot my de decisions de- de has put me in a box I dont don't want to abide by it wholly tf and I haven't the courage to come through and tell the other person peron person per- per son on concerned that my decision may have been wrong that I Inave nave have ve changed my mind This is the case I am a a. re re- re minded girl and abhor smoking I cant can't even stand the smell of it let alone to see someone someone someone some some- one for whom I care smoking There is a a. young man whom I like a great deal more than I have let him It know ow whose worst habit so far as a I know is ing I have known for some months now that his affection for forme forme forme me vIas was more than ordinary Recently Recently Recently Re Re- he proposed to me telling me he loved me more than any g girl l he had ever eyer known He J asked me not to give my answer right at once as he knew I was not prepared for his declaration of love Rushed the Issue Instead of taking him at his word and waiting for my decision decision deci deci- sion Lion I immediately began my argument about never being willing willing willing will will- ing to marry a man who smoked In the face of what he considered y a a great love he thought my objection ob- ob jedion trivial The more he WHAT IS THE BEST AGE TO MARRY IN ORDER THAT THE GREATEST HAPPINESS BE ASSURED Write not more more than words on the foregoing sub sub- The winning letter will receive an award of 3 Write on one side ide of the page page- only Address all all' letters to Betty i Blair Salt Lake Telegram m. m All letters must be postmarked rf not l later ter than Saturday midnight midnight midnight mid mid- night December December- 19 i stressed its tri triviality the more more determined I was that it was was' one of the most important questions that could confront young people about to set the seal on their lives together We Ve got nowhere in our argument argument ment nent and finally I told him my 2 mind was made up up I could n never ever ver marry a man who smoked d Anger Aroused r. r His ire was up by that that time timet t and he said he wouldn't give up smoking for fort any woman that lived He said if the time ever 1 came that he was convinced smoking was a a. bad thing for him 1 he thought he was strong enough that he could give it up but he saw no point in giving it up for forthe forthe the sake of another persons person's con con- I We parted that way both det determined deter deter- r- r mined not to give in an inch I Ilove love him and want to o marry him and though I dont don't like smoking I any better now than I did then Im I'm willing to give in with the provision that he never smokes in inthe t the house or in my my presence How can I go about it to tb reopen the question of his proposal Thank you for a suggestion UNHAPPY J. J f Evidently Evidently you have met your t match in another persons person's ability to tomake tomake make his own decisions and to abide by them I haven't the slightest slightest slightest slight slight- est idea that the concessions you are willing to make will be accepted by your friend If I know men who smoke the habit has been acquired as a solace for jaded nerves Certainly CertaInly Certainly I they arent aren't going to continue the habit under conditions that II I alone would fray their nerves This man would no doubt rather concede the point of giving up smoking altogether altogether altogether alto alto- gether than to promise to to- abide by 1 any such restrictions Each Has Standards I do not intend to go into the thet t problem of whether I think you are right or wrong in your first decision and in your whole attitude Yo Your r training experiences and honest convictions form the backbone of your your future happiness But the same same thing is Ls true of ot your friend I merely suggest that you take an Inventory if possible of your our characterIstics characteristics char char- of all your mannerisms of everything good bad and indifferent indifferent indifferent ferent that you Scan can can possibly write down concerning yourself Be honest hon hon- hony y est esL Then compare the truth of what you know about aboul yourself with the ibe truth of what you know about this man and look closely at the balance balance bal bal- ance sheet Other Happiness Wreckers You may find for example le that thata V 1 a a. certain habit you have say it was wasI I 1 nagging could wreck more homes and happiness than the habit o of smoking has ever done I am no not asking you to give up your ideals I am mere merely asking you to take a human point of view and that you acquire through it a mo more moe e humanizing human zing z- z ing and tolerant attitude toward other people and convictions Such a step may help you two persons perSons persons per per- sons to meet on a common basis If you can do so write and tell him so If not it is better that you continue to togo go your separ separate te ways NOTE YA 1 Kindly se set self-ad- self en L r my cI circular ular I on the o of dry or oily hair WL W- W L t i f |
