Show C WIDOW 27 7 FI FIND ND HAPPI HAPPINESS NESS t IN MATE i s JUNIOR 1 f i r f fi i i i f r. r By BETTY BLAIR BLAIR j Difference in chronological age may mayk be bridged when two people p ople concerned build their future on a program program of intelligence charm harm J. J right philosophy of life Interests on a n similar r mental plane providing the biological rift is not too great are arc of f greater importance importance ta tance ce in in building h happiness tha two be the same age v Dear Miss Blair I have a problem that has been Worrying me a a great deal lately lately- I am ant a a- a widow 27 21 years old and have a daughter 4 I f years year old oid For the I past year I have havo 1 been keeping company com corn pany with a young oung man 21 years old oId 4 In many any ways he j seems seem older than I IJ Ic J c and my friends all alli i tell ten me I l look olt ok as asI I r young lis as he He Is fond of ot It very my q 4 little ittle girl and tells teUs me he Is very much Jn love with me He wants wanti us to marry this spring or early sum- sum pier lUer ner I r h have vea a good job and marrying him would uld mean giving up my job And nd going away with him where work will be waiting for him My y m mother ther thinks I shouldn't be bein in a hurry to marry him That I fn getting along well as things are and being six abc years older than he my y happiness ma may b be I hort lived She thinks any wenan woman woran wo wo- woi i ran nan man Js running g a risk to marry arry a aFan al Fan l an younger than herself 1 I I I am ai m very fond of bf this man man and If Jf f I dont don't marry mary him and he goes way Away I shall sha l be very ery lonely We Ve have been seeing each other al almost aln aln al- al n most n st every evening though we e weare weare eare are both quiet home homo lovers and eldom eIdom go out more than once or twice a week Oh Oh I do wish this question could be decided for me inc c in the right way It would be tragedy for m mt me meto t to vak wake up some sonic morning to the fact that I was years and years older alder than my husband and that he was in love with a younger w woman m J more n nearly arl his own own age Have Has you any suggestions I UNDECIDED W Wouldn't it be grand if it some genii could pick lck Ick us up and thrust us I through the crux of our Inde Indecisions I the Ue light and have everything turn turnout out just right But no sad ad to rel relate t or or perhaps happily to 10 relate we must n t all alI l take that chance for tor weal or for Wo woe But it seems to me you are re going at the matter very very sensibly Much Muchas as you lIke you like the young man you ire are swept off oft your feet teet by an overwhelming emotion You are tre r able abl calmly and with reason to size up the situation It Its Itis is this fact t that leads me to t believe that when the te comes for your decision yo you wm have bave totaled toled up p your debit and credit columns to the point wh re y can decide r e t what l' l you should Long ong Distance Outlook t I 1 in in this as s in most de d de decisions ci we make the attempt to ad ad adjust j just justl long ng distance lenses to our men men- vision to see if possible w What hat at might happen five 10 20 years from now under the t terms of oC a given con con- tract In your case companionship da daughter growing up in a home borne ruI ruled d by by mutual love time for you youat at home to give to her development your own own y youth uth kept kepf- by a a happy philosophy phy of life Ufe and belief In continuous con con- growth a devoted husband are are arguments with a strong pull Th Then n. n too your efforts effort must be offset b by those of a husband whose love is of the caliber that does not stagnate with the years regardless of the chronological age of his wife one who recognizes that interests on the same mental plane ar are arp of so muc much greater value to hold two tog to together together to- to g gether ther than the mere difference Iny in y years ars providing this difference isn't 10 BO so gr great at as to cause an irreparable biological rift nfL Intelligence love kindness a Sense of f humor the ability to shoulder shoulder shoulder der responsibilities on a fifty fifty-fifty basis bails are the tho qualities that hold pe people together If you have these to a a sufficient degree you should hould I not hesitate about making your our decision de de- de- de cill isIon n w when wien en the time comes You Y u must remember too In makIng makIng mak mak- ing your decision that though financial financial finan finan- cial cia security helps greatly it is not the main maln thing to be considered in ina a a. surey of future happiness Soul h hunger nger can be satisfied b by two living g together with their dreams matched by Jy their ambitions ns under the most Bevere ev r circumstances cli That is something mere mere physical comfort o Snot not achieve by itself alone EFFICIENCY Dear Jj D ar Miss Blair Will you please state in your column the qualifications and re requirements re- re nu needed for one oneto t become be cone come an efficient secretary and b bookkeeper per R B. B First of otal all you must haY haye masI mas mae I th the tho mechanics and t technique of your trade Add to that a pleasing pleas pleW ing personality neatness of appearance appearance appear appear- ance anc th the idea that you are working for tor the benefit of at your employer as aswell aswell well as for yourself and you will h have vc wh what t is required to obtain and keep a job LEAP YEAR Dear Miss Blair I asked a a boy to go to a leap year dan dance e with me last Saturday night He had taken me out ut two or three times and I thought he would be pleased to go When I asked him he said he would go and he seemed glad about It But the evening of the dance he called me inc ab about ut 6 o'clock and said he wanted to break his date I was so furious with him I cant can't r remember all I said but it was wa plenty I told him he could at least have called me in time to get another date as we were goIng going go- go go go- ing lag with another girl and her fel fel- fel- fel low Well anyway my girl friend got me a ab blind date and we went to the d dance nee When the dance was was' about half out this fellow who had brok broken n his date with me came in with another girl He was WW certainly certainly surprised to see me th there r and danced quite close clos to me to try to get a chance to speak but I wouldn't even look at him My blind date was a sw swell look looking ing boy who treated m me grand Shall I try to forgive the b boy y who broke his date or not He has talked to tomy my girl friend and told her he was vas more sorry than ho he could tell for what he had done and that he liked me so much better better better bet bet- ter ter than the other girl there was no comparison I am still very angry with him so please tell me inc what to d do BINNIE Well of ot course everybody has to toIve live Ive and learn Some people however however how how- how I ever have hav very fine tine instincts instincts' that 1 keep them from doing the selfish I and crude things that hurt people and that keep them from losing caste with their friends Other people peo peo- pie have to learn through the the tri trial l land and error method the simple rudiments rudi rudl- ments mente of go good d b behavior But until this young young man seeks seek you out and makes some kind of statement as to why he did what he ho did and what his present state of mind is is' is' is isn in n ne the e matter I should pay no attention wh whatever t to what he may say ay to your friend The boy vho filled In in at f the last minute ute te and who treated Created you swell seems for forthe forthe the he present to offer the b st st. promise prom prom- iso ise se Z l for r friendship and a go good d time A AVIATION N ENTHUSIAST Kindly di direct a a- ett rt to J gram Tribune Information Jur Bureau au Frederic Frederic Fred eric J J. 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