Show MALICIOUS JEALOUSY i IS CAUSE OF FRIEND r I GIVING STAB IN DARK S i t B By BETTY BLAIR L Id Id I'd rather like people trust them and be tricked over and andI oer again gain than grow into a suspicious grouch always watching watchIng watch watch- Ii I ing everyone and looking for some kind of a tr trick ck says a 1 L noted writer And who wouldn't j Dear Miss Blair 1 i For For a long Iong time Ume I have been 1 rc realizing that a girl who pretends p. p Very cry much to be my friend Is neatly stabbing me meIn j I Is I In the back every 11 II I n time she he gets a aI I chance I have felt t I i e the tho results o of the in attitude atti f II I stabbing the i i tude of ot those to toS S whom she Ehe talks but S the act has been j done such S I sleight of hand movement movement move move- ment I couldn't tell tellI I I g who was the perpetrator i till I until recently I j eyes Cres were opened I We are both 20 years old have about background and are both in college The same boys frequently fret fre fre- freI I t I go with both of us Other j friends have told me she was terribly ter- ter S t tribly jealous especially when one c certain boy whom I happen not to like any bett bettor r than the others 4 makes a date with me I haven't I t noti noticed d this jealousy in irs her attitude S r 1 Letters questions and requests for advice t should be addressed to 0 MISS 1155 BETTY BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S lEAVEN HAVEN VEN TilE THE TELEGRAM SALT LAKE CITY Write legibly upon only ono side of the tho paper It Is la necessary ry that hat yon you append the right name and address addre but these will be held In strict confidence d dence nce and will not appear in print Questions Involving advertising information in In- formation cannot be answered J until recently and the way she shows it is by being nastily nice niceto to me me me-If If you ou know what I mean Recently one of the boys h had d the courage to face me with certain charges It had been told him I had made the remark that he had been drinking on one occasion when he was full of fun iun and vivacious viva ClOths cious more so than his usual manner manner man man- ner ncr would l lead ad me to except of oC him I 1 had such a good time with him on on this one occasion and was wasso wast so t pl pleased a to sec e him come come out ut o of his Jus shell that I merely made the thc remark to this girl I wonder if he had a cocktail before dinner I She took occasion to tell him I thought his actions were ridiculous and that he was so drunk he couldn't behave I finally wormed it out of him who had said this Now I p know now she has been distorting other things I have said to her concerning other people And I know just how she do does it in the sweetest most sugary way She has said things to me about other people in just jUt that w way y She just gives a little sugar coated pill that leaves a vile taste tast of bitterness afterward Well what wh Is one to do Shall I Ilet Ilet Ilet let her know I am wise to her ways or shall I just try to keep one jump ahead of her NEED HELP I cant can't see how any good at all ll will willbe L be accomplished by letting the girl know you ou have found her out And if you if-you you mean by keeping just one jump ahead of ot her that you guard your own tongue more carefully that thatis S Sis is by far lar the better way o of the two S An thing you jou oU might say to the girl would only incite her into the act of ot defending herself both to herself and and- to lo others The p person ron who stain stabs you ou in the back is always clever enough to make it appear that she is after all the innocent victim and to rally all the crowd around her in sympathetic endeavor to make her feel they will make up to her the grief the other has las caused Furthermore she will use it to turn your friends m more re than ever against you The Ethiopian doesn't change his skin nor the leopard his spots But you ou can watch your tongue and hav hay ing ng been warned can keep your our own counsel If It it Is any consolation to you to know it it is the Ethiopians Ethiopian's skin kin and the le leopards leopard's pard's spots that finally finaly final final- ly y betray him into the hands of ot his enem enemy You dont don't need to meddle in inthe inthe the he faults of ot other people at all They lay ay their own traps and fall tall into them We are betrayed by what is false within And that goes for all of us RECALLING INVITATION Dear Miss Blair I My daughters daughter's marriage will not take place Invitations have been issued sued Please tell me how they are to be recalled Many thanks MRS is M. M Write or have printed the forms recalling the invitations They should read in the third person as follows Mr and Mrs M M- M announce that the marriage of their daughter Anna Louise to Mr James Townley will not take place Recalled invitations are not engraved engraved en en- graved as there is not time Ume for this SIMILAR CASE Dear 1 Miss S Blair As I was looking through some late papers I had received I happened happened happened hap hap- to read Hearts Haven dated April Apr l 23 The letter written b by the young man of 25 who signed himself Dispirited especially Interested Interested In In- me I am sorry I didn't see it before as I would have liked to give my opinion on it sooner I Y dont don't want to lo be too hard on this young man but it seems to me mc that anyone who thinks himself and I family so grand should be able to see a few good points in his wife He didn't seem to think it possible that he might have a few faults bulls himself I b believe lieve that self praise is no recommend ralso think that if it his wife wiCe knew his true feelings toward her she would have nothing more to do with him He is anything any thing but a man or he would not talk so disrespectfully about his wife wire and feel so sorry for tor himself I know of ot a very similar to this of ot His wife has the sweetest nicest disposition I have ever met Everyone who knows her thinks the same Of the people who know them both there are more who would take her side than his She has a quiet disposition tion but she is far tar from being dumb and although she he is tall and built she is also far tar from being homely She has alwa always s 's had the name of pt being neat and well dressed and she is from a well respected family His sisters and mother live here instead of in NewYork New NewYork NewYork York and it Is they who introduced the girl to hm him and influenced them to get married If his wife wile isn't quite as good a housekeeper as ns she might be it is because he hasn't a job and perhaps perhaps perhaps per per- haps she doesn't have the necessities that are are essential i if one is to k keep p house well He leaves leave his wife home alone tHone the biggest part of the time so I surely dont don't blame herfor her herfor for tor spending spendin all her spare time with her mother I imagine the wile wife of Dispirited is just as tired o of the whole business as he is She couldn't possibly have any love for lor him after aler his failure to give her the affection any wife should expect It Is my advice to Dispirited to pull out before he causes his wife any more unhappiness ne ness and m misery ry and before she is too sorry they ever met ONE WHO KNOWS Though there is a similarity in the thc I case concern concerning in which you ou know the facts to lo that o of Dispirited yet readers readers read rend ers who remember his letter will find great points of ot dissimilarity It Il is the dissimilar points that turn the issue of ot the case ease in his favor lavor Th The failure of ot the wife to keep her promises her failure to live up to her duties as a homemaker are arc serious charges There are of ot course two sides to every story and one must be careful about imputing actions action that are merely merely mere mere- ly h hearsay and the ret retelling of which may le lead d one into trouble It is much safer to argue about bout the principle of anything than to indulge in person person- es KITTENS FOR FOE GIFTS Three lo el lovely gray fray Persians for house heuse pets ma may be h hid had d as al gifts to anyone offering rood good homes home Telephone Telephone Tele Tele- phone Hyland I M I South Twelfth East street Three week 6 old very pretty prett kittens may be bad badat badat at Sixth East street S |