| Show Come to- to H AVEN With lt Betty Blair Attain Affairs of the hurt heart and kindred problems problem ONLY will b be discussed In tilts this department Letters questions question and nd for tor advice should bould be addressed to MISS BETTY BETrY BLAm HEARTS HEART'S RAVEN HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one tide of the paper It 1 U 11 necessary that you rou append the right name and end address but these thell will wm b bo be held In strict confidence and ana will by no means mens appear in print Letters requiring personal reply must b be accompanied by ed addressed sell tamped stamped ed envelopes Ed Dear Miss 1 Blair I am a modern girl 23 3 years old and am nm to tobe be married soon My 1 bus hus- be sand wants a wedding with al althe all the old fashioned trimmings I think It U Is in rather silly I tell him I don doneven ont even want a wedding ring It IS u an anold anold anold old symbol of the band of servitude and why be so foolish as as' as to use the symbol when you dont don't In Intend nd t to be bethe bethe bethe the kind of servile creature for whom It was U used In the beginning My fiance thinks the ring ceremony cere care mony very ery lovely and that It doesn't doesn mean nean servitude but bat companionship In n marriage wm vill ill you please tell ell me mc something about the real tradition back of the use of the wedding ring Do you think I would b be right In giving In Ino Into into to o my any fiances fiance's wishes in regard to the he use ase of the ring and nd a a. church h ceremony ceremony ceremony cere cere- mony merely as a. a matter of form ANGEL You couldn't be much of ot an angel aneel and break so old a ceremony as that tha of w wearing aring the wedding ring when your fiance is so much in favor of ot it even though the tradition on which it t is based is barbaric You need not think think think-of of this ancient tradition Think as your husband does of its evolutionary form You were once once a cave woman at least your forbears were but you are areno no longer longer so any more than the modern wedding ring is b the rope that tied he the bride in recognition of ot the fact that hat she was to be owned as chattels forever brever In fact fac today in order to have ha a modern wedding you must have an anold anold old fashioned fa one Most of ot the customs customs cus- cus toms oms of ot this modern wedding started so o long ago they are as firmly established fished as the constitution of ot the United States c The Thew wedding ring originated when there wasn't a a Jewelry shop in exist ence Men decided that when they chose the maidens whom they wanted they wanted I there should be some way to impress upon the feminine minds that they belonged They started to weave cords which they bound around the girls' girls waist according to tradition Both the girl and the man believed that the girls girl's spirit entered into the theman's theman's theman's mans man's body when the knot was was tied And the knot stayed tied The word divorce was as unknown as aviator or radio After while the cord was replaced by anklets am and wristlets And from that th the ring developed The ancient people believed that tha the third finger of ot the left hand connected con con- with the heart so when the ring evolved it was placed on the third finger After all don dont don't t you think not to conform to the ancient and pretty tradition would in your your case care be to express a fear of it TO INTRODUCE STEPFATHER Dear Miss Blair A few months ago aro my mr mother re re- re- re married I am 16 years old and like my stepfather ther very much but I have felt embarrassed when hen Introducing him to my friends over the point o of what I should call caU him I hate bate to say Mary l this is my stepfather Do you ou think It would be all nfl right for forme forme fori me to Introduce him him as my father My own father I is not dead but I do dolot donot donot not lot SALLY see him any more By what name do you call your stepfather at home Perhaps you ou have not developed any easy method of addressing him yet either cither as father lather or Mr Brown or by his first name What do you think would please him in the in-the the matter Have you consulted con con- suited your mother as aI to a probable choice of ot what you should call caIl him Has Hu he ever introduced you as as daugh daughter r One should really know the answers to these problems before giving a definite opinion I think myself however that the word step father tather is objectionable If there isa isa is isa a warm friendly feeling between you it seems to me rae he would like to have lave you call him father provided of ot course that the doing so does not nol violate any feeling you may have concerning your real father I PACKS FOR EYES Dear Miss lIlls Blair The sunlight hurts ham my eyes a great greal deaL Also my work tires them I. I Is Ii there an eye pack I could use at home borne to rest them when I am home from froni work and before I go 10 out ont in the evening eve eve- ning Many thanks LILA LDLA There are literally hundreds of eye packs you can use If you are in a lurry and want to rest your eyes saturate saturate sat some ome little pieces piece of ot cotton Inthe inthe in inthe the hottest water you can stand lie down and plaster them over your eyes Saturate them several times Then at at about the third heating beating try tryo to o catch a cat nap Your eyes will feel immeasurably better Remember it I is the heat which helps your eyes quite as u much as any medicinal quality certain packs pack con con- tain n. n Any reliable beautician sells eUs eye packs jacks Or you can make your own Crushed rose leaves one part and camomile tea two parts make a nice pack jack for home use lUe Make little tiny bags of ot cheesecloth double thickness Cut them like eye spectacles with the he eye parts the bags bag Sew them up by hand When you want to use one of ot these merely dip it into very hot water and apply immediately and li He lie down with it t over over- the thc eyes Do not this unless you feel that the heat is doing dolne quite as much good as the herbs Lavender and camomile tea make a nice eye pack too There are many herbs herbs' you can use Their drawing qualities relax the ey eyes wonderfully But remember when your eyes |
