| Show Come to- to toITA TT ITA AVEN VEN H EAR R T S HA ii 1 With Wit Betty Blair Affair 0 ot the heart and kindred problems problem ONLY Till be discussed In th this department Letters questions and requests ls for advice b ba addressed to MISS BETTY BETTi BLAIR HEARTS HEART'S HAVEN SALT LAKE Write legibly upon only one side of the paper It Is 15 necessary that you append the right name end and address addres but these will be held In strict confidence 1 ld will trill by no means appear In print Letters Lettera requiring personal CL 1 must be accompanied by stamped self addressed envelopes Ed SEEKING FAVOR-SEEKING BOYS DOYS Dear Mlis lIu Blair I am a young man 24 years of ae aye ae I h he e gone out with IrIs since I was 16 have hac enjoyed their company and lave have always been sorry that I didn't have ve more money to spend to show them the kind of times that their Intelligence In In- teUl and wit and good lood humor and endeavor to please deserved I have heard a rood good many boys talk after accompanying girls to or or movies and have been very much disgusted dis db gusted rusted with t their point of view Most of ve had an attitude toward girls and whet hit they expected d by byway way of at necking for the cheap entertainment entertain entertain- meat ment they provided that 1 made mad m ras doubt that they hid had any ny ideals ls at all of womanhood In comparison with wiLlI the few girls who openly sought a good rood time at m my expense I would like Uke to say that these favor seeking boys are re legion Now which Is worse a girl who naturally wants a good rood time that may cost a dollar or two or ar the bo boy who expects her to pay for tor It In En any other way ay than by the fine companionship she offers him hint I have found a few boys who be be- just as I do that nothing is too o ofine fine no entertainment too expensive lv for th the sweet lovely creatures who have deigned to accept our InHa People art are gotor to jet get et what they look for in this thi world and If IC boys bos find in the girls they meet only the selfish gold digging type I pity them for I think it Is their own selfishness that thit makes them see this in others Thank you Miss Blair for letting me have hue my say HAL URAIL The girls will appreciate the stand you take for them Hal Which of them can now be bc less than the ideal you have painted There Is nothing like having faith in human beings tomake to tomake tomake make them want to live up to the ideal expected of them But aut ut suspect t them of smallness and treachery and disloyalty and something i in 1 the human human hUeman hu hUe man nature will r respond spond to the sus sus- Fineness can be marred by mistrust There is a certain stamped look that comes into the face of the man manor manor manor or woman whose chief possession is money and whose chief ambition is the amassing of money It is in the faces laces of young oung people who start out with the idea that it itt t takes kes money alone to have a good time It wipes out the spiritual quality of a face Right now is a good time to make the most mosto of an opportunity to show your own ingenuity in and originality in making happy Um times Stay by your ideal Hal HaI but remember remember remember re re- re- re member to be tolerant of ot human frailties frail l. l ties when you OU find them as well as appreciative 0 of high values v LIM LIMITATIONS T TI NS Dear Bear Miss Blair Will you yoa please li help lp me me m rn my problem as as' as you have helped so 50 many others I hope you will I am 15 years of age se and am not allowed allowed al al- lowed to associate with bo boys bos s at all Mother allows me to go ro places pIned where only girls are present If I even een speak to a b boy bay y in the friendliest manner man man- nero ncr she immediately calls me into the house and reproves me rue I have tried to have a talk blk with her about this matter but she refuses refuses' to hear anything from me about bo bos s. s I X am always dressed up to date and could be popular if my y parents would allow me to th go ro If out m with boys bos My Iy girl friends are always telling me of the parties they have hare attended or the hikes on which they had so JO much fun and I certainly feel fcc left out The crowd around our place always goes roes goeson goeson on swimming shimming parties partin attend dances and movies modeS Row flow c. c can n I obtain this d desired freedom free dom Thank you rou a th thousand times BEE It is 15 our belief based on study experience experience ex cx- and observation that parent parents par parents ent make a great mistake in not permitting per their daughters of all ages to have normal happy wholesome association association as as- with boys bos of their own age It is true that parents rightfully want to know something o of the homes the thc background and training that the boys have who associate in pIa play and work with their daughters But given the right training at horne home daughters are apt to choose those friends whose tastes and training lie in inthe the same direction as their own Parents cannot choose the boys whom their daughters will know in inthe inthe inthe the classroom and yet ct they have no fear of sending them to schooL Girls use their own intelligence in selecting their school friends why should this use b ba denied them out of school This side sida o of their intelligence is utter ly dwarfed it they are not permitted to io use it H. It Itis is like tying an arm up in a n sling sUng over a period of years and expecting r the muscles and sinews sinews' to tobe tobe tobe be in condition to operate when the time arrives for skill to be Displayed There is little dross or evil in the minds of boys and girls who have had the proper home environment There ma may may be much In the minds of their elders whose experience and observation observation tion lion have ta taught them that evil does exist Yet in their great at concern for their children they may impose upon them limitations that may rob them of their ability to choose wisely in the exi exigencies o cf of life We do donot not expect that parents will willbe willbe willbe be willing to allow boys and girls of 15 to keep steady compan company with each other We do expect that their own intelligence will wilt make them see seethe seethe seethe the necessity of normal companionship companion companion- ship between boys and girls Modern psychologists recommend such association Use the Readers Reader's Guide in the public library Bee to find magazine articles dealing with your problem and bring these to your mothers mother's attention Inquire at the libraries lor the following following fol fol- lowing books which it would be well for tor every parent to read Living With Our Children b by L. L E. E M. M Gilbreth Gilbreth Gil- Gil breth Dreth Relationship by jy Gertrude Laws The Child His Nature and arid His Needs by OShea and others Parenthood and the N Newer New New- w. w er Psychology by F. F H. H Richardson Adolescence b by F F. F H. H Richardson lems ems by R. R W. W Pf Pringle S MEASUREMENTS Dear Miss Blair Will you ou please give rive me the correct measurements for a girl 19 years old who weighs pounds and is 5 feet 2 Inches in height Thank you TA PAL TAL Girls and women between the a ages es of 18 and 35 who vho are 5 feet 2 inches tall taU should hate have the following measurements meas Neck 12 2 1 chest 32 bust 34 waist 26 abdomen 32 2 hips 34 calf calC 12 ankle 8 2 1 upper arm 10 lower arm 9 chin from ear to ear ear 81 Naturally a 11 woman woman who is 15 more than 18 can can weigh more and her measurements measurements meas meas- will natu naturally Uy increase with her weight but the foregoing are standard for women between 18 and 35 who keep to normal weight KITTENS At South First West Vest there are three little kittens 2 months old looking look look- In lug ing for a change in homes Only those who can make a good rood home for them are are Invited to call caU |
