Show 4 V COME IE TO TO V V. V S HEARTS HEART'S S S. S HA VEN YEN S S V. V With BETTY BElT BLAIR V. V A 0 ot the heart burt d kindred problems ONLY will wUl b be beV V In this thia department V V Letters fatten and request requests Tor br advice should to be addressed to tor r MISS BETT BETrY BLAIR BreAm HEARTS S HAVEN TELEGRAM SALT LAKE LAK V Write Writh legibly upon onh only one side Bide ot of the paper V V It Is necessary that you append the right name name- anti and address but V VV V theta theu will b bo bit held In strict let confidence ana anet will by no meni appear V In print Ed FALSE IDEA mEA OF VALUES V Dear Miss Mis Blair I am sure lure you have hav never had 3 problem Jos I like this before an and V when it comes cornu right down to It I really real real- ly Jy feel ashamed to think tills kind kin of ot problem troubles nb me so greatly et sometimes I think I am really a at the end of ot the row I was left leU a widow three years a ago aro o with two sma small children and a a. mother to support 1 Jt It V has been just nl all I IV could do to work ork and nd make ends meet Yet in add add add- lion tion on to the irony rorry 0 of having to make mak the Urine living I have my mothers mother's dis disposition dis- dis position to contend with I know that after afur a D. certain are age old people get crabby and hard to livo Uva with I could endure this if only my mother would consider that sh she might take a little of the responsibility respond billly off oft my hands Although she l lit b in good health and has a D. marvelous marvel marvel- Gus ous appetite she positively refuses to do a a. single stogIe thing to help me She is bodied able-bodied and could do many little things about the house and for lor the children if It she only would Her e ex- ex cuse cose is that she has 5 had lead her day rearing her own family that I owe it U to her now to give her a ft good home and anda a living that she really deserves better than sho she is getting and that she Me is not going to be bothered any more more by by having to work She is crabby with the children and makes their lives so miserable that she is ruining their dispositions It is Dont do this and Dont Don't do that fr from m morning mornIng- until night And And no now oW that they are in school she wont won't even set their lunch on the table for them The They have to come home and nd scramble for tor something to eat eai and even help get hers What am I 1 to do I 1 have talked to her and tried to reason rean kindly with ith her but she calls me down every time me I mention her doing anything like washing up the breakfast dishes or dusting She doesn't even keep hers herself lf clean dean She wont won't even change into a a clean dress unless I make her do It It I have told her th that t I r couldn't keep this up that I lowed owed nt at least a happy peaceful home to my children and that if she didn't change her lice ways I would have to apply to the county to take her and keep her She flew into a terrible rage rare when I said th this The strange thing thing- about it IL Is 15 that she never used to be like this I really reaDy feel teel that I 1 cant can't go on in this way a any longer I have done the best I could by her and yet it would hurt my pride terribly to have to let Jet the county care for tor her Will you please advise me nit Thanking you yon WORRIED You do not tell teU me your mothers mother's age yet your description of at her disposition dis dis- dis position indicates that she is declinIng declinIng ing rapidly Into senile dementia This is a breakdown not only of at physical but bu of mental tissues as welL Under these conditions it Jt is not possible for tor your mother to mend her ways And in your financial condition it is a false pride that keeps you from allowIng allow allow- ing lag the county to care for her There she will be given cn the tile care that it Is impossible Impassible for you to give her Her condition will go from bad to worse and trained care will wID be necessary for her It is also true that your children should be separated from the menace of or your mothers mother's diseased mentality and disposition It is an V entirely false sense of values and anda a false idea of at the duty you owe your mother at atthe atthe atthe the expense of ot your young impressionable sion blo children that induces you to keep her with you Your children are being robbed of everything that makes childhood happy and you are being harassed to death because atour of at your our sentiment Naturally you ou want to do all you youcan youcan youcan can for thc he mother who bore boro you ou and reared you with such tender care but it Is no longer possible for you to give your our mother the attention she needs It would be much better for you tolay to tolay lay pay the cost of ot her keep to an In Institution Institution In- In that wot would d understand her condition and give her the attention so much needed now and In Inthe the fu fu- fu ture It Is not heartless for you to take this this' step as your decision to do doso doso doso so will vill really show that you are able to le let reason win over sentimentality th the tho latter of at which In this thit case Is harmful to all aU concerned Talk the matter matt over with the health and surety department city and county building WANTS SIGNS OF LOVE Dear Miss Dear Blair I am In love with a girl who works j iii hi the same office in which I work Bl Bet t she hardly ever looks at me or speaks peaks to me inc I have h had d only one date cito with her and that was at a a. party given riven to the office omu But even at the party she he would dance with me only V twice I dont don't see how it is fa possible for me to be so crul crazy craty about her if It she Is U not In love with me at all What are the signs of ot love Do you yoa think she loves me mel but Is b just Jost too bashful to let Jet me know about it or rive give me mc the slightest slight slight- est clue cine It thrills me even to p pass by her desk or catch her eye When one gets ets that kind of or thrill doesn't the other feel it too Gosh she's hea the first girl Ive I've ever loved like this and its it's getting my goat Ill I'll appreciate appreciate elate any advice you yon give IT GOT V Response to tOV the t l love ve stimulus op operates operates op- op crates differently in different people I If people are oversensitive and shy hy hyos as s a usual thing they will wUl stay clear of at the beloved though they hate themselves for tor doing so 50 when their whole d desire ire Is to be near him and shower affection on him But It Got what are you dO doing f to 10 let et your dame flame know how madly in love you are with her other than to gaze and thrill It is not al always always always al- al ways true that thrills form a n duet Some of or them are solo performers and one thrill doesn't necessarily Incite in incite In- In cite another Have you asked for tor butone but butone butone one date e Haven't you sent her flowers flowers flow now ers or candy and called her on the telephone Haven't Ha you ever walked boldly up to her desk and chatted with her her or or 1 if this isn't permitted during business hours waited hours waited for her her nose put on her things and come into the hall hail haUt and there asked to take her to the best Dest cst show how in town Of ot course U if 11 she wont won't go any pla place e. e with you after youve you've asked her seven times she probably doesn't respond at all aU to the pressure you had hai hoped your thrills would exert and you'd better look around for tor another girL girL'S V I S 'S BEAUTY TYPE Dear Miss Blair BIaIr Will you ou please eten ten me mc what beauty type ype I am I have brown eyes black back blackhair hair and a fair lair complexion Thank you ou NELLIE You are the Mary Brian Bilan type of beauty Browns reds dark blues olive live and Persian Penlan greens pastel paMel shades hades for evening will all tend to light high-light your our type Raspberry rouge ouge medium lipstick and natural should be used wed ETIQUETTE OF INVITATIONS Dear Miss 1 Blair Will wilt you tell feU me whether the bride or bridegroom stands the cost of ot the thc w wedding invitations Thank you OLE The cost of the invitations is Included included In- In among the other items of ot expense ex- ex pense ense in the list belonging to the bride ride or her family |